Do you have family members that are better avoided?

hi I must admit I have one person in my life that I avoid! It is a friend I used to work with and her nickname was mona as she was always moaning. She has not grown out of it either. Otherwise she is lovely. We live away and I love getting letters from her but phone calls oh no no no. No I think that you are right to avoid your Mum but I do hope that although you steer clear of her there are other ways to just keep in contact. Have you thought of writing to her and maybe asking her if she has worked out why you and your siblings dont have anything to do with her? She may not realise why. By letter if it gets too much you just bin it x

I try to stay away from some of my cousins. Cause they can be a pain sometimes. They talk alot and they just can't stop talking about their lives, their success, this and that, all the taking just makes my head ache and I can't really tell them to shut up because, well, I don't want to have a fight or anything. Hehehehe. Other than my cousins, I don't think I avoid any other family members.

I have a friend whose mom hates her a lot for an unknown reason. Their family is composed of 4 children. She is the second. Her mother loves the other sibling except her. Among all her brothers, she is the one who finished college and turn to be a teacher. Now she is working in her hometown but everytime payday comes, her mother would ask her to pay for her lodging and food though she is living in her house and with the family. During Christmas, she is not included in the gift giving and her mom would say " why would i give you gift? you have your salary already" Sometimes, she would answer that it is better if she just not went to school so that she will not become a pro and she would receive a gift from her mom. This friend of mine always shed tears because of it. I would comfort her sometimes that no matter what she do i know deep inside even a certain amount of love should be there.

Hi pandaeyes, 21 years is a long time. A mother, no matter how bad, is still a mother. It is the duty of the children to see that she is taken care of. Your bother's and sister's condition might be products of her being an unfit mother but the fact remains that you are family. Time heals all things and seasons change. Keep the past behind. Life is short. Before you know it, your mother might be gone. Tell her your heartaches. Every day is a blessing. Your mother might have realized the person she was in one of those days. See for your self now. If she is still manipulative, it is not your fault anymore.

i want to avoid to see the member of my family i think that it is my mother and my father.although they is my parents,but i find that cool mother and talkactive father make me uncomfortable.i hope that they care me more and not say not worth words for me.although i have grow up.but i find that family effect my life and lost bravy for my life.i only talk to myself:it is only joke for me to live this family.if i have chance,i would like to live in normal family and make me happy.

I do admit that I am avoiding contact with my niece and some family members. My niece stole some jewelries my aunt and I owned to support her lifestyle and habits. Her father is an insensitive bloke who passed on his responsibilities to his wife and threatens her to separate from her. For me, this acts were beyond me and my understanding. While it true that you have to support your kind - there are certain things you cannot tolerate and condone. I may not be a perfect member of my clan, but nevertheless not worse than the two I've mentioned here. I am not too happy about it and in as much as I can do, will not in any way make contact with them anymore.

I can understand completely what you are saying hun. My own mother treated me very badly over the years and now I don't contact her very much at all. To be honest, I very much doubt I could put up with her ways anymore now, every time I see her or speak to her I find myself feeling denegrated and made to feel totally inadequate and useless. I have low self esteem anyway, caused by her behaviour, so why should I put myself through any more of it. I would say stay clear.

pandaeyes its so easy to blame mom and dad for everthing that goes wrong in our lives, but face it once we are adult and out on our own, we must fess up to our own mistakes, mom did not make them or dad, you did. I don't think I could ever have gone without seeing my mom. sure she had her faults, but when I became an adult I had to see that no she was not to blame for things I did, even if she may have influenced me in earlier years, once you leave home, you have to accept the faults as your own. I know there may be some moms that are moms from hell, but even then I do not think I could really sever all ties, I have done that with my younger sister as she caused horrible problems every time she came closer to my husband and me, and have not spoken or seen her since. I guess she is a toxic person, but my mom? I dont know guess she was too good a mom for me to see her in any but a good light. I think perhaps like my toxic sister you have a mom that causes horrible problems in your family whenever she comes close. this is so sad too.so I guess you have to avoid her at all costs like I do with my streetwalker sister, cannot put the other word in here as mylot won't let me, b ut my sister started beeing a street walker and that did it for my family.

There is only one person in our family that I know that we need to avoid. That family member is my husband's grandmother. The last time that we've seen her was in November at Thanksgiving. Since then she has sent home gifts for my children for Christmas, but we have not been to her house. The reason for this is that every time that we or my mother-in-law talks to her there is always some sort of drama going on with her.

I lived with my all family members so everyone..have with me.. and whenever i wana talk with someone then i can.. and always i share my all problems with them... and i get a solution.. have a nice day and keep mylotting always..

Nope. I'm fortunate of having a happy and peaceful family. I did not say that your wrong what u did but maybe you should try to find ways to have in common or to meet in between through open communications because shes your mother. We can replaced friends but mother we can't. There's also many counseling groups as of now where u can solicit opinions or ideas that can help your problem. To avoid friends for me is tolerable but for immediate family members sounds awful.