Do I go to this girls birthday party who I really like?

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Alright this is a pretty long story but I have been working with this girl for about 5 months now. I am 18 am she is 17, after the first few months we had been talking and having fun at work and had a suspision that she liked me. So one day her and another guy were talking and she mentioned stuff to him about how she broke up with her boyfriend that she had been with for almost a year previously because he treated her bad. Then one day sure enough we exchanged numbers and i was invited to go to a halloween party at her house. Now the first thing that came into my head was that it was prolly a rebound situation that i should have stayed away for a while and then proceeded with things if she didnt want to get back with him. But she is soo beautiful and funny that i couldnt resist. Now let me say that I am kind of a shy guy but i have a good sense of humor and good intentions and she is the first girl i have really ever been close with, you know besides talking to girls at school. So I go to the party and it was ok I had a fun time and before I left I gave her a hug and said thanks for having me and I had a good time. Thats kind of beside the subject though so I will move on. So we start hanging out more on the weekend just me, her, her friend and her friends boyfriend so a double date kind of thing and every time we would be out together or just snuggling watching a movie she would be getting texts and messages non stop from her ex who is in the coast gaurd and is based in California (we live in MI). I noticed this and not being jelous or anthing just asked her what it was about and if she was truly over him cause if not we r both wasting our time, I didnt say the wasting our time part out loud cause that would be rude. She said yes she was over him and she is tired of getting treated like crap by him. But every message she got from him she would respond back and whenever i saw that a was just amazed at how she could do that right in front of me no problem and seeing this really took me out of the mood when i was around her cuz all this horrible stuff that i shouldnt have to worry about was running through my head. So i let her know that i feel really disrespected and told her all the things about how i felt above. She said she was sorry and that it wouldnt happen anymore and sure enough it was going on again and right in front of me! This made me pissed but I didnt want to just abruptly leave because of this because I would look childish or jelous and I didnt want to stay because she basically lied to my face and didnt really seem to care what i thought. So I then broke it off with her and she got back together with her ex shortly after big suprise, yea I know. Her response was that she had a history with him and she still wants to be with him and is sorry things didnt work out. Now here is where it all changes. He came back home for a little while before heading back to California where he is now and since then she and I have been just friends still talking and all that stuff. Lately she has been asking me for advice on what she should do about him because she sends him gifts and stuff like that for valentines day and tries to talk with him but he only communicates with her about once a week at best. She mentions that he hangs out with other girls and she asks me wether or not she should stay with him. I told her that i dont really no him and dont want to say anything that may or may not break them up, just trying to be respectful about her situation cuz we r friends and all. But she then said no i really want u to tell me what to do because he is back to his old ways again and all i told her is that she deserves better than that and if he cant see that then he is crazy and u deserve to be with someone who will treat u right. So she thanks me for the advice and tells me what a great guy I am and that I am gonna make some girl really happy one day and she was sorry she couldnt see that when she was with me. So i let her know that it was fine and that maybe our timing was just a little off and then she mentions that if things keep going the way they r with him that she would like to start over with me if i was willing to. I told her that if he breaks it off with him maybe she should just spend some time being single for a while (basically so it wouldnt be a repeat situation of me being a rebound). So that conversation was about 2 days ago, now tomorrow is her birthday and she mentoned she is having a party and said that i should come. Now keep in mind she is still with this guy and I am still just her friend as far as i know. Now this is my thought process, I am thinking of an excuse not to go cuz if I do go do I act live her friend and just go there to have fun or do I go there to have fun and try to get close to her. I feel like she is just using me cuz she is lonely cuz her boyfriend is in california and isnt treating her that well and just needs a guy to be there for her but once he comes back into the picture i get tossed aside again. I deserve better than this and she deserves someone like me who will treat her how she should b treated. So do I go to this party try to rekindle things with her, be patient and just let it all play out, what do I do? In a way im not really worried because in my mind I will get another chance with her its just a matter of time.