Is it easy for you to fall in love with some other else?
By laydee
@laydee (12798)
Philippines
February 20, 2010 6:57am CST
I know I'm just being paranoid, but what if my paranoia is right?
Hmmm... I'd like to ask you guys and girls out there. Let's just say you're in a relationship. All is well but you don't get to see each other often because you were assigned in another country.
Given the circumstance, there are 'temptations' hmmm.. do you easily fall for them or is it easy for you to fall in love with someone else?
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14 responses
@syaryel (155)
• Malaysia
20 Feb 10
Honestly, I find myself hard to fall in love..so my answer is 'NO'...regardless on the magnitude of the 'temptation' level so to speak...I love being in a relationship and I will be faithful to my girl :)
(I think it's rare for a girl to stay in a long distance relationship--I really do)
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@pupupd (1515)
• India
21 Feb 10
why do you think girls cant stay in a long distance relation? If they don't then it is all because of lack of attention from other side. Their bf give too much importance to other things, they forget to call back, they forget to keep any kind of contact, they get so engrossed in their own world that they forget there is someone waiting to talk to them and wants their attention. Thus the gal finds someone else to talk to, you know girls love to talk and share their feelings and the only person who she thought loved her has stopped calling back and responding to smses. She finally gets involved with a new guy who is near her and gradually falls in love.
@syaryel (155)
• Malaysia
21 Feb 10
hi Pupupd,
you have a good point there, but know this..regardless of our gender we are bound to other responsibilities such as our family, friends and even our carrier...
if he's a good man, he certainly find his way to juggle things up..and yes in this world its impossible to please everybody..what I'm trying to say is, girl tend to make conclusion that "the new dude loves me more because he spend more time and attention towards me"...which is totally bogus..hey, things happen and when that particular moment happens (lack of attention due to other important things)it shouldn't be made excuse to our infidelity...
-peace, and happy my lotting'-
@artee13 (125)
• Philippines
20 Feb 10
I am the kind of man who is easily tempted and persuaded but if I really love the girl then no matter what happens I won't give in to temptations.
That kind of situations is the best way to test someone's faithfulness and trust to his/her lover and if they were able to get through it then I think that whatever comes in their way they can face it together.
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@rorisricha (732)
• India
22 Feb 10
Sorry, little confused about your question to answer..
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@Katie2009 (144)
• China
21 Feb 10
I'm glad that I have not been tempted yet for my love is in a different country right now for almost two months. From my perspective,I don't think it easy for me to fall in love with someone else when I am still in a relationship,as my partner to me seems all perfect and even becomes model for others(sorry to be a little extreme). He would contact me once in a while with both of us busy studying and working,and our relationship feels stronger than before for some reason. Strange,isn't it?
At any rate,I firmly believe that when You TRUELY love someone,you won't cheat your partner,for it hurts and you will hurt also
@junrapmian (2169)
• Philippines
20 Feb 10
I think if you really love the person you're committed to, you won't fall inlove with someone else.Distance won't be a problem. Though your faithfullness will be tested because it is a long distance love affair. Now, if and when you fall in love with someone else who is near and available at the moment, it's time for you to weigh your feelings. If you think you love the one who's beside you, then split it off with the other one. It's so hard to divide your feelings, so for you to have peace of mind, decide for yourself.
@pupupd (1515)
• India
21 Feb 10
So you are saying that even if we do love each other very deeply, if in case we find someone near us who cares more for me then I should split of with the one I used to love deeply? But you are saying we will not find any one else as long as we love someone else very much, on the other hand you say if you find someone beside you then you should leave the first person. Its confusing!!
@shadowkissed14 (92)
• Philippines
21 Feb 10
It is easy to be attracted to someone if that is the situation however falling for another guy and forming a relationship with him is a no no. I love my boyfriend so i will be faithful and loyal to him always.
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@geminipunk (573)
• India
20 Feb 10
I don't think so i would fall in love with someone else cause i would be committed to my lover. I still am. My gf is in a different city which is around 18 hrs away, we hardly get to see each other, we do have our temptations too, so we sort that out on the phone or the internet. You cant expect me to go meet her every week. I ain't that rich. Well i don't think you should worry about your boyfriend. If he really loves and you people are in a committed relationship, then you should have a nice sigh of relief .
@pupupd (1515)
• India
21 Feb 10
You both are quite away from each other. If you can still manage to keep the realation then very good. Both should be faithful to each other. Sometimes one partner does not want too much attention and is happy with what he/she gets from other side. But sometimes one partner needs more attention and when fails to get it then the argument starts. And when they start getting attention from someone else, they get attracted to them. In my case, I need more attention and my bf gives me that sometimes and sometimes doesnt. So, I get angry once in a while and other time I am quite happy. We stay just 1 hour away, but still can't meet often due to restrictions at home. We have same office so at least we get to see each other daily. But spending time with each other is also important.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
20 Feb 10
Hello laydee,
that can't be helped, i mean some lovers will have this stage of a big fight. and then when he's with some one else or a friend and she's happy being with that person, she might not help fall in love with the guy because she wants to get out of the situation she's in. or if they are apart and some how got her attention with anotehr guy or something. 
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
21 Feb 10
I heard it happens at one point when the two are not often in touch with each other. Back in my country, I saw some women whose husbands lived abroad looking for some fun time with other men.
As for me, my last boyfriend left for Japan. Here I was young and had no time to wait. Therefore, I chose to call off the relationship. Also I had fear that distrust was gonna take over us since we were then living in separate countries.
@Ladyslipper (1327)
• Philippines
20 Feb 10
Hi Laydee!
I've been in this situation before. My boyfriend and I have a long distance relationship however, I got attracted to someone else. Since I'm in a relationship at that time I did not let my self fall in love with that person. I like him though. During that time my boyfriend and I are already having a problem because of our long distance relationship. Sometimes he is not answering the phone, never sends back messages and never gives me a call back whenever he misses mine. I believe that was the reason I got attracted to the other guy. I felt neglected during that time and there was this other person who is giving me attention. We did not have any relationship though as I told him I love my boyfriend and has no intention of breaking up with him. He told me he wanted to court me so I resigned to my work and got another job to stay away from him. Our communication stopped after I resigned. He did not try to contact me. After 6 months my boyfriend and I still broke up and it was because he told me he still has other plans and would not want me waiting for him. He has plans of going abroad. I was so devastated during that time. I never asked him if that was really his reason or if it's because he found someone else. After the break up we never had any communication again. I don't know what was his real reason as I found out from our friends that he never left the country. I never tried to find out also if he is already in another relationship as I alreay have a family of my own now. That's the reason I believe there is a tendency for each one of you to get attracted to someone else. However, it's up also to both of you if you will let your self fall in love with the other person. We can always control what we feel just like what happened to me. I have chosen not to fall in love with the other guy and stay loyal with my boyfriend. However, no matter how much I struggled to stay strong to be worthy for him our relationship still ended.
@pupupd (1515)
• India
21 Feb 10
I feel really sorry for what happened with you. I hope this does not happen will all other couples. It is good that he went away from your life before you married and had a kid. Then it would have been worse. Even this is quite worse, since he never looked back to you or paid you any attention. We can understand if you have some work and can't take my calls but at least call back later. If this also stops or your bf keeps saying that he forgets to call back then it is time you people break up. He longer thinks about you and you should part your ways.
@laura_lmaxi (678)
• United States
21 Feb 10
Everything depend of how strong is the couple's relationship on the first place. There are a lot of temptations, and they are going to be there whether you are in different countries or not. Obviously there are challenges that a long distance relationship have, but I think as long as you maintain communication and love, things will be fine. Obviously that situation can not be forever, but as long as it last communication is key.
@thunderbala (748)
• India
21 Feb 10
Its not an easy thing to fall in love to someone else for two reasons.. firstly, i ve been committed to that person and secondly i can't love someone else truly as i love that person.. temptations are always there but still distance always keeps me close with that person..
@fireice247 (140)
• Slovak Republic
20 Feb 10
Long distance relationship can only last if your trust each other. It is the most important thing in a relationship, if you do not trust each other then there is no point fooling around. The temptations is the most common factor for break ups. When you are in different countries, you meet new people and go out and talk more often to them then you partner. Its hard for me fall for them if i trust my partner, I don't trust them I fall easily into the temptations.
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@melloncollie (661)
• Philippines
21 Feb 10
i'm a lover in nature. i'm a libran. i'm passionate about love. yes it is easy for me to fall in love -- that is only when i'm single. but when i'm in a committed relationship, it's not as easy as it is when i'm in love ... i don't give in to temptations right away. yes, there might be better fish in the ocean, but when i just think about the emotional investment i have with my wife and the investment she made for me, i just don't find any point at all. i would not risk losing all the wonderful things i have with my partner over someone who isn't sure to give me the same amount of love, and care than what i've already got.
