I can't forget him!

hmm... i think this is like my experience humaira. i ever loved someone too, but i married to other man. but now i'm free, so it's easy to make relationship with him, even he still waiting for me, but i'm still not ready to make any relationship. i'm single and very happy.

oh no.i think it`s not polite the other man if you are belongs to your husband.so why we must check and recheck everything especially our heart before marriage, is it true love when i want to marry him?or just my ambition or passionate?

Hello humairaku, I had a relationship which lasted for 10 years. We broke up finally. It was hard to forget but after many years, I managed to forget him totally and that was the time when I got to know my husband. I am happily married now. I don't like the pasts to haunt my life forever. As for you, I can truly understand why it is very hard to forget him but you must learn to forget. It is for your own good and happiness. I think you belong to your husband now and you should learn slowly to forget the pasts.

Don't try to forget him.The more you try,the more you will remember him.Just allow him to your mind and even try to imagine a lot about him.Also write down somewhere all about your relation with him.This will empty your mind and you can remain in peace.Just accept the nature and this is natural to remember a boy friend.

The main reason why you cannot forget your past boyfriend till now you are married maybe because the love in your past is greater than your present love. There are many reasons why we cannot forget the past love. Some are because of the emotional attachment and bonding that cannot be compared in the present. The kind of partner you have before may have been more affectionate than your partner at present. Some are due to unresolved issues and till present never been fixed although they are far in different lives. Maybe the intensity of the love you got from your past love is greater than your present. Unless, your relationship now is much worth than your past and the kind of partner you are contented with. That answer your question. Your past loved had given you much affection that is why you cannot go over by forgetting him till present. If you are already happy and contented with your partner right now. You can overcome your past love. If your partner do things in a way opposite your past loved and there is the feeling of loneliness in you . Then, that makes you inclined to remember your past loved.

I think if you want to be happy the best thing you have to do is forget you past and see the future, the past is a memory that you must remember but today and tomorrow is the reality that you have to face, do not live in the past because you can't change the past and your future is much more important. I have a bad memmory too but I live happy now and see the future

hi humairaku Don't you think maybe now youve been married awhile and maybe you are both in a rut, that its more the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. Some reason you and the college man did break up, and for some reasons you both married other people. Now if you really loved him you would not have broken up with him, so I think you are making a romantic assumption thats just an illusion now for usually you find when you do meet the one whom you have been thinking about hes not all that great after all. The grass is not a bit greener over there than over here. I have not been in this situation myself but common sense tells me you should forget the old love and make your hubby know you really do love him the most.If you c an meet your old love, do so but casually even with his wife around, and you will see hes older, fatter, and has a receding hairline and does not look as good as your own hubby.Go back to your hubby and determine to love him even more.

don't take my comment otherwise. you all girls are of same type. you feel that you have mistaken when it is too late. do what you think this time and don't do what you don't think this time. don't force yourself to do some work but let it get done own its own. if you would have married him at any cost then i think you might not have been killing yourself this time. same situation is here i am in love with a girl. i am running behind her and i will chase her till my last breathe. i know she will come to me before my last breathe. i want to die taking her name with me. though i am too young this time only 22 year old. i won't regret that i didn't approach her.

If the first guy was your first real serious relationship it will always be hard to forget him. You both need to concentrate on your own marriages and life commitments.

you shouldn't have married somebody else if you know for a fact that you're still into with your previous guy. i think you don't find the qualities that you need for a husband that your ex has that's why until now, you're still longing to be with him... urggghhh... sad... hmmmm...

Hey dear friend. There are some special events that take place in a person's life which he/she can never forget. Some of them are: 1) The first day at school 2) First love 3) First job 4) Marriage 5) Being father/mother for the first time etc. Don't be so emotional thinking about your first love. The time you had passed with him is past now. You can't get it back, it's impossible. Moreover, you're a wife of a person with your consent. This is happening to you because once you had many cplourful dreams with him which were not realized, they're still haunting your memories. Now, you're both married to your respective spouses. In fact, you're doing a injustice to your husband in a sense. That is, your only personal concern should be your family, not others. The best suggestion that I can give you is you should forgive him and let him live his life his way. Don't entangle his memories with your family concerns. Or else, you won't be able to rest in peace. Have a nice day.

Remember that infatuation is always near. Be sure to define your feeling surely or else you could have done the biggest mistake of your life. :D You already have a husband and he also have his wife. Even if you love him, it will just cause a big stir up if you do something about it. I suggest that make that thought into only a thought that will not ruin your life :D

hmm..its very bad true lies. Don't do that again sist, please don't hurt your husband. he really loves you, he would do anything for you. i can't imagine how his feel if he knew it. its a betrayal!

CONCENTRATE on your guy. Think about the things why you married him. Think of everything he has done to you and you to him. I think your just having blues clues. I don't know why you married you husband in the first place. I'm really hoping that you will work this out. take care.. Good Nights!

It's best to strengthen your relationship with your husband right now. I am sure you married him for a reason. I understand why there might be some lingering feelings for your ex. Maybe there wasn't good closure. If you have contact with your ex, I suggest you talk to him. Maybe that will let you realize why you two did not end up together. Based on my own experience, I already have a boyfriend now and he's really awesome. But sometimes I remember my ex and the stuff we used to do together. Some of those things is not something that me and my boyfriend now can do so partly I miss the activities and not exactly the person. It might be the case for you too. So find what exactly it is that you are missing or looking for from your ex and you can start from there. Goodluck!

I have the same experience...he was my first love...we never had a official relationship but we both know that we have a mutual understanding...after high school i have to go to city for college and rarely visited our place... Years past I got married and after half year i heard he got married too... until now i still remember him...and the feelings... I still asking myself "why?"...I do loved my husband, in fact my daughters looked like him...heheheh....but this feeling inside... I think it would go away if i could see him again and talk to him... In that way i can assess myself and my feelings about him...and maybe you could do the same....sometimes we just need to find answers to our whys...

Yes, I did felt something like that and you know what my mistake was? I kept thinking that he was the one i would not find someone better than him. That was the biggest mistake and biggest lie i told to myself. STOP thinking that you love him because the thing you are feeling right now is a residual though of being in love not actual love. Accept the fact that it was over and he was a part of you past. There are times that we remember the past loves with had but don't dwell on it too much and don't make anything out of it. because our mind tends to recall and its a natural thing just don't make anything out of it. You might recall him while you passing by a place you two use be at or had dated or a feeling you felt or a music you use to listen to. If you really love your husband put that on your mind because the more you dwell on your past you might destroy what you have. Unless if that's what you want. DO THIS: write on a piece of paper the things your thankful of that your husband has given you, the feelings that you two shared, the moments or things you are most thankful when you are with him. DO this every time you remember this. BE thankful of what you have now and don't keep feeling bad or sad because of what you had and what you don't have.

well.. dear for your family's sake,, i hope your husband isn't a visitor of mylot.. becoz this is gonna cause some serious shake downs.. I ain't married yet, but broken heart has been always been a piece of my life.. and I guess you married someone you didn't actually loved or cared about.. and that's real bad.. I wish you have enough strength in yourself.. to make your self forget your past and live happily in your present.. enjoy mylotting..

well .... if u cant bear to leave him..u sd mingle as one. .. im having a similar case..ma and one fo my friends.. have feelings for each other but she just ignores dat.. and i dunnoo when will she realize if nothing is done....she might lose me...

i think its not that you still have feelings for him. maybe you have some unresolved issued when you broke up, and so that's why it comes up every now and then, maybe there are things you wanted to say to him or prove to him or similar stuff that you never had the chance to do before you broke up.