How would you feel when someone so important to you forgot your birthday?
By dragonangel
@dragonangel (551)
February 20, 2010 9:03am CST
I always make sure to remember the birthday of people closest to me like family members and closest friends. When their special day comes, I have to send them something or even a message or a phone call to greet them. I want to let them know that I rejoice along with them in their most considered special day. And it has been said that " DO UNTO OTHERS WHAT YOU WANT OTHERS TO DO UNTO YOU". When time comes that I celebrate my birthday, I would also anticipate to have those considered dear to me to remember my special day too.It doesn't mean that I require them to, but just I feel great when they do remember. At times when they forget, sure enough, I wish that they have remembered it special too. Would you be upset when a family or a close friend forgot your special day?
16 responses
@universe2o6 (356)
• Brazil
20 Feb 10
We are all humans and sometimes we do get carried away with certain things going on in our lives. I myself have a hard time remembering names and dates, so people are used to me forgetting things. I am trying to improve my memory though...
We do sometimes forget and the trick is not to get upset with someone or cause a fuss, it only makes things worse. Instead, call him/her up and say 'hey, forgot my bday right? whatever, party at my house at 8, dont be late, kthxbye'
@webb_jiang (158)
• China
21 Feb 10
This is not such a big deal,It's nature that people forget things.I can't remember people's birthdays too.I regard the birthdays celebrated by others bonus and extra blessings.Of course,I will be really happy if somebody very close to me remember my birthday while I will be sad if they forget them.But nowadays,we have many high tech methods to preclude such things.we can use the reminder of our phone or some software on our computer to remind us the important day.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
21 Feb 10
It hurts when a loved one forgets your birthday. It makes you feel like they really don't care about you. It's hard to feel special with someone when they forget an important event in your life.
@kaylachan (71734)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
21 Feb 10
It doesn't really bother me all that much to be honest. I'm used to the way people are. I may be disappointed, but I quickly get over it. Its not like I've ever felt special so why should it matter. Anymore I'm just happy to get an 'happy birthday'. if that.
@laura_lmaxi (678)
• United States
21 Feb 10
I would feel really bad if someone close to me forget my birthday, because I think it is an special day, and i would think they really don't care about me, but I also have to say, that I know some people that really can't remember any single detail, my father would always forget the birthdays of everybody else, but in his defense it doesn't mean he doesn't love us. He truly does, he is just another type of person, other times people get so busy with their life and problems than forget, however that does really hurts the person that is has the birthday, with this what I am trying to say is that we should find out what are the reasons why that person forgot your birthday.
@thunderbala (748)
• India
21 Feb 10
Yes i would surely be upset when someone so special to me forgot my birthday.. i have had this experince before and it seems very hard for the day to run.. i will have a feel that i lost something..
@athinapie (1150)
• Philippines
21 Feb 10
Hi there dragonangel. Same here. I always make sure I remember the birthdays of my loved ones because I want them to know that I care about them and I remember them. I don't like the feeling that somebody close to me forgets my birthday. It has happened a lot of times before and I was definitely really hurt. I would really get upset if they forgot my birthday. Because when that happens, it would just make me think that I am not important to them at all.
@galileo2008 (1168)
• Philippines
20 Feb 10
If that important person would forget my birthday, I would truly feel sad and so upset. I am not really the type of person who would give presents to somebody who's celebrating his/her birthday, but at least I would greet him/her to show her that I didn't forget his/her most special day.
@zoey7879 (3092)
• Quincy, Illinois
20 Feb 10
The only person that ever really acknowledges my birthday is my 8 year old daughter. No other friends, family members, or even boyfriend acknowledge it in any way. It's kind of depressing, but I deal :)
@LovingLife139 (1504)
• United States
20 Feb 10
Hi there. Ever since my dad forgot my birthday and how old I was when I turned twelve, I've respected the failing memory of some people. My dad and I were as close knit as could be and were together on a daily basis...and even now, we're business partners and he still doesn't remember unless someone tells him. Really, he's a busy man and I expect that something as trivial as a birthday won't get top priority.
Personally, birthdays mean little to nothing to me. I tried to get my family to stop celebrating my own when I was sixteen. I didn't understand why I was getting presents just for being born X number of years ago. I understand celebrating graduations, anniversaries...but birthdays mean little to nothing. However, I still say happy birthday to those I know, although I don't give presents or cards. The only reason I remember everyone's birthdays is because I know everyone's horoscope.
It's nice when someone remembers and says happy birthday, but I wouldn't get all worked up if they don't. Most people are very busy and have other things on their minds...birthdays are the last thing they think of, whether they mean to or not. If someone forgets it's your birthday, think the best of it. Time simply flies fast and I'm sure no one deliberately forgets to be cruel.
@MrKennedy (1978)
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20 Feb 10
I don't think I would be too upset to be honest.
We are all human after all, and we all make mistakes
Plus, some people are just naturally forgetful about stuff, so you can't really get angry with them when they cannot necessarily help being forgetful.
As long as my birthday gets celebrated in the end, I don't really mind in my honest opinion
@myzire72 (1154)
• Singapore
20 Feb 10
I am OK with that. I always regard my birthday as just any other day. There are so many dates to remember in everyone's life, and there is bound to be some dates which will be forgotten, including birthdays. So I am not upset by it. But I will make it a point to remember birthdays, because I always like to see the shock faces when I congratulate them on their birthdays.
@chazzief (237)
• Malaysia
20 Feb 10
For me, I won't feel upset much. It's normal for us to forgot things, and I always have problems in remembering people's birthday, and sometime,s my own birthday! so yeah, to have been born in this world is something that we should be grateful enough, and to have people celebrate it with us is a bonus and extra blessings. ^^
@gtloquero (271)
• Philippines
21 Feb 10
It will be disappointing for me. I want my special someone remembers special events in my life. I want him to remember them if I am really special to him. :)
@quixotecybercafe (130)
• India
20 Feb 10
i had lost my best friends birthdays date since last 2 times in year 2008 and also 2009, it was really shameful and undoubtedly one of the most embarassing moments of my life when he calls me later after birthday celebration comes to end, its really important because i love and like the most since my childhood, my age is 24, and we are intimate friends since last more than 21 years