Focusing too much on self?

That is a very good and thoughtful question. If we do not love ourselves, then how can we love someone else? We need to love ourselves and to think about our own needs in order to be able to think about and to love other people. Jesus said in Mathew 22, as I understand it, that we are to love others as we love ourselves. Caring about yourself is important.

It is fine to talk about yourself as long you let the person/people you are talking with get a word in and as long as you are willing to listen to others when they wanna talk about themselves. Also it depends on the frequency, if everytime you see people you are talking about yourself, then they will start to pick up on it. Always ask people about how they are doing and what they are up to, before you go into a full on me fest! lol Plus if you can feel the conversation going that way, slip in " So what would do in my situation?" or someway you can fit their input into your conversation. The main dangers are they may just tune you out and not listen to important parts, not wanna be around you, or talk about how self-loving you are behind your back. Funny thing is it's usually insecure people that talk about themselves all the time, they need constant approval.

That is a great question. I would say that a good rule of thumb, ask yourself why you are talking about yourself? Is it to complain or brag? Nobody cares. Are you talking to inform, or spark conversation? Also, watch the person you are talking to, are their eyes glazing over? you may be talking too much about yourself. Are you asking others about themselves? People would always rather talk about themselves then others. Try to balance equal time spent on them and your self. The fact that your asking the question says to me that you are most likely aware of the issue and probably are not a bad offender.

hi masihi well for me it would be if you did not notice your loved ones,if you did not do the things you should be doing for your family, if you were totally obsessed with yourself so you could not function as a mom or a wife, or a sister or brother, then you are just totally focussed on self and are shutting out everyone and thats not good. Its healthy do talk about yourself to some degree and in connection with other people.

Well i think we should focus on ourselves but we should not make it public. We should make efforts for self improvement but we not always trouble others by speaking about ourselves only otherwise they could get annoyed.

Very difficult question but I am happy you posted this discussion. Talking about yourself to others could probably make others very annoyed but being focused on yourself is a different story. Lets say you make goals for yourself and your focused on attaining those goals that is being very focused on yourself. In my opinion it is better to be focused on yourself then to be talking about yourself constantly or on a daily basis.