Was I wrong to ask?

well.. men can be real stingy about their financial status.. but dunno about women.. also..imho, there are only a certain range of topics on which a net friend can comment.. but, it sure wouldn't be great idea to press her on that point,...if she wants to let it go, you should respect her feelings..

if she didn't respond to the question you asked maybe you should just drop it. i think she is a little down right now and that you shouldn't probe on sensitive things like that. but if she is a real friend am sure she'll open up to you when she's ready to talk about things.. that's usually when she recovers..

I have a friend also that was having a problem with her lovelife.It seems that her boyfriends just come and go.She wanted to have serious relationship and have a family.We keep communicating in FB.One day she posed her new bf and they were really sweet.She emailed me and say she's in love and she hope this will be the man she's been hoping for to be with.I replied her back and say congratulations and was happy for her.After a few weeks i never heard from her until on Valentines Day i sent her an email wishing her happiness and everything.Then i asked hows her new relationship?She never emailed me back until now but i saw her online and communicating with others in FB.I think your discussion is a little bit similar with my story only on different situation.I think we both have the same reaction.I felt bad because as far as know we are that close that we are very open to each other.I was thinking maybe the relationship didn't last again and that she's already ashame to open up another story.I hope not because i would really love to hear from her.So i will just wait until she will communicate with me again.I think thats the best we can do.

Well, I guess you were wrong and it wasn't an open topic. If she wanted to discuss it with you, she would have probably already brought it up to you. Also, if she answered that one question, she may have thought you'd have others that she didn't feel comfortably about discussing. It's very personal and you talk if you want, to whom you want and trust and feel comfortable with. I know.

Well, even tho your not asking her about her personal finances it just may be a touchy subject with her. I do think she could have at least responded to you and told you that she is uncomfortable talking about it. I filed one a long time ago and the laws were different back then so I dont think I can be of much help. All I can say is it not something to be ashamed of, you are doing what you have to do, the creditor's are way out of control and you have to do what you need to do to take back your financial freedom. I am also against "credit counceling" They are also crooks in my book. Stayed with one for over a year paying them to get the creditors to "lower my interest rate's" It never happened and my credit got worse not better. Good luck!