Who is more guilty the cheater of the mistress?

The cheater is ALWAYS guilty. Period. They know from the moment that the new relationship is instigated that they are already involved, in what is supposed to be a committed relationship, with another person. However, the mistress does not always know that the cheater is married or in a committed relationship. It is so easy to be unknowingly dating a cheater when both people live in larger cities, cannot spend a lot of time together, or are in a long distance relationship. When I was in my teens, I was dating an older teen whom I found out was actually married! I dumped him FAST! What made me even more angry is that I was friends with many of his family members, and not a single one had told me that he was married. I was so angry at all of them. I was even more angry when I later met his wife, and although she had some problems, she was a nice young woman. When the mistress is aware that the man or woman she is with is married, I consider her as equally guilty. Why people consistently feel the need to cheat, I will never understand.

I think they are both are guilty.How ever I think that the husband is more to blame for he is married and should know better.

Well, they are both guilty, but he is guiltier than her, because HE took an OATH, she (mistress) did not.

I find both of them guilty.. the one who cheats her wife is to be blamed cuz he is cheating his wife who believes him all the time and the mistress also should be blamed cuz she knows well about his wife and should be knowing that he is married.. according to me husband is to be blamed a little higher..

it takes two to tango...both should be blame. if but i'm the wife (which i pray will never happen to me, lol, i'll never go after the girl and step down on her level it will be my husband who will suffer the consequences.

unless the mistress knows that the guy is married, then its the cheater who is more guilty, but if the mistress knows that the guy is committed, then she is as guilty as well...

In my opinion,definitely the husband is more guilty than the mistress and for the same reasons that you have shared. The mistress is trolling when she met up with the husband. The husband shouldn't even be considering, nor looking! Surely the mistress shares part in the guilt but overall the husband is being most irresponsible.

It really depends on if the mistress knows that the person is married. If so then they are both guilty. If the mistress doesn't know that the cheater is guilty no matter what the situation is.

In my views in that case, my friend. They have both committed the same offense and must be punished with the same degree. Because they are both committed a crimes of adultery and concubine

Well we have to go over the situation, if the mistress knows that the man is married and she still get along with the man, it obvious that its both parties fault but the blame should be put into the husband whose cheating to his wife.First if the man will not lie to the mistress meaning his intention to cheat his wife.But if the man will lie to the mistress saying he is single then it is his intention to cheat the mistress and the wife.SO in short the man is responsible for this. In most cases,the man will put on faults to the mistress ,if the mistress would insist the attachment despite that the man has been honest to tell her about his status.The mistress though have fault on this as well if she will still keep on going with this man knowing that his married its a mistress fault. I would say,the man(cheater)is more guilty about this.Sometimes the mistress know nothing about the man situation so she get with the man,or in other hand the mistress intend to be a mistress and cheat the wife.. Happy Lotting!

I would say its the person who is in the relationship with one person then chooses to go to another without the consent of the other. If a person has side fling/distraction, I really cannot blame that person because they may be in the dark of the previous commitment.If they know then I would rethink he track record and keep stepping away because that's a habit to break and he's getting away with it. I don't need no more drama in my life.

Neither is more guilty than the other party. They are both equally guilty of adultry and infidelity. Usually the mistress does get blamed, but I don't see why the man doesn't as well. It takes 2 to have an affair, not just one.

Well it depends. If the mistress has no knowledge that the man she is with is the husband of another women, then the husband has more guilt by lying to both his wife and the mistress. But if the mistress has full knowledge that the man is married then both the husband and the mistress are both equally guilty.

Here in England we have recently had a couple of scandals with footballers cheating on their wives. I was shocked to see a comment from a friend of one of the "mistresses". He said the woman had done nothing wrong because she was single. The footballer had committed adultery and he was the one in the wrong. The woman was totally innocent. I think any woman who sleeps with a married man is equally as "guilty" as the man. The cheater and his mistress have both betrayed the wife and, even worse, his children (if he has any). It's just not good enough to say that because you're single your guilt is less than the man's. You bear equal responsibility for destroying a family.

laura__imaxi they are equally wrong, both immoral and the only one who is not wrong is the poor wife, the mistress breaks up a home, the husband betrays his wedding vows and his wife's confidence in him. to me they share the blame equally. down on both of them. shame shame shame.

Hi, laura_lmaxi. In my opinion, both people are guilty. If the woman knows that the man was married, then she is wrong for coming between the marriage. But the man is much more guilty because he vowed before God to honor, love and obey his marriage. This is a sealed pact then. And the mistress has disobeyed the commandments of God and the Bible. It stated in the Bible. "What God has joined together, let no man put asunder." And that is exactly what the mistress has done, came between a husband and a wife. She done so knowing that these two were married. And she did not care at all. So in factual and actuality, both parties are guilty as sin!

it is quite complicated but it isn't really. the one who opens the legs is the one guilty. the other organ is hanging out already and because of that is quite sensitive. however, the effort that does this "awakening" and allows it in is the one guilty. sounds bad but that is the truth. simplified truth. no opening no cheating.

I think more than anything that the husband is more guiltier than anything. Because as you have said, he is the one that made the promises to his wife and also he is the one who said the vows to his wife. I think with the mistress, it depends. Does the mistress know that the guy is married, if so then yes she is even more guiltier especially if the mistress is the friend to the wife. That is the ultimate betrayal. On the other hand though, if the mistress knew nothing of the wife and was with this guy, then she should not be guilty, because the man never told her that he was married and she was betrayed like the wife was.