if a strange girl proposes you?
By shambhukumar
@shambhukumar (763)
India
February 21, 2010 4:08am CST
what would you do if suddenly a girl comes before you and proposes you to love her. if she says that she has a crush on him and can't live without him. if the girl is totally strange i think it will give you a shock in your mind. but tell me how would you handle the situation. i would love to hear it from you mylotters.
3 responses
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
21 Feb 10
I have come to believe an odd theory that no one person can ever completely fulfill the needs of any other person.
What that means is, if a person is not stable, and is insecure in who they are, no other person can ever meet all the needs that this insecure unstable person desires. Not possible.
Therefore, in the case above, if a girl came out proposing to me, saying she can't live without me, and blaw blaw blaw...
That would tell me this girl is unstable and insecure. She is so desperate, that she is proposing to me out of her insecurity. There is no way I'd be able to fix this girls problems, and our marriage would likely end horribly.
I would likely cut off all communications with the girl and never see her again.
@shambhukumar (763)
• India
21 Feb 10
you are right dear that she would be desperate. but if she falls in love with you won't you let her give chance and listen how she is really. she might be your soul mate and your life may be happier with her.
@shambhukumar (763)
• India
21 Feb 10
if the girl respond to you like you have responded to that unknown girl then what would you do. we only propose when we can't tolerate any more and we need to convey our heart message to them. at that point we become desperate. being desperate in love is not a crime dear it is real thing. and one thing that you told about affairs in USA they are also looking for the soul mate. but they are fast in searching of them. there might be condition that they have 3 or 4 soul mate for them in their life.
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
21 Feb 10
I don't believe in the concept of 'soul mate', as in there is one super special person out there that was made for just you.
One reason I don't is because of the all the divorces which happen constantly for people who just a year prior were convinced they found their 'soul mate', and then found some other who was their 'soul mate', until they met the real 'soul mate' and divorced their prior real 'soul mate'.
Here in America, the average married person, has been divorced three times. So the first three soul mates, were apparently not the real real real soul mate. Fourth times the charm.
Back to your question. The answer is no. If I am interested in a girl, I'll tell her I'm interested, and we'll go from there.
If I'm not interested, and the girl asks me for marriage, all chance of there being a relationship for me, are gone. I'd say thanks, but no thanks, and bid her farewell.
@ralphido (842)
• India
21 Feb 10
well..however highly unlikely that something like that should ever happen with me, ..if it happens at all, I would just wait long enough to know the true reason for that persons actions, and if it suits my needs, make the most of it,..enjoy while you can.. :)
@shambhukumar (763)
• India
21 Feb 10
yes you are right dear. we are supposed to give some time and try to find out the fact. if she really means what she says then its ok. you are going to get a girlfriend without any more and more effort. we all have to make a lot of effort to make one girl friend.
@prasunsam (356)
• India
21 Feb 10
Well i would just sit with that girl.I would talk to her for time.If i would find her interesting,then i can may be socialize with her
@shambhukumar (763)
• India
21 Feb 10
hey prasunsam i am also looking for such a situation that some girl comes before me and proposes me.hey but you know one girl has proposed me like this. but that girl was known to me. i didn't say anything to her just said ok and thanked her for proposing me. she was good looking girl after all though.
