How do you explain to a friend that you no longer have anything in common?

Hi,its very good a young woman changed her life from the bad to good ,however shes unhappy for her friend are still doing what they were doing together ,thats good in one way if she will help them for good ,and not good for her if she go back to where she was,i can advice her to move on for her life first than think for them ,dont think to go back to them for bad.

accepting her as a normal human, everyone can get second chance, why not :) if she can change , we can change our opinion to them too :) at least for slow but sure, we accepting her and always guide her to not touch her old life style anymore thanks for this good discussion :) sincerely reborn is hard

Our life is directed according to what decisions we take in our life. Sometimes we have to part from our old friends and set things straight and lead a new life. Doing new things must be scary at first but if you have your mind set on your goal, one will be able to achieve his targets. Leaving your friends behind is not easy but if she does not do it now, her friends might do it at a later stage when they take their status.

if she has a new life, she will have new friends. she just has to move on. she is still in a way trying to hang on to her old life, and that is understandable. being a christian is very demanding (sometimes in a unrealistic way). this is why i am not christian. don't get me wrong i have no problem with it, i am just not one. i congratulate her for making changes in her life for the positive. sometimes it takes religion for some people to do it. i know alot of christian and they seem to hang around with each other and church members. in fact, the christians i know don't want to hang out with anyone who is not christian (sometimes because it's against their religion. this is why i say that she will eventually have new friends as her old life completely goes out of existence. tell her congrats and stick to it. tell her to get with people who are more like minded. i don't know what all she is not allowed to do now that she is christian, but tell her not to get to the point where she becomes self righteous and looks down at other people for not making the same choices as she did. just wish them well, and move on to her new life.

Good things happen when good things are done. I must admire her for the great change of lifestyle she had. She just has to accept that some things are beyond her reach and some people are destined to have better lives than others. I just hope her friends and others like her before would take her as an example and start living a better life.

that woman is good since she knew her limitations and moved forward for her betterment. i guess, if i were that woman, i wont leave those friends behind because they're still friends. she can still change her life without leaving them. time'll come that those friends will need her and she, too, can change them as well by leading to the right way.

She should not need advice from people. If she has already put God in her life and is on the right track she knows she does not need man's advice.!

I guess I would tell her that in shedding her old habits, sometimes that means shedding relationships that are no longer in sync with one's lifestyle. I would say that she can always pray for them, that in times when maybe their hearts are open to new possibilities, she can directly affect them simply by praying for them. And I would tell her that this is only the beginning. God never wants to take away something without giving in return. Which means more friends will be coming into her life, the kind that will uplift her, and be there not just as friends, but friends in Christ.

Wow, thanks, pastorkayte, you shared a great testimony! I'm so glad this young lady correct her direction and her life becoming better! But I also understand her feelings on her old friends. (When my life changed by God's help, I also want to help those who are in similar situations. But I found it was hard.) They may even refuse her as she hasn't anything in common with her. So my suggestion is: firstly, pray to God for her old friends, and ask God if He would like change them by her. Then, if it's His will, I believe this young lady will find the way. You know, sometimes, we want to do something but without ideas, but God can, and then you will find everything is so easy and natural. It's true! Anyway, hope she fine in anything!

I suggest she will go ahead with her life...i know she already done everything for her friends by advising them the right path of life but if they refuse to listen to her advice then there's nothing she can do about them. The worst thing is that sometimes people don't want to help themselves. They are self destructive and they are the only one who can help themselves. Let her continuously pray for her friend that someday they will change...and tell her to visit her friends all the time so that they will realized how awful their lives become and she might be able to influence them to change one day.