Does a strong man cry?
By Sourceseeker
@Sourceseeker (1197)
United States
February 21, 2010 7:35pm CST
Some people call me sensitive. I cried twice the first I saw a Beautiful Mind. Men in our society are taught not to cry. In school if you going around crying they may call you a wimp.
Pastor Joel Osteen cries all the time. But our society shuns on men crying to the point most men have ulers from holding back emotion. Is it ok for a man to cry?
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19 responses
@renaissance2010 (249)
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22 Feb 10
Of course it's ok. Its nice to hear of a man who is not afraid to show/let out his emotions. I think its horrible that society has brainwashed us with all these gender stereotypes. Don't worry about society, just be.
@Sourceseeker (1197)
• United States
22 Feb 10
All the responses that it is ok come from women. Often women respond the opposite of what really happens. Most women are not attracted to men who cry. They say they want men to be sensitive but thats not who they attracted too.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
22 Feb 10
Hi Sourceseeker, the women you refer to, are only some women. I don't speak for women, but i believe minority of us do like men who cry when necessary.
Personally, I find man who cry charming. Of course not when they cry at every little thing like a women does. Because I think men who really do drop a tear or two at right moments are sensitive man. Like someone close just pass on, or it is another very bad day. But after that, they pick themselves up and move on...
This is just my two cents worth.. =
@renaissance2010 (249)
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22 Feb 10
Sourceseeker trust me contrary to whay you may believe, a lot of women are attracted to sensitive men who show emotion and i am living proof. My man shows his emotions and even crys on sensitive and it makes me love him even more.
@keisey (181)
• Philippines
22 Feb 10
It is ok to cry. For me it is a sign of strength. Strength to defy what this society dictates. Why shouldn't you cry when you feel like it? It will free you up from within. Maybe that is the reason why men are more violent than women, because they do not have other outlet from their stress. Whether they admit it or not, they are as much affected by problems as women are. Their trouble is that they believe they should exhibit a macho image by looking so tough even if they are being eaten inside. I pity guys who are imprisoned by what status quo dictates, I pity those who fear crying because they fail to realize that it is one of the best tools to unload, I pity them because until now, they cannot make their own choice.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
22 Feb 10
this is a very good point. men (people in general) who hold their emotions in usually have problems. it's like a pot boiling over. the emotions will come out in other ways, and usually act in your life very negative.
@Sourceseeker (1197)
• United States
22 Feb 10
Both you ladies make good points but with regard to a ladies interpretation of what a man is it does not add up. If a lady really knew the insecurities most men mask they would be surprised. Men also know that women like men who can show confidence and does not let himself be worried or complain.
Men may what a man to express emotion but they wonr feel confident with him. They want a man to have evrything together.
Only a few will see beyond the mask.
Tiger Woods was a man living in a fantasy world but a real world He will get broke down real soon and shed tears.
@rajaiv0810 (1012)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
Definitely yes. But I would agree with you that it's a society call most especially for children. When you're a child you are under this peer pressure and you have to show them that you are strong and that includes not crying. Sometimes parents even tell their boys " Oh you're a strong boy you're not suppose to cry". It's a very common line from parents isn't it? But of course we know that what they actually mean is that you will not just cry and do nothing for your failures or wounds. But rather to be strong to face any consequences which has been brought about by it, like the hurt that you are feeling. As an adult, it wouldn't make you less as a man if you'll cry. In fact, we women appreciates men who can show their real emotions whether they are sad, angry, disappointed, happy, etc. It takes a lot of courage for men to show their real emotions I'm sure, because it has already been dictated by the society to act otherwise. In my opinion, the more you show you're real feelings the more yo become a man. No pretenses. Cry if you feel like crying and laugh like there's no tomorrow.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
22 Feb 10
I love a man who is not afraid to show his true feeling. When a man can be comfortable in his own skin to cry that is what I think is a strong man. A man who believes otherwise are to me weak, arrogant and coldhearted. I will always take a man who can cry without shame over a man who believes you are weak if you cry.
@Sourceseeker (1197)
• United States
22 Feb 10
women will say they want a man to be sensitive, however they are usually attracted to men who hold back their emotions.
Our society promotes the strong silent type. The warrior who never shows emotion and never complains.
Women often believe they can get a man to change and show emotion not realizing thats why they were attracted to him in the first place.
@EARLZHAN (934)
• Philippines
22 Feb 10
Well I can say that it is just okay for a man to cry than to hold the pain. . it is normal if we cry because of sadness, joy or because of any reason that touches our emotion. Crying can help relieving anxiety, relieving frustration. some people control their feelings better than others. It is much better to cry when when we feel like crying because it can give us comfort
@Sourceseeker (1197)
• United States
22 Feb 10
Women will say they want a sensitive man who cries but they always end up with a man who wont show emotion. Saying one thing and living another.
@freeboy90 (456)
• Italy
23 Feb 10
Of course men can cry what is the problem about crying, it is a natural process to express feelings, true the society gives a different idea about"real" men, but I don't care, if I really feel the need to cry I will do, of course I will never do that in front of some eventual enemies but when I know I can.
@daliaj (5674)
• India
22 Feb 10
We have a belief that men should not cry. If they cry it shows that they are weak. I don't agree with this. Men has the right to cry and they should not be considered that way. Crying is a big stress breaker. I don't remember seeing my Dad crying. My husband is an emotional person and he cries whenever he is very sad about something. It doesn't make me feel that he is not strong.
@tommyj (45)
• United States
22 Feb 10
I am very sensitive and feel like crying at the worst times. I say worst because as you said men have always been told crying is for women. In my opinion strong men are the ones that do cry though. Even though I hold it in I wouldn't be around someone that thought I was a wimp if I did cry.
@fairytale123 (334)
• China
22 Feb 10
I think it is okay for a man to cry.Everyone have a eligibility to cry.sometimes we need use cry to release our pressure.
@TAZNEM (656)
• Philippines
22 Feb 10
of course its fine to cry even for men, all though i saw that movie beautiful mind and i wasn't particularly emotional about it. my point is that you are a human being and humans normally cry when the situation makes them feel like it. it doesn't prove that you are more manly if you never cry. and am sure many men who claims they don't cry have cried when they are alone. and i dont believe in "real men don't cry" stuff its just a no brainer. what are they trying to become? robots??
@zjzk2008 (1)
• China
22 Feb 10
Well, in my view,weather a man should cry depends on what he'd cry for. On the one hand, if he crys for the hardship in life, that's sign of weakness; on the other hand, if he crys for his country, that's a sign of patriotism. In a word, he as a man should never cry for such a thing as hardship,but is supposed to cry for his country if its in trouble.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
22 Feb 10
i think that anybody who doesn't entrap themselves any further by society's impositions is strong. of course men can cry! that's why they have tear ducks. what part of the y chromosome says that men can't have any feelings? to feel bad, or even happy enough to cry is part of the human condition. it's a very normal thing. i trust men more who trust me enough to be revealing and vulnerable to me.furthermore, i would never do anything to lessen how special that is when it does happen.
@babycohxviii (93)
• Philippines
22 Feb 10
yeah! strong man for me are they can say or express their feelings...
@washingtonmark (367)
• United States
22 Feb 10
I believe everybody cries sometimes, even if a man is considered strong he still has feelings and emotions just like everybody else.
@junrapmian (2169)
• Philippines
22 Feb 10
I don't see anything for a man not to cry. In fact, I admire men who can show their true emotions especially when a loved one is involved. It is normal for a person to cry, it just show that a man is deeply affected and crying is the way to express it. I have also seen men cry because of total happiness, I can see nothing wrong with it.
@pinklady227 (285)
• Philippines
22 Feb 10
Definitely its ok for men to cry. I have nothing against men who cry. In fact its very much healthy to cry coz its a good way to express our emotions and unburden us with the heavy feelings we carry in our heart. What is not good is that society tell us that men should not cry which for me is wrong.