In Love With An Army...And We've Never Been Together Yet
By ninadocallos
@ninadocallos (60)
Philippines
February 21, 2010 11:44pm CST
Im inlove with my boyfriend. He has been my boyfriend since October of 2008. I love him so much, he's the sweetest guy i knew on earth. Even if he's deployed in Afghanistan right now he make sure he calls me everyday, if he's not able to do so he makes sure he leaves me an email saying why he wont be able to call or go online. We exchange emails, he never forgets any occasion and he says i am everything in his life. Yes we've been on for years...but the thing is i never met him yet. He's getting out of the army this year...and now im torn between excitement and nervousness...he's coming...and we will finally meet. Im inlove with a guy i never seen in person.
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7 responses
@mslena75 (561)
• United States
22 Feb 10
If I were you I would be very cautious and not expect too much. Talking and texting and emails and webcams are one thing, but meeting up face to face and living day to day is something else entirely. I would be too quick to make a commitment. Also keep in mind that wars change people, and sometimes you don't even have to be on the front lines. Veterans have trouble adjusting when they are removed from the zone and have to come back to an ordinary existence.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
22 Feb 10
okay. no this is what kind of gets me upset. this stereo type about people in the military being crazy. there are MANY well adjusted people when they get out. some had problems before they went in and it either made it better or worse. when i got out what made it hard to adjust was civilians and there stero types. just remember that he doesn't want to be seen as a psycho war killer who will go off any minutes. also, don't sensationalize or ask him about the war or keep bringing it up. just treat him normal
@ninadocallos (60)
• Philippines
22 Feb 10
I know that is so true...and i fear that as well...
as a matter of fact right before he left for Afghanistan, he asked me to marry him if he comes back alive...
He would often tell me the army changed him alot and he's not the same old guy he was before, but he asked me to just bear with him and be patient...he said everyday is a day of hope when he sees me smile.
Plus the fact that he gets very jealous sometimes, kinda paranoid, but i try to understand coz i believe in him...and i hope things wont change when we finally meet.
@ninadocallos (60)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
His mom would always tell him and tells me that some things have changed with him...whatever the change was he's still the same guy in my eyes...i try not to ask him though about what happened out there in Afghanistan...even though i knew he was shot last year and i wanna know what happened i try not to remind him...i tell him happy things instead thats been happening around me. It seems to work.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
22 Feb 10
hmmm. this situation sounds alot like that war sensationalist/love story called "dear john". in your case it's more exciting cause you have never met. it's really going to be new fresh and exciting. on the other hand, maybe he will be different to tthe person you knew from afar. this is why i wouldn't do an online relationship. by tthe way. just curious...did you get with him because of the hype of him being in the army and in afagan? when i was overseas with the army, i had a lot of hyped up groupies.this really really angered me. i am not saying this is you. i am just curious
@ninadocallos (60)
• Philippines
22 Feb 10
oh i gotta watch that movie, havent seen it yet.
Oh i didnt get with him because of the hype of him being in the army.
He was the one who first contact me. Im a tattoo artist and i usually post some adds on different sites to promote my tattooing, he found me there and invited me and started talking to me.
For the first few days it was just normal talking, and then his sending international text messages became more frequent, which i found so sweet.
By the way im not from the states. He was in the states when we first talked.
I was hesitant at first when he asked me to be his girl because i heard soldiers are players but i gave it a shot. He said he wants to meet me when he gets out of service...coz thats the only time he can leave visit me in my country.
I said it was ok coz we were not talking long yet and the feelings is not that strong yet.
He said he was gonna be out of the army in like 3 months, but then the army gave him one year involutary extention...and so our relationship goes on...and he was even more sweeter while on deployment...he assures me that he's safe and he's getting out of Afghanistan safe for his babygirl....im so inlove with him right now
that im so scared that what if when we meet finally our feeling while talking on the phone or texting or talking on webcam would not become the same....
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
22 Feb 10
well, i hope things go well for you. he sounds really sweet. sometimes i think all people should meet that way at first. it just depends on the situation. remember that when you first meet, do it in neutral territory and do it with a friend. just in case for safety reasons. good luck to you.
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
22 Feb 10
I hope that you have shared photos and I hope that this guy lives up to what he has said and done so far. I would be careful in meeting him for the first time as we all know the stories of women meeting a monster who seemed wonderful online. I wish you the best in the future and keep us posted.
@ninadocallos (60)
• Philippines
22 Feb 10
thanks carolscash....and yup i do have lots of photos of him...also some with his family when he was on leave last year...he's the man of my dreams...just one more step and we're close to having our dream...and i hope it turns our perfect fine...and i will keep you posted.
@ninadocallos (60)
• Philippines
22 Feb 10
thanks laydee....i hope i dont pass out while at the airport lol
@fairytale123 (334)
• China
22 Feb 10
Read your story just like a dream.you boyfriend is so thoughtful.I am envy you.I think as a army is very glamorous.I hope you two have a happy result.
@ninadocallos (60)
• Philippines
22 Feb 10
thank you so much...i think he's the sweetest that happened in my life, that's why despite of bad things i hear from other people and the pain being distant from him i try to hold on.
@Mike4me (567)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
hi there nina, I have a similar experience with you but not with an army, :) he leaves in the states and we met online, first, we talked, just a normal talk and get to know each other, then he first told me he likes me then he loves after a few months of talking online. Of course we weren't sure if it was love or not so we gave it time, after almost a year, our feelings for each other grew stronger and stronger and that we decided to be with each other, well not physically yet, he waited for me till i finish college, since he said it should be my priority. Years have passed and we talk every single day for atleast 12 hours, lol we even watch each other sleep and make sure we know what each one is doing, etc. He's not the kind of person that always goes out with friends so most of his time are with me, except for work. He is the sweetest guy in my planet for me, he is so perfect and i just love him so freaking much. He feels the same too but he always says that he loves me more, lol how can he love me more when i feel that i reached the best, lol. anyway, we've been together for 3 years before we decided to meet. Like you, I was so afraid at first that maybe feelings would change, etc. but if you really are in love, it will never change, you'll get your eyes teary coz of happiness and you will never ever want to be apart from this person ever again, but it just hurts A LOT when you do. but in the end, it's ALL worth it.
@ninadocallos (60)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
awwwww that seems to be a very good story...my story has something more complicated behind it but would fall with that, errrr almost the same :)
i wish you never ending happiness :p
