Thank those who hurt you ,can you do that?

Many years ago, when I was a college student in Manila studying Pharmacy course, I fell in love with beautiful lady neighbor. She was from a wealthy family, while I belong to a middle class. Her parents and brothers were very strict about her going into relationships. At first, she liked me, but as time went by, she began dump me. Then later, I found out she was already dating a very rich guy, my spies reported to me they've seen her boarded his luxury car on to a date. I was hurt. Then other hurting things followed, like her sending me a message to forget her and move on. I was really hurt. But I that served as a challenge to me. I was challenged to move upward and succeed in business and in life. As a experience step by step success now, the hurt in my heart started to turn into "thankfulness". I thank her for the challenge. Even though we are not really meant for each other, now, I am on my way up to success! :)

Yes I've already done that to somebody very special to me but hurt me lots of times. I thanked the person because of what she did, I've known myself better.

hi there, i was googling looking for something like thanking the person who hurt me the most and saw this, though i am 6 months late to response to your discussion. This is what i felt this few days, someone hurt me badly 2 years ago, and it is the most hard thing i ever have to overcome, the pain he caused, the litters tears i shed, though until today. i am in a complicated relationship now, and though i feel upset and sad with the situation that's going on, but somehow i gain the strength from pain and sadness i felt 2 years ago. What i want to say is that, i feel i am such a stronger girl now, as i know nothing can be worst than what i felt before (at least this is what i'm thinking right now =) ). P/s: I'm not even just want to thank him, but i want to buy him a gift, for giving me this strength today. Thank you for such a great discussion too. Have a nice day =)

Having bad situations is sometimes benefit and can help us to know ourselves better and improve our skills and capacities but i wil never thank someone who have hurted me in the past, i would kill them!

Aha yes I can if I am in the mood but most of the time I just ignore the person because if I thank him or her it will only lead to further argument and bad memories. When someone hurts me, its not that a big deal to me as I understand they have a right to vent. I know that deep in their heart they never meant to hurt me.

Well politeness is the best way of victory over the ones who pain you.

hm, ya sometimes we get many valuable lesson or experience from people who hurt us. maybe it can be unforgottenable but it can reminds us minimum we must be careful when want to do that with another people because we had feel it.

As far as I am concerned, I think it is good to say thank you to the person who hurt you . We must say thank you to him or her. No matter how deep that he or she hurt us, we still can learn a lot from the experience . We learn ,we get . So can know much thing from him or her.

I think this is a very hard thing to do and this requires the most noble men to be able to thank people who hurt them. I always end up not liking the person who hurt me. At this point in my life I have so many anger in my heart. I am angry at one person because she hurt me in a way and she's still her hurting. I just dont understand why people like her have to exist.