Arranged marriages in India-a question for the mylot users from India~

Yes it is very true that in India we still have these child marriages taking place although they are illegal and punishable under law.The hard reality is that a greater part of the population is still below the poverty line,illiterate and shrouded by beliefs they cannot eradicate.In many parts of India,specially in villages and undeveloped areas,girls are still considered a menace and the birth of a girl child is not an occasion for rejoicing unlike that of a male child.People feel girls to be a burden and the sooner they can be got rid of,the better for parents.Yes that is how it is here.The dowry system is a huge social evil and therefore,as I said when a girl is born,the parents are more unhappy than happy as they have to marry the daughter along with cash or presents as the groom's family demands.In villages,mostly child marriages take place and as you have seen,marrying two little children,even before they attain puberty is not uncommon here.These marriages can never be happy,but the minds of these female children are moulded to believe that since she is a woman,she must bear all the troubles of raising the family and caring for the husband,including all household chores and even at times beating from the husband or his family members if the adequate demanded amount for dowry is not met by the parents of the bride.Also she is led to believe that under no circumstances must she leave her husband but always be patient and bear his mood and behavior.That's how bad it is. Of course this practice does not exist in urban areas of the country but in rural areas,it is rampant and though a punishable offence by law,nothing seems to be done about this. I agree that most marriages in the US end in divorce but this is only due to the cultural difference.We have been conditioned from our birth to believe that we must strive to make the marriage last,in all circumstances.And do you know,some women even continue their marriages in spite of their husbands having an adulterous relationship?Only because she is financially dependent on him,and even if not so,for fear of the society.Divorced women are not looked upon too well by the society,you see.The society determines your life here.But of course,we are now increasingly breaking out of this mould and more women are becoming independent,and learning to exercise their rights.But that is only may be 10% of the population and I hope the rest will follow soon.Education is a major factor behind the framing of your mind,and I really hope the government caters this facility to every girl child.We really need this to uplift ourselves and live the lives we choose.

i don't think the really get married in the sense that you are familiar with. i think it's something like it's just arranged until they are old enough. until then, it is just a ceremony.

dear friend, the reason, why the divorce rate is 2% here in india, is our heritage this is our culture of course, which differentiates us from the rest of the world.