Will you force your self to forget someone or just let the time heal the wound?

I have been on that stage. It's really hard to let go of someone who has been part of your life. I think that you shouldn't stop yourself from doing so. If you want' to reply then do, do whatever you want as long as it wouldn't go over the bounds of your friendship. That's all you could do it will heal at the same time. That's what I think. That's what I've done. Now here I am picking up the pieces and very happy. :)

I'll just let things go on, and let time heal the wound. I don't believe in forcing yourself to forget since you can never forget someone especially if they were once a big part of your life. I wouldn't also want to forget someone since our shared experiences have made me who i am, and that forgetting her would be tantamount to forgetting everything i experienced including lessons learn while we were together. so for me, i think it's best to let time heal my wounds.

good for you.at least you have realized that you don't need to force yourself just to forget someone. as maturity takes you, you will get strong on your weakness and may even learn to accept the reality of things. i am happy for you.

In my opinion, I will let time heal the wounds. This is the best step in recovering from any pain, unresolved issues and depressions in life. IF you will force yourself to forget someone, the effect is like killing your time by which your present life will be affected. But, if you let time heal the wound, then this will give you a clear understanding and space for you to think properly and accept the possibility of improving your life after the past break up. If a person learns to accept himself from mistakes or consolidations about the past break up. This will open new doors for you in putting yourself as a mature person. In fact, this will make you a more stronger person than before. Your realizations and acceptance will be a good help in the time you are healing yourself. It is normal that no matter how time has past, still you love the person. IT only means that you are able to love freely and can be somebody worth to be loved by somebody in the future. Maintaining a good relationship with her at the present it a good sign of letting time heal wounds. Since, we do not know what future will be, the most important there is after your lessons experience, you can overcome any trials because you let time heal the wounds and let yourself improve more by which you will be more appreciated for your personal thoughts and ways to cope up with life.

i totally agree with u, the more we try to forget our ex, i think we will remember more about our ex. I feel the same too, when i try to forget him, i feel more crazy about him, n sometimes i cry a lot coz he always fills in my head. So i think, its better to let this feeling as is, n the time will cure this feeling. I never want to try to forget him now, because in the deepest of my heart, i never want to forget him. I'll let the memory about him stay alive in my heart.

i agree with you... dont force yourself to do the things that against your will. just let time heal the wound! if you were hurt because of the break-up then let it be! atleast you've experienced and passed it all by yourself. and i know with this experience you will become more matured and firm on your next relationship.

I don't force myself to forget anything. I've learned my lesson. Wishing to forget -- well you just might get it. I began forgetting alot more than just what I wanted to. I prefer to simply sever the feelings' ability to affect myself as strongly, with a process I use to let go and accept things...which heals most of it, at least enough that..as time goes by, it gets easier to deal with.

yup i agree that time heals... we become preoccupied with other things and tend to think about that person less. it also helps if that person is not around you. it would take a lot of self control to move on if she's trying to communicate with you... i bet those days were torture. but if you really feel so strong about that girl then do what makes you happy. i hope everything will work out for you. ^^

Same with me. I mean that's the hardest part of loving someone, it is always difficult to forget especially if that person is still close to you. I believed that time heals all wounds and as time goes by you learn to forget with that someone. I learn also one thing in life, it is impossible to force ourselves to forget that someone, only time can decide when.

That's true sometimes we don't know what we truly feel toward that person. Do we really love that person as a partner or do we like that person as a friend. In the end we just simply hurting our feeling when we thought what we feel is love. But in fact what we feel is just friendship in strongest form.

You can never force it.Healing has its natural way.It doesnt happen overnight or nor do u put a timetable for it. Healing helps us to suffer the pain, bear it , so that we will really learn our lessons so well. And the first step is to accept you are in pain and u must go through the phase and trust that at the end of the end , u will surely come out whole and renewed.

Once I have decided to forget someone, I will do just that, and never turn back. I believe the harder you try to forget someone, the harder it is to let go. I just channel all my energy to something else. Or I could start to search for a new partner. Believe me, I thought it would be very hard at first. However, it took me only about a month or so to forget about the past, or rather, not think about the past. Time is indeed the best healer of all wounds. But to speed up the healing process, we have to consciously put in effort too.

Well i think you will have to force yourself a bit to forget everything cuz once you start doing it again knowing it can't happen u ll be wounded so much that you can't come out of it so all you need to do is forget the memories of the past and step into your future.. all the best..

Ah, I can say I been in this situation before. If you want to move on, you have to change your attitude and renew yourself. Concentrate on creating a new you, a better you. Guaranteed you will forget about her within time. Now all good things will come back to you, if you and her are meant to be together, she will see all the improvements your making in your life and really realize what she had. This may sound like a fairy tale, but its true. In the meantime I would not talk to her like you have before, try to distance yourself with the conversations you do have. I wish the best for you, God Bless.

I am the same. Me and my exboyfriend broke up because of our situations that were so different and that forced us apart. He didn't have much time for me and that was putting alot of strain on our relationship. The thing is that we both love eachother very much. We have been apart for two months now and in that time he's talked to me three times all up. The last time we talked he told me that he still loved me very much and couldn't get over me. That hurt me so much.. I guess I am moving on with life but whenevr we start talking again it reminds me of everything we've been through and that is so painful for me. I know that we can't be together because of how different we are and if we tried, it would end in failure again There will always be that one that you will always love forever and will always remember no matter what and I think that he was that guy for me.