get married with a guy who doesn't have stable job

Money is not everything. No matter how much money a person has, that doesn't make happiness. My husband didn't have a job when I met him. I quit my job to be with him. I firmly believe that money is not ours, but that it is god's. That being said, money has little to no importance to me. I know that it's a necessity to survive, but then again it's not really. I just made a response to someone about a man they met along the road. the man went across the country in a wagon, with two dogs, two horses, his self and his possessions. He survives out in the open, bearing all sorts of weather, with no worries in the world... That's how marriage is. Not saying there isn't worries, as there is, but love and marriage are two things that bring people together, fights happen sure, money fights even, but all that matters in the end is each other.

Hi there friend, I think we can't just consider love as a reason to get married. marriage is a lifetime commitment that's why we must be responsible enough before we marry someone. A guy who doesn't have a job because of laziness should learn to be responsible first before marrying him. If he doesn't have a job then how is he going to support his family. Before marrying someone we should consider the consequences that we might face after marrying him/her. We must be ready to get married and take the responsibility of being a married person before marrying someone.

I think if the reason we married with someone who have not stable job it's Okay even you really love him. But if He is lazy!!! eventhough you love him..It's a foolish action you take. You cannot eat love to take care your life. Use your logic not your feeling.

I have a boyfriend who's unemployed but he's not lazy. It's because until now no one calls him for an interview. Though we're not losing hope. As of being married with him, maybe someday, after he have a stable job. Not because I love him because of his job but because I want to be financially stable for our own good

OMG if you are this person ,dont do it! First you are lucky enough to discover it earlier that he is lazy. He must show first the potential that he can perform the duty of the bread winner with the best that he can. In my case, i would rather marry a poor hardworking guy, than a rich lazy one. Cause i believe a hardworking man can survive pressures and challenges whenever there's a problem with his job or just in case he loses his job someday. A lazy guy might be lucky to land on a good job now, but for how long will he withstand with his kind of attitude. If the guy is lazy, let him live with his mother forever,you find a hardworking one!.

Yes I would get married to a guy who doesn't have a stable job. If I'm truly in love than that wouldn't matter to me because I would be loyal and truthfully to that person because there a big impact on my life. Just because they can't hold a job would not sway my feeling towards them and if there a will there's a way to make it work. Hope this helps

Another good question, careguarden, and one I battle with often. I have a boyfriend, whom I love with every fiber of my being, but he does not hold a stable job. So far, we are just boyfriend and girlfriend, and that is how I want to keep it for a long while. Maybe in the far future, I might marry him. Although, right now, marriages isn't in the cards for me.

marriage is not just about feelings, the family you're going to build needs finances for food, home, shelter and education of the kids. how are you going to provide this when the head of the family has no income at all?the mind and heart should go together when it comes to decision making to get married.

if the guy dont have job or stable then why get married if in the first place you know that financially he cant give you enough of that. besides married can wait. better yet to find stable job first and once both of you or him is already stable then go ahead and get married.

In my opinion, I will not marry a guy who doesn't have a stable job. I have my own standard in selecting a right man for me and how to secure my future. I believe that love has to find many ways. Meaning, love is independently given by any people but it must be in all forms. If you love the person, you will do your best for that person to know and understand your views about life. Love is nothing without eagerness, determination and perseverance. When real love comes, he must also do his roles in securing our future together with me as his number one fan for the betterment of our lives. Love will lead you nowhere if you will not continuously work for it. Entering in a marriage life is not like a piece of item can be bought in store then if you want it to dispose, just have it for auction. Marriage is the another stage of life where you must be aware and prepared. You must think clearly of your individual roles in fulfilling a better life. Though matter how in love you are, still the effect of financial stability will be in argue or problem. It is not bad if you give conditions on your life. It is assurance of security that will lead you to a better life that is meaningful and worth having. A life that will give you many hopes and inspirations not more on regrets.

Dating yes but not get married. After being together for a while, both of us might argue over money issues. Plus, I can't stand a lazy man.

marrying unemployment is my own experience. I married my husband today when he was still unemployment. he was an unemployment not because he's lazy but he's already resigned from his former job for several months and it was almost our wedding day. but I did respect to his decision cos for me it's also the best decision at that time. then, a year later, he was employed at a state company and he has good earning from his job..