What are your views
By hireshd
@hireshd (490)
India
February 23, 2010 2:25am CST
Recently one of friends was on on good terms with his girlfriend.
His girlfriend was in another city and he was in another, they were in love with each other and the guy knew of a person who loved the girl was in the same city and was one of her best friends. When for the first time my friend proposed the girl, she did not talk with him which he had to forget, now he knows that they both spend a lot of time and this creates a sense of insecurity in his minds, he asked her to minimise the time with him on which she got agitated and angry while he knows the guy loves her, last time when she did not talk she had mentioned a reason as she is not talking because he loves and this might send wrong signals to him, while now the same scenario she is not ready to minimise the talkings, is my friend wrong in telling her or she does not love him. They are having a terrible time due to this and they are fighting arguing with each other daily. Who needs to understand and what needs to be done to reduce his insecurity....She keeps on saying it was history and he still feels that pain today beacuse of the different attitude of her in past and in present.
5 responses
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
..hi.. well, I think the big issue there is trust.. if they trust each other and they trust their selves that they will not do anything wrong, then spending time with someone other than her boyfriend is fine.. however, the girl needs to assess her feelings and make sure of whom she really loves.. meanwhile, for the guy, maybe it would be nice for him not to nag his girlfriend.. instead, remind her that he trust her so much because he loves her.. In my personal experience, if the guy do this, the girl will have a second thought of committing any mistakes and will soon realize that seeing the other man is not right after all.. in a relationship, positive thinking is very important.. if the guy loves and trust the girl, then he won't feel any insecurity because he believe that the girl will take care of their relationship.. for now, as a friend, you can explain to the girl about the real situation and how awkward it is for her to spend more time with another man.. as a friend also, you can confront her personally and ask her what she really feels because there's no point letting the boyfriend to believe that she loves her when the reality is, the girl love somebody else.. Do I seem confusing..? I hope you got my point anyhow..
@hera_alhambra (193)
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
it's difficult to keep the relationship going if you're separated from each other. you have to really trust your partner in order for that relationship to survive, you should also be committed to the other person and make sure that you wouldn't want to hurt his / her feelings. they should talk about their feelings and what they want to do if they want to keep their relationship, if it wouldn't work out then i guess it wasn't meant to be. ^^
@clocks123 (1225)
• United States
23 Feb 10
i would have this guy find another girl. she didn't treat him right and dosen't appear to want to marry him. he should find a girl who really loves him, period.
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
hi hireshd! I think the insecurity happens because the guy knew that the other guy loves his girl and her girlfriend seems insensitive to his feelings... I know trust is also an issue there, but in order to make a relationship works, they must "give and take" and should try to avoid the things that would make his or her partner angry or insecure...
I always say that the relationship is composed of 2 person, and they should both do their sacrifice and submit to each other...
@Lata_45 (217)
• India
23 Feb 10
trust is an important factor
well even the gal should understand and spend less time with his friend because ofcourse due to his boy friend and another reaosn would be that the friend is in love with her so she should play with his emotions as specding time with him, this will creat a desire in that friend hurt.
ultimately she will screw up every relationship be it friendship, love and herself tooo
