Why don't women press child support more often?

I also have some friends who doesnt push the father of there child for child support. They said that they want the guy off there lives and they dont want there child to see there father because they are not worth it and irresponsible. I am pregnant but not yet married with my boyfriend, our relationship is smooth sailing and he promised me to get married once he got a job. I dont expect those thing to happen because I know that guy suddenly changes his mind. When the time comes that he will leave me and my baby, I also wont push him to support the child because I dont want him to be a part of our life anymore. I believe that I can raise the child on my own without his support.

While I agree that the father should be held responsible for the child they helped create, not all cases is it wise to be pressing for child support. I think weather or not the mother receives child support is dependant on several factors. Her, and her child's safty being the most important. A woman who may have just gotten out of an abusive relationship should not risk having contact with her partner. And, in some situations it could make things worse. I don't feel the law should get involved in people's personal affairs based on the choices they made. It just tends to complicate things. The law then determines what is best when it is up to those who created the child to make those decisions. Only, if the mother and child in physical danger should the law get involved. Otherwise woman should be left to the raising of their children.

Its one thing to get the child support ordered. A whole different issue enforcing it. I am going through our County Child Support Enforcement, I paid for this service and they are useless. He tells them that he is not working. I have shown them that he drives a company vehicle, uses a company phone, that he talks to them on, I have told them where and when and they just respond with, he says he isnt working. I had to give up my house, he is getting a new one. Something is wrong with this picture.

I have to two kids and they both have the same father. My daughter is on child support and my son is not. The whole process of getting child was a huge inconvenience I constantly had to take time off work to go to court, fill out papers and send them back in the mail. Then by the time is given months have passed. Here in Florida they count child support as apart of the your income even if he is not paying. The child support enforcement agency is very difficult to deal with. ME having an order for my daughter got me kicked out of my income restricted apart, even though I am not receiving it. So for I see why alot of women don't want to waste their time and energy to go after support. Sometimes its easier to cut your losses. I come to think that I need to do it all by myself if one a check comes in the mail that is a bonus but I won't depend on it.

I would expect that only reasons not to press for child support is if the man is too poor to afford it, lost his job, or if he is a dangerous criminal whether in jail or not, and you know that if you asked for child support, he would be able to get to the children and either harm them or turn them into criminals like him. That is the only reason. Pride is not a good reason. Making more money then him is not a good reason. The mother can ask for him to set up a trust fund for the children that you could not touch and that is for their education, or whatever.

I have 2 children by a deadbeat, and I have an order for child support. Never once got a dime til I gave them the information of where he worked, the telephone number and this after being in court and him telling them that he was working!! I had to do all this work. I found the rest of the information thanks to a little birdie and the internet. I think it is insane! 7 years later he has only paid about $1000. The only time my kids get money from him is around income tax season. What about the rest of the year? In my mind to be honest, the effort and the time spent chasing him to pay it, I could be working to supply it for them. And I know that is the wrong way to look at it, but it is the truth, I have come to the point were trying to get it is just a waste of time cause it doesn't get me anywhere except in and out of court where he doesn't show up.

Hi mslena, It can be really frustrating trying to raise kids without child support and even more so if the child support is ordered but never paid. Many of these men work under the table and their income can't be proven. If the court does award say 100.00 per week and the woman goes to get help with housing or other things then that income is included in her income even if she doesn't get it regularly. Housing will take 30% of you child support income for rent as well as 30% of your own income. If you don't get it then you have to make up that 30% out of your own pocket. This extra expense can make it difficult to pay other bills. Sometimes that income can cause some women to not even qualify for any sort of help which can really be difficult if they woman doesn't even get it most of the time or if it is nothing you can count on. My ex got behind thousands. He got away with it because each time we went to court, he'd make a payment of about 200.00 and set up a new payment plan and continue on not paying till the next time .

Sometimes it is not because they are too proud of themselves. If husbands can`t be responsible, why should women be dependent on their ex?It happened to some friends of mine, whose husbands are not responsible.

how would a guy support his child when he cannot support himself - the reason why he was dumped in the first place.