my husband just bought a pocketbike and ditching our goals? what to do?

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It all started when his friend decided that he made a mistake by buying a pocketbike.. so he asked my husband if he's be interested to buy it. Its really brandnew, just used it one time and thats it. So we discussed it, and actually fought over it... the bike costs 20K pesos or about $ 432 dollars! Last november we decided to set our goal for 2010 - so we both decided that he's handle the budget and that each month we would save about $200 so that by the end of the year we would have enough money we can use as a downpayment for a piece of land. So to make the story short, we had to live on a tight budget... we had important plans and goals we had to set aside til the next payday...So now we have about $600 savings... for November until February. Last December, the offer for the pocketbike came.. we fought about it.. I explained to him that that is so immature and no one will benefit from it except him.. He said that he wanted to grab the opportunity since his friend offered to sell it but on installment basis..told him we don't need it. So he told his friend he would think about it, in the meantime, his friend can sell it. Well last night, his friend texted and told him that the bike is still available.. and so we fought again. I asked him if he would be happy if he gets what he wants knowing that there's a lot to sacrifice... amazingly he answered yes! How insensitive.. I have had this experience before where he wanted things and I say no and then he says ok then after a few days.. I hear him talking about him not pursuing his happiness, about him sacrificing his wants.. of course I would feel guilty. And I dont want this to happen again.. I dont want to always get in the way.. but I told him how he disappoints me. Now to cut the already long story short, he got the bike and he is happy..now we only get to save about $100 every month for 5 months which is quite a loss in exchange of his TOY! I am really disappointed and really lost a piece of trust and respect since before when I told him we need to sacrifice our savings so we could work on some important stuff he said no and then yes to a TOY! If you were in my situation, what would you have done and how will you feel? I really need your opinion. Maybe I am just the a party pooper?