when your relationship is sucking out the best in you...
By p3ks626
@p3ks626 (6538)
Philippines
February 23, 2010 7:28pm CST
Fights are normal in a relationship but once a fight is already sucking out the best in you then that's not very healthy anymore. If cases like this happens, I guess it doesnt matter anymore on who's fault is it. And we need not to wait on who's going to apologize first especially is one is already devastated. Has something like this ever happened to you before? What did you do and were you able to still make the relationship work?
4 responses
@moonchild117 (1987)
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
Misunderstandings in any relationship happens. My husband and I fight sometimes fight over the smallest thing. But after heads get cooled, we realize our mistakes and apologize to each other. I think in all relationships, when these things happen, pride should not get in the way. If someone is wrong, they should realize their mistakes and apologize before the relationship crumbles. Both should be humble enough to say sorry if they are wrong.
@moonchild117 (1987)
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
That's true. People would always like to be too proud that it overcomes the love that they're supposed to have for each other. I hope couples or people in a relationship realize that too much pride can be really bad.
@Bhemzky (423)
• Philippines
27 Feb 10
Well I think the first thing we should do is to avoid conflict. That way,fights can be lessen. I write articles about love and relationships. You can read some of my tips to keep someone you love, to make him/her stay with you. Hope I can be of help. This is the link-- http://socyberty.com/relationships/how-to-make-him-or-her-stay/
@keisey (181)
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
there was a time that there was too much tension within the relationship I am in. My husband and I came to the point of shouting at each other and not talking for several hours. I guess for some couples that is quite normal but for us it isn't. We were able to resolve it by just admitting our mistakes and letting go of our pride. It is still best to find a compromise when you are in a relationship rather than run away from it as soon as problems surface.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
We're both in the same situation. Sometimes admitting mistakes is not enough because sometimes the other part just say to end the argument but dont really mean it. Sometimes it is very difficult to have arguments all the time. I tried to keep quite before but it is still the same. The best solution perhaps is face it with a humble heart and forget about the pride.
@Bhemzky (423)
• Philippines
27 Feb 10
I guess its normal for relationships. How do you make a relationship work?
You can try reading this article -- http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/1535051/how_to_make_a_relationship_work.html
I made it myself. Hope you'll learn something from it in handling relationships and making it work. You can leave some comments too..
@skrion (15)
•
25 Feb 10
The only time a conflict, no matter how big or small the cause maybe, never gets resolved, is when pride takes over and it persists to consume both individuals. Admitting one's mistake only comes around when the pride is washed away. I remember someone saying the line...."relationships don't work out, because the individuals involved refuse to work it out"
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
It will actually depend on the couple how they are going to make the relationship work. I just hope when one person would admit his/her mistakes, he/she is doing it just to end the argument but dont really mean what they want to say. If things like this happen we tend to pretend and pretending is not healthy.
