have you lost a loved one?

I lost my dad last year and it hurts me much of course.What hurts me even more was that I wasn't able to spend more time with him when he was already getting older, getting sick and eventually passed away.I was working abroad then and he was staying in my homecountry and that hurts even more imagining him only in my memories and then eventually loosing him. You're asking about how I was able to handle the situation.In my case,I could have cried so much tears, could have grieved for many days. I could have, but I could just can't knowing that I also have responsibilities to where I was during that time. So what I did was to control my emotion and tried to be strong and most of all tried to think that my dads passing away could bring himself relief from all the pain that he is undergoing as he was sick.And most of all , I tried to think that my dad has already found his home in heaven where he is happy and at peace and is watching over me like an angel now. That's all I think of and it makes me feel real better.To know that he's up there keeping watch over me makes me feel his presence beside me always.

i think its a matter of coping and being strong as a person which makes you to be tough.. losing a loved one is always a burden and a big problem but then again look on the brighter side of things.. your loved one is now with god and sooner or later we too will join them..

I lost a baby just before his birth due to gestational diabetes. I had to take it day by day. I found myself crying in some of the most unpredictable situations and that was so hard because I never knew when it would hit me. It was embarrassing sometimes. It mostly bothered me because I could not predict it. It has been well over ten years now and things do seem almost back to normal and then every once in a while I just have a good cry. It helped me a lot to have a kitty to hold. I had to start to try to help others eventually to try to center my mind away from the emptiness. Many times people did not want to talk about it or tried to avoid the subject as if it did not happen. I had to work through each of these situations and give people the benefit of the doubt that it was hard for them to know how to approach me. When I spoke up and told people my needs, the whole tension thing seemed to go out the window. This was a hard question to answer because each situation is so very different.