To Buy a House and Marry ,What Should I do First?
By arina87
@arina87 (4)
China
February 24, 2010 12:48am CST
Hi mylotters and friends,I'm a newcomer here.There is a problem which have put me into embrassment recently.Both my boyfriend and I graduated from college last year,and the house is a practical problem now.As you know,the price of the house is always in the sharp increasing trend.I really want to buy one,and I also want to marry with him.What's your suggestions?Looking forward to your answer.
8 responses
@Nirishasol (879)
• India
24 Feb 10
Hey my dear friend i suggest you if you don't have house then first make your own and then get married OK. It would be better for you and can live happily with your life partner.And all the best my dear friend!
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@daliaj (5674)
• India
24 Feb 10
I don't understand how buying a house will stop you from marriage. Do you think that marriage will increase your expenses? You are going to share your expenses with him after marriage. Do you think that you need to spend a lot of money for wedding functions? In that case go for a simple marriage only with your close family and friends. I don't think that marriage will any way stop your intention to buy a house.
@arina87 (4)
• China
24 Feb 10
In the countryside of China,people build or fit up a new house before marry.It's a traditional idea.But we are now living in the city,it will spend several years to get it.ok,if we marry now,we have to rent a house due to our poor income.Anyway,thank you very much,my friend.
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@kprofgames (3091)
• United States
24 Feb 10
A lot of new couples rent appartments before they buy a home. I understand that it is a tradition, but would you really want to wait to marry him for the sake of having a house?
As you said, living in a house would be away from the city and be more difficult for transportation. Traditions are nice, but then we have to be practical too. I think if you two get married, live in an appartment in the city you BOTH would be saving money together for a house later on.
I think it would be sad to miss out on getting married and living with a husband for the sake of saving money to buy a house.
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@sandipanbhuiya (134)
• India
24 Feb 10
According to me a roof over head is very much mandatory in a person's life at first. I know the price of any house in any country is very high. But you should set up a good house for you at first, to run your happily married life smoothly.
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@historydog (239)
• China
24 Feb 10
Welcome to mylot,dear friend,
I don't think it was a difficult decision.You should buy a house firstly.Because without a house,there will be no room for your love to place.Having yourselves house could also makes you mature. Happy mylot.
@TeamCholent (2832)
• United States
3 Mar 10
I know this is late but better late than never. I would suggest first focusing on a solid employment and then maybe get engaged while saving for the house. There is no reason to purchase a house and then have to suffer and have it taken away since you can't afford the payments.
A house is a great investment but only if you can afford it. Wishing you luck in the future!
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@emine08 (1551)
• Indonesia
4 Mar 10
hello arina87, i think a house is your second priority. i mean you get married first and then you can plan to have a house. i think it isn't a woman responbility to have a house but it is for men. it is a habit in my country. so good luck with your plan arina.
@shawn5260 (53)
• China
25 Mar 10
Wow,so exciting,would mind introduce a guy in you country to me?haha,joking!i am totally understand arina's embarassment.in china,to having a own house is a dream for every graduated student,they wanna work in city,get good offer,find the Right man or woman,......but the cost for living in city is too high to strive.here are some advices for arina,if you and your bf are really falling love with each other,then go to your hometown or his hometown,find a job,get married,and settle down.cause if you live in city,you should spend more on striving,and that may make you miss your real love and happly life.i think there is nothing more precious than a happly family.
@soulburn (414)
• Romania
11 Mar 10
My personal opinion is that you'd better buy a temporary house for a year or two than marry.You'll always have money and ways to get them ...but love is a little slippery.
Although his is a big decision that shouldn't be discussed on internet. This will affect your own future,not ours! Good luck!
