controlling men
By xxhot_iexx
@xxhot_iexx (8)
November 15, 2006 5:26pm CST
why do black men think if they go out with a white women that they can control them more then a black women.
i have relized this with every black men that i have been with that this is true, then thye relize that no man no matter what color you may be is gonna control me
have any of you experienced this before?
what are you sides to this?
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4 responses
@sarah22 (3979)
• United States
16 Nov 06
Well, i cannot stand a controlling man. i dated one many years back and he always was tring to tell me what i could wear and what i could not. who i could be friends with and so fort. so i kicked him to the curb. i have a friend who lets herhubbie controll her and hes a black man, but he is a nice person and not too harsh with her. some are just like that, i have no idea why.
@xxhot_iexx (8)
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16 Nov 06
yeah mine was doing that telling me how to dress what i could do and who i couldnt hang out with then i put my foot down and said if youre gonna do this then it anit worth being with you and we are as happy as can be
@LadyCroft (701)
• Australia
15 Nov 06
LOL I believe that Coloured men truely only go out with white women because they are sick of being pushed around by coloured women...LMAO (Partially a joke)
Seriously, Coloured Women have struggled much much more than white women to get where they are. And they are stronger for it. White women are no where near as strong (mentally) simply because we havent been through generations of hell.
@xxhot_iexx (8)
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16 Nov 06
a agree with u partly but me only being a teen i have been throw a lot of sh*t that not many black women have been throw and i am a white women so thats a true statment on part of what u said but a lot of white have been throw just as much hell as a black women
@magikrose (5429)
• United States
15 Nov 06
I dont know but I have seen that with a few of my friends who date black men. I dont understand it either. It could be that they know they cant boss a black women arround because she will tell him off and we tend to be more passive. Who knows there could be a million diffrent reasons.
@jessicameron (374)
• United States
16 Nov 06
The reason black women are notorious for being a dominating force in their families dates back to the antebellum South... I actually did a paper this semester on slave families and my research touched on this. The theory is that oftentimes the father in a slave family was not a constant presence in their childrens lives, for more reasons than one. First, it killed them to see their wives and/or children mistreated and not be able to do anything about it, so it was easier to marry someone from a neighboring plantation and just get passes to go visit. But sometimes they didn't even have this--men were often sold and sent far away from their families and it was the women who stayed with the children who were too young to be on their own. Thirdly, even if the father wasn't sold, and even if he did live on the same plantation as his family, he still didn't have much authority. Slaveowners saw too it that the men's authority was undermined as much as possible to keep them from getting feelings of power that could ultimately build and lead to rebellion. So due to these roots, black women instinctively are matriarchal and black men instinctively know that's how it works! Hope this helps!
