faith or he just fooling me
By mapuang
@mapuang (612)
Philippines
February 24, 2010 5:17am CST
hi everyone, its been many months since i don't have a chance to open and post in mylot. well anyway, i have this problem or let say confusion if its faith or he just fooling me. for you to understand i will tell you the story...
i have a chatmate, we've been chatmate for 2 years now. we are in different country. he works as a seaman. as we all know seaman is always oncall. everytime he going down in ship and back to his hometown he always face a problem so that's why he cannot able to visit me. yes i try and i really understand it but until when? it is so hard and its tiring to wait to be with him. i asked my family and friend about this, and some say he just fooling me and some say maybe God test both of you if you have faith to each other. What do you think is this? is it God test our faith or he just fooling me?
5 responses
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
You will know by your heart if the person is really telling you the truth. Long distance relationship is not a problem. As long as the person is willing and keep the relationship going, he or she will do what is best to be happy.
As what you have said, 2 years is way to long since he is working as a seaman, so the problem was meeting each other in the flesh right? not only online. Meeting the person face to face is really important. You cannot base your feelings on ONLINE TALE or TELL only. Your relatives or friends should have also asking you when is it going to happen or is there really something to hold on for?
A man should decide, location is not a problem. If he really loves you, then by no means he will come to meet you. But set him a deadline, waiting for FOREVER is a no-no. We all age even as your parents and loved ones age. So if you still are hoping for that relationship, then ask your man when will you meet. Give a deadline, if he will never set any date, well all will be of waste. It is really difficult to wait.
About the question of faith, well if you think you are doing the will of God, then relationship that is in wait for something that is not related to the growth or walk of faith in God has nothing to do with it.
Trust and being Honest is what will take your relationship to another level not Faith (faith pertains only to spiritual things). I don't put my faith in men but to God alone. Happy Mylotting.
@mapuang (612)
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
Yes your correct i need to give him a deadline this time. Yah i can't wait forever. hmm maybe its really a trust and being honest. yes you are right faith is for god not for a person (thanks for correcting me) Thanks for the good advise. In love, no matter how far you are, you will find way to be with your love one even you see hindrance and/or obstacle. happy mylotting.
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
Yes, coz it happened to me. I already experienced it. My husband is a foreigner, i gave him a deadline when we were just sweethearts, so he did come and meet me, and he did find ways in order to make his promise to me. So i hope you can meet your loved one too. Happy Mylotting.
@esteler (3)
• Indonesia
24 Feb 10
hi,
in my opinion, God will never fool us..
man can fool us
so, i think u should talk to your chatmate, and give him a question
are u in the game or not?
you shouldn't let him play with your heart, your heart is too precious to be hurted by a man who don't have his manhood to meet face to face
i hope you understand
and always remember, God never give stone to the children who ask for bread
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
27 Feb 10
theres a lot of way how to figure out if the guy fool you or not. if he really love you then he will do something to meet you since you've been chatting for 2 years now. it doesnt matter if he have problem if his off as everyone have problem but if he really want to then he will find way. did he tried to give you gift? or something that will make you feel that his serious to you. if none then think twice now. if the two of you just chatting and talking those years without exchanging gift or even a calls from him then forget him. i used to have chatmate before. ive been chatting to him for many years but on the first year his been calling me always, then keep on giving me gift. then he promised to meet with me though we cant able to meet for many times due to his business but he showed me his plane ticket online to prove he tried and its paid already till we finally meet.
@udaysexy (32)
• United States
24 Feb 10
all i can tell you is that if he loves you that much, then he would find time to come and visit you, this is based from my own experience...
@Beautyfactor (1512)
•
25 Feb 10
You have to be honest with yourself here, what do you honsetly think this person is doing. When you are in love you can be often blinded by it.
My personal opinion is that long distance relationships seldom work. I don't think you can ever truly be in love with someone if you have not spent time with them, face to face. Two years is a long time to wait around for someone who cannot make the time to come and see you. I hope you come to resolve this issue sooner rather than later.
@mapuang (612)
• Philippines
10 Mar 10
thanks for responding. Yes two years is long enough to wait him. i know that i'm blind in regards to this. anyway i give him a deadline already if he's not able to come this time yea this is the right time to let him go because this will not work anymore. anyway i'll keep you updated lol. again thanks for responding. happy mylotting