'Down But Not Out'

I am not sure that I have ever had a discussion deleted. Is it the one that attracted the stalker? Sometimes it is not your fault, but that of the people who are responding. I would take it to heart, and try to do differently the next time. My feelings might hurt a little, but as you said, ten pages of respondents must have wanted to participate, and be your friends.

Well dear that is part of mylot life. You are not the only one who suffered this. I myself have had two very well responded discussions which were deleted for no clear reasons at all. Well not all is lost after all. I still have the chance to create more discussions so instead of sulking I just took it as a lesson and a challenge as well. So cheer up my friend!

In situation beyond my control I let it go or I fight. There is nothing I can do, but be upset for the moment and I think what I can do. Lately I am very humble, because many people related to me are sick.Everything else is secondary in less important. Yes, when good discussions are gone without the reason I would send the message to admin for an explanation.

Cheer up and don't let anyone get you down. Keep doing your work here as you know that they won't delete every discussion. Prove that you are going to do this despite the mistakes that they seem to think that you have made. Enjoy the site for what it is and work it for what you want it to be for you.

I’ve been where you are now and, although I am a person who chooses not to stress over what I cannot control, there are some instances when you have been unfairly treated and it hurts too much not to react. We are only human, after all… When I had my discussions deleted my initial instinct was to log off and never come back to MyLot but I knew that would never happen so I allowed myself a little time to analyse the situation, feel the appropriate emotions and decide what I could do about it which was nothing so I made the decision to do better next time and move on.

All have limitation so something must goes beyond control. It is not miserable but normal. All people like to bring under control everything but everything is not possible to bring under control. So we all need to know our limitation and knowing our limitation we fix out target in such position that can't go beyond control then we need not to be satisfied. It is not right that world will run in our way. World run ion its way and we need to keep redeem with the movement of the world. If our choice is against the wave that we need to sail our life boat against the flow. Normally common people sail their life boat in the wave in a smooth direction. But many people are there they like to react the normal wave and they want to find new route. When people thing against the common thought of the people they have to face hardship. But they have strong mentality to fight against the common thought. Law are establish to restore social peace. But law has also some limitation and law are not rigid. With the change of time law are also changed. But in this who want to change the law have to face hardship. Because initially common people can't accept those. So we get so many revolutionary personality who fight against the law and establish new law for the society. Law is created by man and for restoring social decency it is restrain. But law is not absolute and rigid. So you can't say that if law is violated it is absolute fault. We need to break some established law for good reason too. All deletion of discussion here are not reasonable. And saying it may be considered as violation but I have not said so with any devilish intention.

I do not take being out of control of having things beyond my control very well, but I do not turn into a dominant person either. This is what I do. I sit back and access the situation, and decide what needs to be done. If I need to tell someone else what to do, as opposed to commanding, I reason. Take my husband, for example. "If we are going to be able to afford this, we are going to need to do this, because this is what will happen if we don't, and this is what will happen if we do. My part in this will be, but in order for it to succeed I need you to..." and so on, and so forth. He tends to go with the flow and get into trouble, I tend to be very controlling, but I want to be in control of myself. Now, if I am in a situation where someone else tries to control my behaviour, I don't put up with that at all.

I guess it's one of those times when you hve to accept it and move on hun. Sure it's depressing when you feel that you have been penalised unfairly, and it does feel like you just want to quit, but to quote Scarlet O'Hara "Tomorrow is another day" Don't let it get you down hun

I am able to stay up beat most times. I've been on myLot for more than 3 years, and have never had a discussion deleted, however my rank has been 7 for at least 3 years. My rank never moves either up nor down, and I believe this is because I say exactly what I think. My feeling is - to be a good myLotter I must be completely honest, and not worried about the consequences when some myLotters take offense. I do try not to be rude, or judgmental, but obviously there are some who disagree with my principals.

Dear Zandi Unless things get tough, we will never have a chance to realise how lucky we are when they go smoothly. If we never fall down, we can never learn how to pick ourslelves up, right? Just like too much sun is not good for the plants and they need the rain, we need some bumps in our road or it would be a very monotonous drive don't you think? You and me both, and many others, have been through worse events on here and we are still going strong. It takes spirit to keep going and ours is still burning strong. In my opinion you kept your calm really well considering the circumstances and one deleted discussion is the only bruise that you have to show for it. Bruises toughen us up for the next event... and who knows when that might be? I have had more than a discussion deleted but I carried on and it will take much more to keep me from posting here. This place is home and there are friends that seem like a family and when things go wrong they rally round and help pick us up and spur us on. We are not put off by one missing response!

it only makes me work for more discussions, more quality. i don't feel disappointed but rather motivate myself to do more. it will not make me quit as quitters are losers.

I hate that feeling for sure. I take it personally when something like that happens. Seems like misubderstanding come up in life no matter where it is. I think it's so ugly for people to act like they do & u pay the price of their meaness & ugliness. I love sunshine to but am not one to walk off when i think people are being ugly to me without any reason . The only thing i can figure out about people who act like this is that they are miserable & want everyone else to be. U hang in there. U are a treasure on mylot & the riffrats come & go. I am a firm believer in what goes around comes around.

Get MOTIVATED and let it go on,,we are not perfect,,maybe a lil rest will help

Tbh , Idc if people post discussions that aren't "ethical", so I don't see why MYLOT should care either. It's just harmless talking... As for ur razor tongue: u'll have to show me what u mean. "RAZOR" as in straight to the point and Un euphemistic? Or offensive replies?

I try not to let circumstances that are beyond my control bother me, but sometimes the do, of course. Sometimes you just run across people who are aggravating and it is really hard to hold back that razor sharp comeback...

Hello Zandi, maybe it has something to do with the person that you are referring to. am sure some one thinks that the situation has gotten ugly that they reported it some how. b.b..but wait? i responded to that topic, what the? yeah i think i remember that discussion. i have the same experience myself but i don't let it get to me, most specially if the admin deleted it, i always know that when it is deleted then i really made the mistake.