How to nurture a relationship?

hi there climber, hmm nurturing relationship for me is also enduring and assuring. Nurturing relationship is taking the longer term view.If you nurture relationship you take care, you love, you cherish.

Well, in my own experience nurturing a relationship isn't hard as you think it is. Just as long as you have that special love for your partner and everything will just go along. Why I'm saying this is because when you are in love, you will finally know what you want in your life, you will realize things that you haven't realized when you were still not in that place. Well, I know i did. So when you are in love, you will do everything just to keep you relationship in the best state as possible. When you are in love, nothing seems to matter. So what i do is to stay sweet with him, not only when you started dating, a lot of people seemed to notice this with their partners. Another thing is to be honest ALL THE TIME, honesty is very important, your partner is your best friend, you can tell him everything, no lies, no secrets. Don't ever forget that you are also best friends so do something fun together, do something unique. You should also tell your partner how much you love them everyday, I do that all the time. You have to be open-minded and understanding because everyday as you with the person, you'll get to know more and more about him and sometimes they are just not as good as you think, so you need your feelings and mind prepared in situations like this, and when it happens don't forget about the main reason why you are with him, LOVE.

What I find is that we Truly listen to one another. It's new so we are still learning about each other but I hope that we always listen to each other.

Nuturing a relationship takes and needs time, as well as patience.. It's not easy, but it's not that difficult too, when both are truely loving each other.. When there's real love, there wont be any 'me' in the relationship, but only 'us'.. Thus whatever one do, they have to think of the overall picture, and that in term is a kind of nuturing too ^_^ It takes a certain level of understanding so that, no words need to be spoken, to know what each other is thinking and wants.. As such it's also a form of art of communication ^_^

This is such an extremely key element in the success of any relationship!! Open communication where relatively anything can be said Turn based communication: I state my case, he states his Listening time: I state my case, no argument, he states his, no argument Compliment each other often Laugh in a serious situation Say random silly things Leave each other random notes Don't spend every waking moment together or focused on each other Take nothing for granted We don't make promises - Broken promises , intentional or not, lead to negative feelings We dont lavish each other with money or material things - This makes the occasional gift a truly special, more appreciated thing We share our spiritual views We both meditate regularly We both exercise regularly - he martial arts/weights.. I do yoga and kickboxing We compromise on simple things We try not to dwell on the negative for long amounts of time We are brutally honest with each other - When he thinks I'm acting like a spoiled little brat, he will say so. When I feel as if his friends are influencing him in a negative manner, I tell him. Then we discuss why we each feel that way. I could go on for hours :P

A relationship should posses give and take factor. Between a couple if one partner is the only one who's giving more, and the other one is just keep on taking the result of that relationship will be failure. Giving includes intimacy, caring, sharing, understanding and whatsoever. When one partner is giving more than the other one, this is not love. One is taking advantage of the other. When one partner trusts that his or her partner is faithful and trustworthy while the partner is out spreading it around like there is no tomorrow then someone is bound to get hurt. Two people who are giving the best of each other, their relationship often leads to love. Giving is one of the elements that compose love. Love is the ultimate of it all.

That's easy, I adopt stray cats!! LOL. But seriously, its very difficult to actually explain. We challenge each other daily in different ways. I can't speak for my loved one, but as for me, I don't focus on the bad things, I accept them. I don't want to change her, that would mean I don't love her for who she is. We were once told,"you two fight passionately and love passionately". We do indeed have our share of fights and sometimes we don't even know what we are fighting about, so maybe its just venting!

I think the base is that trust and communication is the main point in the relationship. Loving and feeling loved is also another important part in a relationship. Recently me and my husband read a book called "5 Love Languages". Although there is nothing wrong with our relationship we would love to learn to enhance our love and nurture the relationship. From the book we learned there are many ways to show love and different ppl have different love language. For me it is receiving gift, so when my husband buy gifts for me, or surprise me with something, I will feel loved. But that is not the case with my husband, even if i give him gifts it doesnt really fill up his love tanks, but say if I prepare meal for him, do laundry for him and all those then he will feel that I am doing an act of love to him. So nowadays, we try to love each other using our own particular language. And also we always spend time to be alone together at least once a week, to talk, to share, to go on picnics and all those stuff

A friend of mine posted a statement about his girlfriend and it truly is what we want to feel. His post.... "For me, she is most assuredly the woman to enjoy the test of time with, and absolutely someone with whom fair or foul weather could not pull or push me away from" one of the best loves of my life told me once "I want to make you my world" For me that is exactly what I want. Not the smothering type, just someone who shows me in everything that he does that he is there with me and for me, always. We don't ever want to feel someone has a stronger bond with our partner than us. You would talk to us about things that no one else would ever know about. EVER. We should know you best and can handle your worst. More importantly, we dont ever want to find you making a "back up plan." Men and women alike are all guilty of it, when you have something good, it was not what you dreamt up and imagined for your perfect match, yet its still great. SO... We continue to seek our "perfection" or "greener grass." Appreciate the good things you have and hold onto them, you could be left without them or with something else, worse. You are a good man, and shouldn't have trouble. Drop the back up plans (if you are the type to do this), all of them. We can sense we are just a "way for time to pass" until something better comes along. It pulls us away from you. No one is perfect. And until you can marry your imagination, she doesn't exist. If she does, chances are she will change as she gets older anyway, as will you. Thats the Journey, you just pick a co-pilot and depend on each other for everything, and no one else.