What sort of punishment will you allow for your child? any idea and suggestion?

Philippines
February 24, 2010 11:28am CST
I am a mother of 4 kids, and my eldest son is 12 years old already, i have a trouble of what discipline am i going to take right now since he is already addicted to computer games. I can't even control him at home because other members of our family also plays internet games that makes him fond of. Sometimes he goes outside without my knowledge together with his friends but when i consulted him, he got a lot of reasons and so on and so forth. I ended up of losing my control, what should i do to him? and what concerns me is that there are younger kids to follow and see what he has done and sooner might follow his footsteps..any help and idea please???
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@deebomb (15304)
• United States
24 Feb 10
Kids are wonderful at manipulating us parents. It's their job to keep us on our toes. !2 years old is old enough to understand what he is doing. You have to be smarter than he is. sit down with him and go over your rules and write them down then come up with a discipline for breaking each rule. Also come up with a reward for when he is following those rules. Make sure he reads the rules and understands them. then have him sign the set of rules. Some you may want to negotiate so he doesn't feel entirely powerless. Chose those that are the most important to you to stand firm on. Also let him know that some of your hard and fast rules can be negotiated as he becomes more responsible and older. As far as the internet and video games are concerned they are a privilege not a right even if some one else is playing them. after all your the parent. You have to get the other members in the house hold to cooperate too.
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
Thanks for reminding me as a parent, I may have been too loose for him these past few days, and the fact is that i am away for him too sometimes.I already applied some of the advices and seems quiet good for a while and then goes back after a couple of time.
• United States
24 Feb 10
You need to be stern. It doesn't matter if someone in the house is also playing on the computer take the games away. He does not know you are the boss and this needs to be made plain and clear. Take things away ground him and if that doesn't work lock him in his room. At that I mean make him stay in there with no fun items to do. I remember being grounded even from listening to my music at times, it will not hurt him and teach him the respect he will need to be a good, dependable man both in his own home and society.
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
Yeah, right! i also experienced that kind of punishment too when i was a kid. I do that when he was still a kid, but maybe now that he is already growing and a teenager already maybe it is not applicable to him any longer i guess so.
• Philippines
2 Mar 10
The only advice I can give you is that you should talk to them in a nice way and explain them because I believe that he can understand and realized of what he is doing...And if it is the same of his doing I think you should ask help from your husband so that he will be the one to discipline your son....
@siliguri (4241)
• India
26 Feb 10
If the situations arise that i have to punish the child in anyway then i take his/her thing which he/she like most..I think this is the best thing we should do with the children...if they do some mistakes...
• India
24 Feb 10
sorry for this message i cant tell anything about this because still not i am married
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
thanks anyway nagendra, i understand i am just quite intrigue of your opinion what it will be if you happens to be my son, what punish would be acceptable to you.Would it be physical or spiritual punishment.
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
Sad to say i am not yet a parent, but i just want to share my opinion of i happens to be a parent someday... Maybe i will give my child a little bit consideration in playing computer games sometimes but i will put a limit.. like 1 hour limitation in playing, in such a way... i can also win the heart of my child. I am sure sometimes we need to be tough and considerate and treat them as co friend and learn their interests too.