Good times get friends, hard times test them

Hi, Icesmile! When things aren't going so well, it's easy to see who your friends really are. I've had so many major challenges, I've discovered a few whom I treasure, and many who forget me until everything's OK again, or until they want something from me.

hi Icesmile! Actually, I had an incident happen to me in 9th grade,i had a close group of 4 friends and then many others in other groups. I wondered,other then one who was like a sister and stayed with me in the hospital the few days i was there, if the others would or be embarrassed. Amazingly 3 were there for me, the other ones mom told her to have nothing to do with me and never bring me home again!!! Others came forward who had been in outer circle and included me too. I heard whispers sometimes when i passed, but they were from people I did not know. I am sure they had just heard and were gossiping. When i was older I helped everyone and everyone came to me for everything from counsel,to dinners and babysitting;more people were friends then i could count. A semi-truck hit me and i could not even stand long, much less function very well. I had 4 small children ages 1,3,5,7. For the first few months friends were there...then as it took 3 years of docs,and specialists they slowly faded when i could not go on trips or have their children over as i could not watch them well..Only about 4 out of 50 friends stayed in my life. Amazing isnt it? Everyone is your friend when you can help and give.However, be the one who needs help and they all disappear!! I am STILl friends with 3 of the 4 from high school and we talk on phone and internet.Guess the best friends can be forged in jr/sr high!! Thanks for the question, Arcticwolf

Hey icesmile! Most of the friends that I have now will always be with me in good times and in bad times! Mostly, I guess that is the biggest test of friendship is when you are going through hard times and your friends stick by you! The friends that I have now have been friends of mine for quite some time and I know will remain my friends no matter what we all go through we are always there for each other and that is what friendship is all about!

thats true, friends are good only during good times, but you can tell who is true and who is not in times of bad times. i used to have a lot of friends before. we used to go out of town, having fun to the bar, go out to watch movie, dine out and etc. and when i lost my job they just gone not even a text from them, if i send them message theres no reply. maybe theyre thinking that im going to sk money from them. i know i need money but i still have my family who can support me with any help i need. i jut hate those who are user.

I only have one person like that. Well aside from my partner. That I can consider a true friend. Sure people grow and change, but this is redicilious. Only one of my friends has stuck by me, as I have stuck by her. Those friends are real friends... and they are far and few inbetween. I treasure those people that are close to me.

Yes that is so true. I don't really think that our friends are the kind of friends we think they are. Most of them are just there because you know them and you once shared a part of your lives together, like classmates, or coworkers and such. real friends a rare to find, i know i have a few, the best one is my twin sister, she's the real friend I got, she's like my best friend, she knows everything and understands how i really feel towards stuff, of course I feel the same way about her as well. Second is my fiance, he is my other best friend aside from my twin, he knows everything about me, about how i feel and such, it's because we don;t keep any secrets from each other. I have another best friend too, she was my classmate in college and like my sister and fiance, she's always there for me whenever I needed her and I do the same to her. Guess theyare the only ones :)

If my friends were only there for the good times, then they would not be friends at all. I have not had any friends who have abandoned me during the bad times, so I have been lucky. However, if they did, then I would not consider them my friends. I'd simply cut my losses, and move on with my life.