ever get tired of being the responsible one?

I have been responsible, though i have to ask for money from time to time, and i always pay it back. But thats because i make so little and have debt do to past health issues and student loan. I do my best to take care of things myself. I try to find a happy medium, and that usually means i have no savings though, which i have changed, some what. My thing is we are not promised a tomorrow, so i try to enjoy today, even if it means i am constantly broke. Though i do make sure all my bills are paid first. I hate being late on anything, and its killing me i have debt, but its getting smaller and smaller each month, and then when i am debt free i will have more breathing room to do the funny things i want. I never really had a chance to be irresponsible and the times i tried it always back fired.

I keep hearing about these strange things, Trips & vacations... Apparently my lazy unemployed ex wife knows all about them but she won't tell me anything. Apparently they accept food stamps on cruises. I don't get how that type of people do so well while I have to slave my a$$ off just to barely get by. It pisses me off!

I admire you as a couple for being so responsible. This has helped you in having a house of your own and being debt free. I do agree with you that today's actions will affect us tomorrow. I always believe that it is better to save for a rainy day

Your 28 and responsible? I'm 53 and still responsible so I don't see an end to the road for you anytime soon. I've raised 4 kids on my own with random and minimal child support. they are all as independent as i am. Your post struck a chord with me because lately it seems that I am the taxi for everyone. I work full time 2nd shift and have 3 days off during the week. My brother broke his foot in an accident that was his fault. He was drinking and he got away without getting charged for that which amazes me but he gets away with all sorts of things. Anyway...I drive him to all his errands. I also have a 23 yr old that has no vehicle or license and I try to help her out. Shes my daughter and she very rarely asks for help. then there is my mom's cousin...she doesn't even ask...she just sets up appointments and tells me when they are. I've raised my girls and been both mom and dad to the best of my ability. I work full time and I cover for overtime a lot of the time. I take my grandchildren whenever I'm able. My daughter is in sports and has an active social life so it is constant running. Oh you bet...I'm freaking tired of being the responsible one. I just want a shower...then I'll be good again....well..maybe.

Yes, it often seems unfair that some people have to work so hard to balance their finances whilst others just seem to have money to burn but I am glad that i was brought up by parents who had very little but always lived within their means. it has held me in very good stead, particularly when we were setting up home and since my husband has been unable to work. I think I've passed on the 'frugal gene' to my sons as they always make sure their bills are paid & any other financial responsibilities are met before anything else.

Hi moonlit! You should be so very proud of yourself and your husband! You have done what many of us have never been able to say or do! I have been in debt all my life and I am more than twice your age and am still in debt and now am on Disability! I worked for over 40 years and have nothing to show for it! So, be thankful and proud that you started out young and have something wonderful to show for it! You have a house that you own and are debt free! And one day you will be able to go on vacations and raise you children and have a wonderful life the way it is supposed to be! Don't ever wish that you did things different!

since credit card companies are jacking up rates due to the new obama law designed to help consumers who use credit cards not be taken advantage of you will probably be glad even more you paid things on time. the law doesn't take effect immediately but later on so it gives credit card companies time to jack up their rates even more to counteract the new credit card law before it takes effect. i don't if its affecting you if you do use credit cards because there even jacking it up on people with good credit but at least you won't be hurt like the others who already have high amounts of debt.

hi friend..this is usual everyones life..i think like this..number times i get tired to answer peaople..at the same time i used to torure others in the same mannaer..if i could not get the correct answer for something..i wont allow them to go away..i will keep on asking doubts..this is my one the character from my childhood itself... i like to change this but i cant.i think mainly we cant answer for childrens doubts..they will ask for everything around them..everyever they go..at any time day and night..they are ready to ask doubt...what to do..they new to this world know...we must answer them i am not better from my childhood...i am not torturing others that much...but my brother's sons and daughtrs are torturing me now..i am the last in my home...for them i am looking like a small girl... this is what i expect from them...whatever i did to my borthers while i was a child ..their childrens are doing it for me....have a nice time in mylotting

Being responsible should have limitations also since we might not help others at all to be responsible also. Sometimes we get tired for being one if the people around us are not moving. But if we stick on our goals, we wont get tired and we can revive the motivation to be more responsible. Just don't let others be always dependent because they will not learn the difficulties of life we need to conquere :)

Yes, A lot! Everybody makes me the responsible one and expect me to do the things and do it right. so when I can't do it or do it wrongly, everybody blames me and makes me the "bad" one when it shouldn't be me. should be the person who didn't do it.

This is the type of discussions that I really feel that replying. I very much agree to how it feels being responsb for erything and you are so bogged down by this petty things that we are not able to enjoy what we should. I have understood that you have married early which could also be adding to the stress. If possible try to take some time off from your routine life.