How can i get a girlfriend?
@castlehillpeter (52)
China
February 24, 2010 6:05pm CST
You know i am a boy 23 years old,but i don't have a girlfriend.How sad it is!The most important thing is that i don't know what should we talk about.what's more,when i open my mouth,my face gets blushed immediately.I was so shy to talk to a girl.I don't what the girls' favorite topics are.What should i do!
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8 responses
@lakerfanster (2577)
•
25 Feb 10
I would say try and just make friends with a girl and then see how it goes and if you have real feelings then it would be more relaxed and it would be easier to tell her. Good luck.
@anc457 (186)
• Thailand
25 Feb 10
you're still young to worry about that :-) when you're finally there then you'llknow what to do. if you're thinking to much then nothings gonna happen. Action is what girls want. being too shy won't do you nothing, you'll never get a girlfriend in that case. maybe try asking your dad for some tips on that matter.
@castlehillpeter (52)
• China
28 Feb 10
I don't think i am to young to make a girlfriend,and i am trying to be brave to girl.
@acie_21 (5633)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
hi there!
here are some important tips..heheheh!
1
Be confident. Have good posture and body language. Bad posture gives the impression of low confidence.
2
Pick a location frequented by a significant number of girls where you feel fairly comfortable, perhaps a place that is conducive to a skill of yours: music, public speaking, or a private intimate conversation. Go out and have a good time. Guys who stare and walk around constantly looking for women can come off as creepy.
3
Be funny. If you're not naturally funny, don't try too hard around her. Situational humor in the form of dry observation is more interesting than an actual joke with a set-up and a punch-line.
4
Connect with her. Find out what you have in common, and reward her with a smile and a story of your own if she tells you something unique about herself to which you can relate. Don't pretend to be someone you aren't. You may think you will win her over with like-mindedness, but in the end she will find you out. Find a common interest, something you both like instead. Find some thing to talk about, it will be kind of awkward if you and your girlfriend were on a date and were quiet the whole time. If you don't know what to talk about, talk about something that interests her. You can talk about things such as her interests, work, recent events, etc. Also, don't talk too much, give her a chance to talk too.
5
Look and touch. Looking into a girl's eyes shows respect and interest. A firm handshake, a gentle pat on the back, a light touch of the hand and other subtle gestures allow the girl to feel connected with the guy.
6
Show your interest. The best way to get out of the "friend trap" is to avoid it from the start. After finding common interests, make your intentions clear. Ask for her number. Give her your phone, tell her "Put your number in my phone and I'll call your phone so you'll have mine." Tell her you'd like to take her out for coffee or dinner, or whatever is appropriate for your age and interests. Never ignore your girlfriend, she might think your not interested her.
or...JUST BE YOURSELF!...its very important to be what you are by not pretending...
so that woman wont have difficulties to adjust on you..
dont be a Macho....just be flexible and fun to be with...
goodluck!
happy posting!
@pierrella (1087)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
Just be yourself :) Don't panic or something. First, breathe.. then start up a good conversation. Movies or music would be general. Sometimes, it depends on the interests of that particular girl. Ask her about her interests and try to jive. Then talk about your self (but don't be too self centered). You can also ask her how her day was.
@castlehillpeter (52)
• China
27 Feb 10
Oh,i really like this:just be yourself.I really appreciate your adcice.May i just need to calm down.
@emerillus (467)
• Philippines
27 Feb 10
Hi! I guess you're shy because that's it, you're concentrating on what girls like to talk about, what to say to them. The hing is, you just have to express your true self, and not worry what the girl will think. if they don't like you, then fine, what's more important is you just be yourself and the girl that will be worth it is the girl that accepted you from the beginning, even if she's just a friend. you know, relationships starts from friendships.
@axlrate7 (1398)
• Philippines
6 Apr 11
Well you need a lots of self-confidence and sense of humor. I not that good in that either but for what I see in others, you need to be true to a girl, and tell her a romantic words. Be smart men in front of a girl... =D
@junrapmian (2169)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
I'm glad that there are still timid guys like you out here. What I always see are very aggressive guys who can bring girls to their bed within the day they first met. I advise you to just be yourself. First, ask her how's she, then start a conversation about anything. You can say something about yourself, you can invite her for a coffee. You'll get used to it as days passed by. Don't be nervous, just take a deep breath. Good luck!