What is Unforgiveable in a Relationship to you???
By guilleglad
@guilleglad (125)
Venezuela
February 24, 2010 9:46pm CST
Well i have to say that there is a lot of things but if i have to say one word, it would be "confidence", if you don't have it then your relationship is going down, maybe you can't talk to him about something you dislike, or maybe you can't talk to her about her "friends", then maybe in a near future it would become arguments to problems and worse. So talking about the Unforgiveable thing, i think the worst is "lying"
5 responses
@anujain75 (1059)
• India
25 Feb 10
Nothing is unforgivable, everything is forgivable in relationship. we all are human being we did mistakes. same thing applied to others also.I have some problem with my husband, it started one year after marriage, he like his friend's wife spend weekend in their house leaving me alone in my house. Even his friend also know they have strong mental relationship. I was sufferer because she can't tolerate me. But patience help me, after 2 years now my hubby found himself guilty that he has done bad with me. so always try to make me happy take care of me. I really feel good now.
@anujain75 (1059)
• India
25 Feb 10
@p3ks626 I know it is not easy to forget what scar he made in my heart but his love and time heal everything. another thing is if I left him and again look for another man then there is 100% chance to he can do same thing or can hurt me in different way. After all emotional bonding takes time to be strengthen.
@guilleglad (125)
• Venezuela
25 Feb 10
Wow you are one of those perfect wives :) it's great you had all that patience, and good for him, he discovered he was wrong.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
I agree! Though it will be hard to do it at first but time will heal. The only disadvantage about the healing process is that the scar is always there. You'll just have to find a way to make the scar go away. I think this is a very good example about what you shared about this experience of yours. I just hope that you and your husband are always gonna be happy. He's lucky to have you.
@allknowing (136562)
• India
25 Feb 10
Betrayal is unforgiveable. I have a sibling who I cannot forgive. After discouraging me to go for a party giving seemingly genuine reasons she goes but I don't after listening to her. Such behaviour is unpardonable.
@guilleglad (125)
• Venezuela
25 Feb 10
Hey don't you think you are being too hard?? i mean, it was just a party... And, your sibling, it's family... c'mon
@allknowing (136562)
• India
25 Feb 10
It is the attitude that matters and not 'just a party' There is more to this incident than meets the eye. The host is cross with me and I cannot even tell them the truth.
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
one thing that make me unforgivable if i saw my partner in bed with someone else, and not just ordinary bed but its our bed and our room. thinking theres no respect at all. it doesnt matter if we are married or not but once i saw them both naked there and in action then that will be the end, no words no explanation needed.
@xtremelyperfect (94)
• Malaysia
25 Feb 10
Same here, I think the worst is lying.
We are all humans. Sometimes maybe we can forgive but not forget.
The hurt will remain in the relationship.
Maybe you won't trust your partner 100% anymore.
@jstrx_24 (40)
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
personally speaking, the unforgivable thing in a relationship is obviously when your partner cheats on you. it breaks many rules/qualities that make a relationship thrive like trust, vows of commitment, love and mutual respect.
and i agree with guilleglad that lying is one of the worst (so i wanna delve into that).
however, the bigger question for that is to what degree? i guess it reaches the "worst" level if the lies significantly relate or affect the relationship. let's compare 2 lies:
Lie number 1:
Boy: baby have you seen my razor?
girl: why?
boy: i need it to shave off my beard.
girl: (suspects that her man might be tryin to impress another girl) no dear.. i haven't (obvious lie).
Think guys, is this a significant lie that could destroy a relationship?
Lie number 2:
girl: baby, i wanna do it right now..
Boy: is it a safe day to do it?
girl: of course honey (even if its not)..
again, is this a significat lie?
a liar is ike the couslin of a cheater. they're total relatives. ^^
