Would you say I Love You to a bestfriend?
By doncruise21
@doncruise21 (394)
Philippines
February 25, 2010 12:26am CST
Lover's start from friends..but how about with your best friend? have you experienced being inlove with your best firend? what did you do? Hide your feelings for the sake of friendship or tell that person what you feel? What happend then?
10 responses
@lakerfanster (2577)
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25 Feb 10
You do have a Love for your best friends, I'm not sure whether you mean friends who have become Lovers.
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@doncruise21 (394)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
I really mean being inlove with your bestfriend :) I just make my title noticed by others :)
@doncruise21 (394)
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
yeah its really a heart breaker and stunner lolz. You are not being true to your self and to your feelings if you did so. We are lying if we dont experss how we feel. but sometimes,we should think first because the love that we have might be a cause by too muc closeness to the person. But somehow, we will feel and knew it if it is a true love :)
@lakerfanster (2577)
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25 Feb 10
In that case I think when you are in love with a best friend you need to be honest with them as I don't think you could take it if they were in a relationship with someone and every time you were with them they always talked about their partner.
@yresh12 (3212)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
I haven't tried having a guy best friend. I think if you have one it's a danger zone. I think that it's very rare that boys and girls become best friends. It's either one of them fells in love with one or they end up falling in love for each other.
Getting this relationship to the next level is very hard because this would change the whole perspective of how you treat each other. Telling you feeling to your best friend could jeopardize everything and very risky. It might affect the relationship.
my question don? are you willing to say all that you feel to your best friend and take the risk of your friendship?
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@doncruise21 (394)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
hi yresh :)
Im not sure If I can do it. It depends if she show some signs that she loves me much dipper than a best friend. I have been on that situation but I end up setting aside it since I know my limitations (snice she's already taken lolz). But its a possible scenario since you are always with your bestfriend and there's a greater opportunity to be inlove. Its not bad at all since we can't stop our selves from being inlove with a person even if its our bestfriend :)
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
I think that saying I love you between friends shouldn't be a big deal. Some of my friends exchanges I love you regardless of their gender. It is also natural for bestfriends to fall inlove with each other because of the closeness and comfortability that develops between them. I haven't experienced this yet but I have heard many cases already. It is also the usual scenerio in love story films.
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@Nirishasol (879)
• India
25 Feb 10
Yes one of my best friend he told me I Love You but you know only lovers are not allow to say this words friends can also can say I love you and i used to say this words to my friends and its not bad.
@doncruise21 (394)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
Hi nirishasol!
I also did it to my close friends. But somehow how would you react if theres a greater feeling with it? its a tough decision to deal with since your foundation as bestfriends wil be threatened
@Mike4me (567)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
yes of course, I say "I love you" to my best friend all the time, even to my friends. But surely, not in a lovers kind of way. I never had a male best friend so obviously I never fell in love with a best friend and I don't think its a good idea.
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@sanityeradicated (63)
• United States
25 Feb 10
Mine didn't actually start with an "I love you", but with a kiss instead. It was just like instinct. It felt right. But we actually still had to think about what we really felt. And after sometime, the magical three words were said and bam. Heaven. :)
@hera_alhambra (193)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
when i was around 18 my bestfriend told me he loved me, maybe because we were getting too close and we hang out a lot but i didn't have the same feelings like he did. i do care about him as a friend but not more than that. it was a difficult decision for me, i was thinking if what would it be like if we became more than that. i made the decision by imagining that we were kissing and just the thought of that made me feel weird and awkward. i didn't want to loose him as a friend and until now were still friends. ^^
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@zoey7879 (3092)
• Quincy, Illinois
25 Feb 10
I'm the type of person that tells family and close friends I love you - Simply because you never know when it's you'll see them again. I've never randomly met someone and began dating them right away, friendship has always built up first.. I dated my best friend from high school for a couple of years. Now, sadly, we're not friends at all, on his account.
Now, I date the person who has been my best friend for the last two years. Admitting my feelings was a difficult thing, but I got let off of the hook because he admitted it firt. Due to distance and age, it took quite a while to get comfortable in the role of a couple, but now... (=
@binagupta (627)
• India
25 Feb 10
yes, i do because love is not only one kind of there are many kinds of love like we love our mom and dad, i always say my friend that i love her.
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