Problem with son's attitude in school.
By sardonyx811
@sardonyx811 (16)
Philippines
February 25, 2010 2:07am CST
My son is a sixth grader in a Catholic school. My son does not kinda like one of his teachers. According to his teacher he always makes disturbances and unsolicited comments in class. One time in front of the class my son uttered that she is not a good teacher. And indeed my son admits to me that he does not like that teacher for the reason he cannot even explain. I even treated him to his favorite restaurant just to discuss this matter seriously and still I cannot make him promise not do it again. This is the first instance that he did this since kindergarten. Anybody knows a bit of child psychology? I pray he will not bring this trait when he goes to higher level of study.
2 responses
@cowboyofhell (3063)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
It is simple to teach him. Had the teacher tried "Do not repeat it please." That's all that they must say. He's a good boy and understand simple instruction. But how can a boy follow an instruction if it is not even told to him?
@sardonyx811 (16)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
Hi cowboyofhell,,, Yes our kid is a good boy for we raised him to be this way. His teacher even did more than the "do not repeat it please" approach. She even invited our son to have a short walk along the aisle if he wants to discuss certain problems in the class but to no avail. There is really something that i am still trying to discover why is he like that to his teacher. i appreciate your comment on this. Thanks.
@cowboyofhell (3063)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
I think the last resort to do is to never react in every bad thing he does. Let his conscience do the teaching I guess.
@zoey7879 (3092)
• Quincy, Illinois
25 Feb 10
This could be... for a few reasons. If he cannot explain this reason, perhaps it is the teaching methods or a personal trait of this teacher or some underlying cause. I might suggest speaking to the parents of other children in his class about the matter... see if their children have any strange or interesting things to say.
Perhaps have a private meeting with this teacher.
After having the private meeting with the teacher, perhaps one between the teacher, your son, and you.
Talk to the school principal about observing this class for yourself once or twice.
Sometimes kids just don't like their teachers.. regardless of whether they have a valid reason or not. Other times, their teachers have habits or traits that seem odd to them.
On a darker note, sometimes it's raw, primal instinct. I had a substitute teacher once who was around our school for several months. Very few people truly liked him. The ones who did were all boys, and mostly boys with mental/emotional problems. When he taught my class, I began to notice his subtle preferences for the boys over the girls. When I moved to another town, he was the preacher at my church.... his attitudes there, I noticed, were the same on a bigger magnitude.
Two years later it all came out why: He had been sexually abusing at least one boy that attended the church and my schools, and countless others admitted that he had tried to make advances at them.
My gut instinct knew all along something was not right, but no one would listen. They just assumed that I had some sort of personal vendetta.
@sardonyx811 (16)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
Hi zoey7879,,, By the way, my wife is also a teacher in the same school where my son is. She did already talk to our son's classmates if the teacher, who is a fine lady, did something embarrassing toward our son in front of others or parallel things to that. The answer was negative. My wife knows her co-teacher for 6 years already and she is a pleasant person. My wife and the teacher already talked in front of our son, asking our boy to say sorry. The impression is that the apology just seems to pass through his mouth. We really have a problem with our kid. Thank you for your thoughts.