Would you date a guy/gal whose weight is lesser than you?
By neelianoscet
@neelianoscet (9615)
Philippines
February 25, 2010 11:51am CST
It seem that that when it comes to dating or seeking a companion they are the so call matching or unmatched pairs which others people think as inappropriate. It seem that many would like to have a partner who is looking like a body builder, muscular or something which other people think by just looking on them they look like a great defense or protector since they look strong or weight does not matter at all as long as you both getting good treatment along with each other. On the other hand if your partner weight less than you or in case of this kind of situation the guy/gal who date you is so thin, look fragile like a bean string that with a puff of the wind you think he may just fall down or instead you would not mind what other people are saying as long as you both feel comfortable with each other. Or you have set a a measurement of standard that your partner should have minimal weight so that when you both together others would not laugh at the two of you when other people think both of you look funny.
Would you still date a guy or gal who whose weight is lesser than you own weight?
2-25-10
11:51
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27 responses
@hexeduser22 (7418)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
Physical appearance doesn't matter to me. I don't even care if my partner would be over weight or under weight than me. All that matters is that we love each other and we both make each other happy. Physical attraction is inevitable but that's all there is to it and nothing more
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
hi hex,
Nice to see you here in my discussion. sorry for the delay response been busy quite though with offline life. By the way your right it is the compatibility and being comfortable with your partner or friends which matter most not withstanding all the defects or inappropriate physical imperfection since no one is perfect and the mutual feeling is what that matter most.
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
22 Mar 10
I like Hex's answer..
By the way, you've not logged in for a week already. Hope you are fine, Neelia.. saw your activities on Facebook but not so much, so I hope you are fine and all that.
For me, weight is just a number.. of course, I would not encourage someone to be too heavy-set, lest it's not healthy at all..but a little bit of weight or lesser is fine with me. I'm alright with it.. it's actually the person inside that matters, and the outside is just something..outside.
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
hi zed,
Nice to see you here..
lol..been busy with my offline life and i just editing my articles which I have about to submit to 2 writing site whom i just join recently trying my luck. Also I am the one in charge to follow up the housing application loan where my family plan to move out in a new place sooner. Well, when it comes to facebook I enjoy it and now that i am already recharge I could continue doing mylotting again..
Well, the atmosphere here is quite difference as this place sometimes is a stress reliever and sometimes could be the cause of stressor as well..
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seriously speaking, I learn a lot here with many wonderful information and variety of interest on hand. Definitely, a place where one could return to with so much wonderful things and thoughts to reckon with..
of course weight is not the definite measurement of genuine personality since the eyes could be fool most of the times. i do agree with you it is the internal which matter most and not just the exterior appearances. Any relationship would never last if it is the only sole determinant. Have a nice day!
Well, the atmosphere here is quite difference as this place sometimes is a stress reliever and sometimes could be the cause of stressor as well..hahaha
seriously speaking, I learn a lot here with many wonderful information and variety of interest on hand. Definitely, a place where one could return to with so much wonderful things and thoughts to reckon with..
of course weight is not the definite measurement of genuine personality since the eyes could be fool most of the times. i do agree with you it is the internal which matter most and not just the exterior appearances. Any relationship would never last if it is the only sole determinant. Have a nice day!1 person likes this
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
no, the personality of the person is what matter to me most. i usually enjoy the company of honest and caring man. everyone have the possibility they would change their appearances. usually when they get older or when they change their dietary lifestyles. i wouldn't mind to have a relationship with any man whatever is their weight is, as the attitude is more important to me.
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@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
I am a woman and very slim, of course I don't want someone who is thinner than me... for he is already called "malnourished" 
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I believe for a guy it is okay, but for women of course we don't want somebody who looks like a string bean... And it is somehow unhealthy too... If only I am a little fat... then I might consider a man who is lighter than me...
I don't actually mind if the guy has muscles or abs... as long as he is not SUPER THIN and doesn't look like that he is going to fly when the wind blew... I am really not after those muscles... Average weight guy that looks healthy is enough for me but of course --- it still falls in the end with our real feelings for each other... long as "I love him and he loves me too".
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I believe for a guy it is okay, but for women of course we don't want somebody who looks like a string bean... And it is somehow unhealthy too... If only I am a little fat... then I might consider a man who is lighter than me...
I don't actually mind if the guy has muscles or abs... as long as he is not SUPER THIN and doesn't look like that he is going to fly when the wind blew... I am really not after those muscles... Average weight guy that looks healthy is enough for me but of course --- it still falls in the end with our real feelings for each other... long as "I love him and he loves me too".@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
hi lovelyn,
Lol..very true and if you are in trouble it would be an opposite instead of him protecting you may end up protecting him in case someone bully him. And for a fact many girls like a boy who is taller and bigger than them since they look to a guy as their protector armor and to avoid being label as misfit or having a funny partner as you already mention it also depend on the likes and dislikes of each choice of partner.
Yeah, just he average guy is alright and it is the attitude, trust and loyalty which matter most which bound the two of you with true love. thanks.:)
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
i do agree with you and even some say they are after the inner thing it is only for making themselves to appear good but the truth what their mind and eyes see is the physical. It would be hypocrite to think many just mention they love most a person attitude rather than the physical which is better but not all the times it happen so many times it is just a sort of expression rather than the real status.
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@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
27 Feb 10
I am really not after the looks however, looks is the first thing that attracts all of us... Right? And somehow, looking at a very thin person would be a turn off to us... Well that is true, I am just being honest. Yeah, VERY thin man looks weak somehow...
@junil_jk (496)
• India
26 Feb 10
my gf weighs more than me(she's a little overweight and i'm a little underweight)! she weighs what i should be weighing for my height, and i weigh what she should be weighing for her height! quite funny! but we don't have any problem about our weights or physical appearances. we love each other so much! so for me, it doesn't really matter as long as you've got the right type of person for you. and she's quite a personality - she's outspoken(while i'm quiet), she's smart, she can handle things and situations very well, she makes up for the things that i lack, and the most important thing of all - she loves me and cares for me a lot!
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
hi junik,
Well that a reverse situation and you say it all it is the love that matter at all as both loved each other, accept all the imperfection learning to love them and live with them as well. Your partnership is evident that appearance does not matter or even the lack of one partner should not be handle as a barrier but a bridge toward understanding rather than the sources of arguments. thanks
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@phoenix8606 (4942)
•
25 Feb 10
wow! I see you have aput a date and hour of your discussion against plagiazers I think, right? :) it is really good decision. Well, of course I will date a girl which weight is less than mine, because if it is more than mine I probably will not date her Well i also will not date a gal if her weight is much less than mine, because I really don't like skinny girls :)
Well i also will not date a gal if her weight is much less than mine, because I really don't like skinny girls :)1 person likes this
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
hi phoenix,
Yup, i do not like it to happen just like before so just to be safe i put it. So you are after an average girl with just a normal weight which is good since it also compliment on you. thanks.:)
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Feb 10
hi neelianoscet well I am now a senior citizen whose dating days are
way past. but when I was dating I dated only guys who interested me
and had something in common with me. I was not really concerned with'
either of us's weight. I was thinking more of what we had in common
and how much we could share. I did not date a whole lot as I found'so many college boys were just too young for me, and way too immature.So I
ended up with waiting til I was thirty and I met the man God had made
for me.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
hi hatley,
It s better that way and i do hope so all people would think the same with way you and not choosing a partner based on appearance but rather as a potential partner to form lasting intimacy which just like yours end up in a happy marriage. thanks
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@hexeduser22 (7418)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
That's sweet Miss Hatley. I really hope that such a positive ting could happen to me too
@Sheepie (3112)
• United States
22 Mar 10
Well, since I am a very skinny girl, and I only weigh about 80 pounds, I could not even imagine a guy that would weigh less than me. Maybe if he was a midget. Would I date a midget? A.. cute midget? .. I think I would.
I bet it would be a little complicated, because I know guys who are vertically challenge might have their pride hurt if I have to help them reach things, I don't know. But I think I like that idea.
I think dwarfs have conventions where they get together with other dwarfs from all over the world, maybe I should attend one and find myself a midget.
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
27 Feb 10
I am married but if I was not I don't look at things like that. If some one is large, small, overweight, or if some one else finds the other person ugly to me it would not matter looks are not everything love is in the heart, that is just how I feel.I am the kind of person who does not care what other people think.
I am the kind of person who does not care what other people think.@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
27 Feb 10
hi jane,
That true look should not be the basis in looking for a partner since look most of the times is deceiving. It is the attitude which counts and not just the physical which matter most. thanks,
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
6 Mar 10
I am also like you the personality of a person with a sense of humor is better than those with good looks and wealthy but very dry it add to the boredom. So far having a balance of both work out as the best for each partner who are willing to accept the beauty and the fault or defects thus love should need to be unconditional let it be the measurement of true love.
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@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
27 Feb 10
Yes I believe that attitude is very important as well, If I were single I would want someone with a good attitude and a sense of humor and a good outlook on life in general and like to go places, looks are not everything. By that I mean looks in physical, weight, missing an arm or leg or whatever may be wrong as long as they were young at heart and all the things I mentioned then I would defenitely not care what other people have to say about it as long as me and the other person were happy I wouldn't cars for other people's mean stares and comments it would not bother me one bit!!!!
@Ingkingderders (3832)
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
Hehehehe. When my boyfriend and I first got together, he was definitely thinner than me, he looks malnourished and so thin, that I look extremely fat when I'm with him. Hahahahha. I don't really mind, cause I mean, when you're together, you don't think about those things. But now, he gained weight, and he's now fatter than me..
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
hi ingkingerders,
lol..that so funny but being thin is still alright as long as not the extreme thinness that when both of you are together some people may ask who is the more younger to look at as some think being thin could either make you look young or old. I think so being underweight could be resolve by eating many food and at the same time develop fitness so the body becomes strong and look more adorable. thanks
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
6 Mar 10
awesome..that better...well, even if you don't tell him i think he would also notice the differences since you become more sweeter to him!
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@Ingkingderders (3832)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
That's true.. he's definitely cuter now than he is back then. Though I don't tell him that, cause I don't want it to get to his head. Hahaha.
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
I would date any guy whatever his weight is as long as we both get along with each other. he have a sense of humor, witty and smart I would date him. so weight for me is not a barriers and it is the attitude for me that counts.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
hi flower21,
Look does matter too but the most important aspects which strengthen any relationship should be built on trust, respect, understanding and loyalty the most are the one which makes any relationship grow stronger built on true love and friendship. while if one focus on good looks may be misleading as most of the time it is deceiving.
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@janeajozelle (197)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
of course yes, since i am after a good personality not just look. I do appreciate a person who know to respect and value me as a real person not just an artificial one which full of pretension. i do no want a good look that fades in later years as I like the genuine person whom i could be comfortable just talking around then sharing the same things.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
hi janeajozelle,
That really matter which count is the inside and not just the outside look since all fades in the future years and what remain is the good attitude which one should look for in a partner since it stay too long in a relationship the physical is an added boost but in general viewpoint the attitude is the best things to keep in mind when one is looking for a partner.
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
hi dewero,
It is also my preferences as i never judge a person based on the appearance alone as some have good look and yet lacking in good manners so definitely the matter most both partner understand, respect and trust each others. All those little defects does not matter as long as both are getting along with each other which is the most important part in selection of friendship and looking fir a good mate in a relationship.
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@amorlife1 (370)
• South Africa
20 Mar 10
I'm a thin woman myself, and I really don't think that it would look good to be beside a man that is thinner than me. I think a man like that would just look sickly. In fact, we'd both look sickly! So I'd have to be with a man that's "heavier" than me.
I don't know about guys, but I'd imagine that a relatively big man wouldn't want to be with a woman that's even bigger than him! So, although it boils down to personal preference, I think the natural inclination is to be with someone that compliments you: if you're big, you'd prefer a smaller person, and if you're small, you'd prefer a bigger person...
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
hi amor,
That would mean their is a need for balance when it comes to stature as both opposing size of weight compliments each other which matter most as the relationship could thrive best when the ultimate measurement when it comes to choosing a partner never based on illogical theory which could hamper a potential reunion. Since the most things which matter most to keep in mind both potential partner have a greater understanding of each other weaknesses and strength then work forward to fix or either learn to love each other despite of imperfection. thanks
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@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
28 Feb 10
Love has no boundary, thus making true love unconditional. Many people would seek to find a matching companion/partner before even they start a relationship. Who can guarantee that the partner weight will not increase after you have been together? Then what? discard and find another matching one? that would be most hilarious.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
6 Mar 10
hi whyaskq,
That true indeed as true love encompasses all the fault or defect in a partner since the matter most is the understanding, true love and self giving which is very sincere than than taking more serious preferences when it comes to the outer appearances which in a matter of years go changes quickly and what is left is the mere understanding between two partner in a strong relationship.
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
2 Mar 10
lol =D IN terms of being natural, most guys will prefer their gals to weigh lesser than them, for it represents beauty and sexiness.. haha =D
BUt it's a different thing when it comes to women, because they will wanna their bfs/husbands to protect them, and thus they have got to be much more heavier or bulkier.. lol =D
BUt for instance of really true love, size, height, shapes and sizes does not really matter at all.. If one is really conscious about being seen with someone not compatible, i will suggest or rather, leave the whole relationship, for it's not me who matters to her, but herself.. haha =D
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
6 Mar 10
Yeah, that right that the way many girls see it for their ideal guys but on the end it is the attitude which counts the most..
In terms of guys preferences in women the petite the better...
True love is very deeper in meaning so the physical is just an added packages but the over all preferences when it comes to that aspects is meaning less when the two partner learn to loves each other defects or fault which being true to self...
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
hi shibham,
that very true in any relationship the one that last is that both partner feeling are real and not just based on appearance. thanks
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@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
When you enter a relationship it should be because you like or love that person. When you love a person you have to accept him for what he is and according to your standards. Not because you can display that person for all your friends to envy. But love is mysterious because there are times that the person you'll end up with is exactly the opposite of what you are wishing for. When that time comes, it won't matter if that guy is fat or thin. You should not focus on the physical aspect alone or the capability of the person to defend you when there'a trouble because more often its the guys who has a lot of muscles on that invite more trouble because of their looks alone. Besides, in our modern society those who are successful are not the ones with a lot of muscles but those who are intelligent.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
hi ybong,
I think too the same things with you that a relationship should not focus on the physical aspects it is much deeper in category and the appearance add only to the attraction but having a good manner is the winning points even the look is just an average as what matter most each other feel comfortable and being happy when both are together. thanks
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@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
26 Feb 10
If it was a girl I was dating, I wouldn't mind that she weighted less than me. I even prefer to weight less than me, as thin bodies are the most attractive for me.
In the case of boys, they usually weight more, even without any muscle, but I wouldn't mind to be with a boy who weighted less than me either 
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
hi madteaparty,
So the weight does not matter at all as long as both compatible and treat each other right is the most important even one look attractive if the attitude fail then they are the wrong mates to choose that whatever weigh is alright as to know other people one need not to focus alone on the look but also on the manner of good conduct. thanks
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@kaylachan (72206)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
26 Feb 10
I'm not skinny and I'm glad about that. My partner is skinny compared to me. In fact he does look a might unhealthy. Most people can tell just by looking at him. But, I don't care nor have I ever cared. Looks aren't important to me. As long as he continues to take care of himself. That's all that's important to me, and I'll do my best to help him do that.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
hi kaylachan,
Yeah, that good it does not matter whatever other people tell the important is both love, trust and understand each other is more better than to be judgmental at all since it is the two of you who have more understanding of each other and the opinion of other does not matter at all. thanks
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