do you think I'm too much with her?
By humairaku
@humairaku (2038)
Indonesia
February 25, 2010 10:06pm CST
Hi, Mylotters!
I have a close friend. just call her Linda. as I know Linda is a cheerful girl and she's also smart. I like her and she seems like me too. today Linda has a long distance relationship with a guy from another country that she knew on internet. someday she told me that she was so jealous to his boyfriend's office mate. just call her Rani. she thinks Rani crushes on her boyfriend. she really hates Rani, even she doesn't want to say that name.
Yesterday, I was surfing on internet then I found a necklace with Rani logo on it. Then I sent this image to Linda, just for having fun. I think he would be angry like every time I do something naughty to her. But, OMG! She's really upset with what I've done. She said she's really disappointed with me. She said that I am not a trusted friend actually and another bad judgment which hurt me much. AND NOW I FEEL LIKE I'M THE WORST FRIEND EVER AND THE MOST GUILTY PERSON IN THE WORLD!
so what do you think, mylotters, do you think I've done too much to Linda? give me your opinion, please! cos I really need it now. Thanks for sharing.
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9 responses
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
..hi.. well, I think it's natural for Linda to react that way since she hated the name.. so you need to give her a break and don't talk to him for a little while.. then when you think she is already calm, you can approach her or visit her in their house and talk to her personally.. I think she will forgive you if you are really friends.. friends are naughty sometimes and that's natural I think.. you may have done too much by sending the image but somehow, she will realize how sorry you are as the days go by.. so don't push yourself too much worrying about her.. just give her sometime.. then show her that are are sincerely sorry and that you regret what you've done.. tell her that you won't do the thing again.. friends will always be friends and they are ready to understand and forgive each other..
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
26 Feb 10
hi, raynejasper. thank you for your suggestion. it's great. that's what I'm doing now: waiting. it's only yesterday this happened to us. and you're right, she needs sometimes to heal her heart. and for me, I also need to fix my heart too cos when we hurt people, not only they feel so hurt, we also feel hurt too. I need to prepare myself cos I can't imagine what should I do when we meet for the first time after this case. Oh, may God will guide me. I pray for this. and also pray for her apology.
@nophie (2336)
• Indonesia
26 Feb 10
i agree with raynejasper. just give her time to cool down her heart. after it you can apologize to her and say that you dont mean to hurt her heart. you know that you are too much with her and will never do it again. i'm sure she will understand you
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
26 Feb 10
(sigh). frankly it's so hard for me, nophie, cos I'm not like she said. I can be trusted 100%. all I want to do is only for joking. but, then I realize that I'm wrong whatever it takes. now, i only wait and see. wish me luck, sist. :)
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
26 Feb 10
You are not the worse Friend no but that was a bit naughty to do lol
Just take a bit of a break, give her the time to settle and then talk to her and tell her you are sorry for doing this and if you are real Friends she will put it behind her
All Friends do silly things sometimes but if it is true Friendship they always get over it
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
27 Feb 10
yup, you're right. I think I'll do like what you said, cos from some ideas in my mind, this is the wisest of all. thanks, gabs. you know what, I feel much better than yesterday. ^__^
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
28 Feb 10
I think that it is natural for Linda to be upset with you when she first sees it. However, I don't think that she will stay upset with you over it for an extended period of time. As friends I think that it is natural that we occasionally do something that makes our friends upset for a time, but as time passes, they will look back at these kind of things and laugh about it. I know that there are things like this that have gone on with myself and my friends, but it has never ruined any of my friendships.
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
28 Feb 10
hi dorannmwim..I think like you think at the beginning, but I'm wrong actually, cos she keeps upset till today. we haven't met after this case, but we send e-mails to chat. from it i know that she's healed enough. she said that she needs a space between us. it's ok, I'll give her what she wants. maybe I won't meet her for a long time. and if we meet someday, I can she her again with her smile on her face. I hope..
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
For me you not too pushed in Linda's life let him do the problem of her because if time change you don't blame.
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
27 Feb 10
thanks for your support, ebuscat. I really appreciate it. that's what I do now. I let her to be calmer, and I do too cos it also rocked my heart as well. I need sometimes to forgive myself before I ask her apology.
@yresh12 (3212)
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
I think she is just to sensitive when she hears, sees or has anything to do with that girl's name. It's not you fault. Her temper has just gotten into her. What you could do is just be patient and understand your the one who knows her better. Give it time and I think she'll get over it.
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
27 Feb 10
from the bottom of my heart, ya, i think like what you think. but still I feel so guilty to her. I should know for the beginning that I shouldn't do with Rita nor her BF. from now on,I promise to be better friend of her. wish me luck. will ya? ^__^
@Mike4me (567)
• Philippines
27 Feb 10
Oh you're mean, well not really. I know you only did it for fun but I guess you crossed the line. She's your friend and you should understand. There's always time for fun and jokes but the thing is that, she really hate's this "Rani" person. You should apologize to her and tell her that you won't ever do such thing again and that you are on her side. You should also tell her that you are her real friend and you made a mistake. I'm sure she'll forgive you.
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
28 Feb 10
hi mike4me..thanks for your suggestion. ya, maybe the way should be like that, but actually not. I have done what all mylotters here suggested, but it didn't work this long. maybe she really2 hurts to what I've done, so it's difficult for her to forgive me. I only hope everything will be ok at the end as the time goes by..I hope..
@getbiswa2000 (5544)
• India
28 Feb 10
Hi,
I think the friend of yours is in deep trouble. I really don't want to say the words, but I think she is the most downright psycho I've ever heard of. Just imagine about her wild fantasies. She is totally obsessed about men. She is entirely misguided and has developed paranoia to a certain degree which is sufficient to ruin everything she already has. She is heading towards trouble, as I've mentioned earlier. And you can do absolutely nothing about it. She is obsess to the extent of compromising any other relationship, even friendship. You better stay away from her until she completely makes an U-turn in her life.
God bless you
@Gany15k (1673)
• India
26 Feb 10
Definitely not.You didn't do anything wrong.Whats the problem is if you have made fun in any other reason ,then she would have enjoyed.But you made fun in which she not likes.So, she is upset.It is very normal.You both did nothing wrong.Just carry on with your friendship.Don't lose it.Have fun...always...Lol!
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
27 Feb 10
yeah..my purpose is not responded well. frankly I'm also wondering to her over reaction. what could be the worst side of this? but still I felt so guilty to her. then I'll try to fix our friendship. hope I can do that.
@ShadieB (7)
• United States
26 Feb 10
Humairaku, you gotta know your friend's sense of humor before you decide to do somethin like that lol I personally would laugh and find it funny if one of my females friends did that to me. But what you have to do is just let her know that you did it only out of love and thought it would lighten up the situation a little- she should and eventually will understand where you're comin from and forgive you.
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
26 Feb 10
that's what I mean with "I think I know her, but I don't", shadie. we always have fun conversation every time we meet. it's so usual when she mock me as crazy or another bad words, but I've never been angry with it cos I know it's kinda of joke of her. what I want to say is ya, she likes jokes and always laughs at anything. so, it's really surprised me when she's really2 upset to my joke. I didn't mean anything but only for joking. maybe, she really loves her BF and really hate the girl.
