You owe somebody but couldnt pay due to no work at the moment...
By sublime03
@sublime03 (2339)
Philippines
February 26, 2010 6:59am CST
I have a friend who is encountering this problem currently. He owes a person an amount of money but could not pay due to no work or he was taken out of the office a few weeks after he borrowed funds. His friend keeps bothering him and even if he explains himself on how he does not have any funds to give considering he is a single parent who needs to provide to a young kid. I can understand if the person is single and have visible proof that he has funds but knowing that the person has shared his insights on how financially down he is.
If I were in his friends shoes, I would not insist for my friend to pay up currently since he has lost his job and has a kid to raise. No matter how low I am, I do not intend to share that grief since the person has his own problems as well.
I just want to know howm any out there are in the same position wherein you are currently zero in money and the person who you thought is a friend is bothering you so much that you just want to hide and never to be seen to go around stress and all. Not that you do not want to pay, its just that the circumstances keeps you from paying.
3 responses
@workingmoms (195)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
I understand both of them. I am in this situation..I let my cousin borrowed money from us and assured us that they are going to pay us back at the end of the month.
That was in November 2009, until right now we haven't got a penny.
At first I got mad because we also need the money, however we were able to understand their situation.
What your friend needs to do is to assure the other person that he/she will make payments once he got a job again. At the same time keep the communication line open.
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
yes your right, besides our life is unpredictable, we cant see what will happened in the future and we cant think of any but to borrow from friends. just so happened the their friend is the only one who might can help them. i also have a friend like that and her mother suffered from stroke and she lost her job and she have no choice but to borrow money and now that she have work she still cant pay coz they still need money for medicine. though she tried to pay here little by little even if not in full.
@mickly08 (769)
• China
26 Feb 10
I am sorry to hear that your friend is in such trouble.You know ,it is unalterable principle for everyone to pay back money you owe somebody.I am sorry for your friend,but he should repay the money .Maybe you friend can tell his creditor that he cannot repay money right now .He needs some time to dig himself out of trouble.
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
27 Feb 10
Hi mickly08! My friend was actually honest to the creditor that he just cannot pay for the mean time. But he has paid a few times to show that he will definitely pay.
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
We can't blame the person we debt money from because he might be just making sure that your friend pays (in line also of friendship, some who borrow money do not pay which makes not a real friend). Besides, he might be needing also the money for other important purposes.
As much as possible, the one who borrowed the money must have had known the responsibilities after lending money. He should look some ways to at least slowly and slowly pay his friend his debt. In this way, though it takes a longer time to pay the whole debt, the trust of his friend for him to pay the money is existent and there's nothing to rush for.
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
27 Feb 10
The thing is my friend has paid a few times already. To show he is sincere in paying the debt he is true to his word when he says he just does not have money to pay for the mean time.
