What do you think if the woman who pays for the bill?

Well the etiquette says that the man should always pay, but situations can differ, it could well be that in a young couple the girl works while the guy is still studying so I don't see any shame in the girl paying for his loved one. Me and my girlfriend deal with this very well since the very begginning, she doesn't expect me to pay and I don't expect her to pay, sometimes I pay sometimes she does, and for us is perfect like this, but of course if I invite her out I will of course be the one to pay and vice versa

Hello I guess it all depends, I will pay sometimes but not all the time, hard to say what the situation was here, they could have been family or co-workers who knows, times have changed so I don't see a problem either way. Thanks.

it certainly looks bad but we don't know the reason why it was the woman paying for the bill. maybe it was the woman who invited the guy out. maybe they're also just office mates with the woman doing the inviting that is why the man didn't feel he should really stand by the woman when she was doing the paying and instead went and got their car or something. at least the guy isn't one who would borrow money from another just to take a woman out. at least he's honest that probably he told the woman he doesn't have any money....am not sure really of the reason. but they'd better not be celebrities or otherwise that's when it would really look bad .

Before my wife and I were marrieds she would pay for our meals sometimes and I would do the same as well. Even now we still take turns paying the bill when we go out together as a couple.

I do not see any problem in that unless there is fair amount of understanding and not forced to do so. This is so simple. usually i pay for all such bills but that is fine if someone with you want to pay for the dinner or lunch or anything that we did enjoy together.

that's okay if she has the money. also, if she was the one who invited me to a date. but kidding aside, money matters between couples should be discussed and thoroughly considered. no couple would want to start a fight because of money. so, prudence should be the key to who will foot the bill. sometimes, sharing is also fine. but when the guy is still in the stage of courting the girl, he should always foot the bill during their dates.

I hate paying the bill myself, even though I fork out the money. So usually I ll give the money to my wife or to a friend to pay the bill themselves. I don't like to deal with sums and calculations. My mind freezes when I have to work out even a simple sum. I had to make a big extra effort to pass my mathematics examinations. However if you are on a date, at least the first date I expect the man to be a knight and pays for his lady.

It is okay for me to pay the bill but not all the time. I wish my date who is a male will pay the bill for me. Of course I am the one I should not take responsibility on the date, it is the guys work to take over so that I will fall for him. It is more good if he do it all the time but if I need to pay or share a pay i think that will be okay with me. When I see men like that, that they allow their woman to pay for bill, I look at them as ungentleman. I don’t know if there is such a term.

I see no problem with woman paying for the bill. A man and a woman having dinner does not mean they are a couple. It could be the lady is giving the guy a treat, which is still possible even if both are a couple. Of course, most woman would prefer the man to pay and I feel most man would not mind woman paying except for some. lol

Well I'm a female and I've never really been on a date. But when I do and if I ever do go on a date I will pay my own food thank you very much. I am very independent and I don't really like when people pay for my stuff. That's just how I feel about it.

Hello maxilimian, I think nowadays, paying for the bill is not an issue. Well, maybe just a minor issue. Women of today have their own career, sometimes they even have a better paying job, so if woman and the man agreed that on this particular date the woman will pay the bill then I think it's just fair. But if the man, asked the woman for a date for the first time, the man should pay. . It would not be proper if the woman would pay for it. But if they've been dating for a long time, I think it's just fine. Take care and have fun posting red_amethyst

When my husband and I were dating it was whoever had the money at the time paid.... We did not think anything about it.... Sometimes he would even put money into my account so I would just use my debit card.... His money was in there also....

I pay some of the time. The guy I was dating didn't have a lot of money either, so sometimes I would pay. I don't know if I'd want to pay with someone new, but we had been dating for 5 or 6 years. I wouldn't want to pay all of the time. I also paid if it was somewhere I wanted to go and knew he wouldn't have chosen it.

I think nothing's wrong with that. That's what women worked for all these years anyways... even centuries. They strove for equality. Now they are getting it. This is it. If a man gets to drive, so can a woman. If a man gets to vote, so does "a she". If a man is considered to be the provider, well-- go on ahead girl and provide for us. LOLZ. Kidding aside maxilimian... This after the age of enlightenment and all the ages that had come to pass, we are now facing the age of equality.

I think it depends on the comfort level and the depth of the relationship. It it’s the initial stage of a relation then of course the man should foot the bill, however if both are on very intimate terms and have know each other for a long time then I don’t think it matters much as to who pays the bill. They know everything about each other, including their financial conditions and are ready to share each other’s problems and happiness…so its OK if the man cant pay or if the girl pays just like that. Or maybe the girl you saw was treating the man for something

Sometimes I pay for dinner while other times my boyfriend does, sometimes I want to go to dinner and know he doesn't get paid til the end of the week. Since I get paid at a different time, sometimes I have money and he don't and sometimes he does and I don't. It just depends on when we go. Of course, sometimes I can tell he feels a little odd about it, so I hand him the cash to pay when no one is looking.

With me and my boyfriend we either take turns or whoever has more money at the time will pay. We lived together and share all our bills and money anyways so it never really matters to us who pays.

Ahh.. maybe they're on a tight budget? lol, I meant, there's a time the it's the guys turn, then the gal. Alternate situation maybe? Not married? or maybe their engaged? or just in a relationship. I don't thin that the guy should ALWAYS pay for the bill.. there's so many situation that can disregard that saying. BTW, now a days, I think there's more girls workin' that guys. ^_^

If they are married it doesn't matter, then if you think they are not yet married, then maybe its the girl turn now to pay the bill? he he Or maybe the girl who ask for a date? when I started to get into relationship until I got married the guy who always pay for the bill

hi maxilimian , perhaps they are on a date and the woman insist on paying at the time.Sometimes when on a date,the other party feels bad that only one are paying the bills all the time.Or they are not on a date,so the woman pays it because the man help her on some task which she feels glad to treat her friend for some fancy dinner. I pay the bills most of the time either on dinner or shopping with my wife.There are occasions she gotta settle it when i'm broke. People do go broke from time to time,so its unavoidable.