Negative People

I will not let any negative thinker influence me. I have several of them around who only look at the glass that is half empty. But why should their thinking affect me. In fact I send out positive vibes in their direction and hope they will one day realise that there is no point in their attitude. Being in the attitude of gratitude is what one needs to be in and I keep telling them that. Whenever someone shows the bad side of a situation I show them the good side and drive it into their system and in so doing I too an already a positive thinker get more convinced that life is not bad after all. I remember an incident when we were coming back from a foreign tour and I was filled with excitement to narrate the various aspects of it whereas the negative thinker had nothing much to say except that he was harassed at customs clearance! But what I dont realise is why should their negative thinking affect us. Stick to your own, come what may.

I know a few. One is able to be rehabilitated from the negativity once drama is removed from that friends life. :D The person doesn't want drama, so this one is easy. Except, drama in the form of bad people always find my poor friend. So often my friend is very negative because of the situations they find themselves in. When bad things are not happening, my friend can be very pleasant to be around.

i can't be done with people being negative all the time,the way i see things is,,if somethings going to happen it'll happen,and there's nothing you can do,,i think everything in life happens for a reason,we may not ever know what the reason is,but there is still a reason,,my mum gets miserable about her illnesses,,my reply is,you've got these things wrong with you,you can't change it,so deal with it,,i also have illnesses,but i don't really care too much about it,i'm ill,so what,,negative people are unhappy people,they need to get a life and stop wallowing in their own self pity and lack of confidence,,,maybe that was a bit harsh,but i do like to speak my mind

You see, they are spices of our life. They make us think otherwise on thing and let us see the other side of the coin. Our big challenge is not to let them exhaust us and thus completely drain us. Try to think positively!

Yes, we do come across such people with negative thinking. You may recognize them easily because they are always complaining and nagging, finding fault with others. They never have a good word to say. They never speak about good things in life. The best thing is to leave them all by themselves and entertain only those who are lively, positive and always see the brighter side of life.

I have dealt with my fair share. I am a very positive person, and am also severely understanding of people and their words and actions. I have always been able to see both sides of the story even if one side is really at fault. So when I am speaking with someone who is negative, I find myself just being patient with their remarks, responding in a gently forceful way, encouraging them to see the other side. I do this with no expectation of them thinking differently, only hopes that they will. This is if it is someone I am close with or am having a personal conversation with. When dealing with a negative person I don't know well or at all, I simply allow them to be as negative as they want, and do not allow this negativity to breach my barrier. Of course this may seem easier said than done, and I am not always able to be this way, it comes down to our own non-judgement and compassion that allows us to have easy intersations with others. At least that's what I think.

I just avoid them or keep quiet…I don’t try to interact with them. There are many kinds of negative people…one particular colleague of mine will always brag about how much money she’s spending and what all expensive things she’s buying all the time. Suppose you’ve tried very hard and saved some money and with that you’ve bought a gadget and at office you want to share your happiness with your colleagues. The moment you finish, she’ll start her bragging about how she has a similar gadget but of course much more sophisticated and expensive, how that’s not enough and she plans to upgrade and so on…its enough to suck out all your exuberance and make you feel so small. Nowadays I just don’t talk to her much…I just nod my head to whatever she burbles on.

kd__fmay hi oh my yes I have a f riend here at Gold crest who is forever going on about how awful all the food is. well sure its not the Waldorf Astoria, its just a retirement center, and yes some of the food is not exactly anything to write home about, but a lot of it is very good. So when she starts in on me I listen and am pleasant but soon I will say I know, but you must admit the beef stew was really good, or the stuffed peppers were really delicious or the eggplant Parmesan was super. she sort of shuffles her feet then admits yes some of those were good. then I steer the conversation off to some other safer topic. She always singles me out when she sees me, and I like to have friends as I spend too much time in here mylotting so need someone to talk to occasionally. he he,.

oh yes, dealt with lots of wet blankets, darn! it made me an emotional punching bag, aaargh! good thing those days are over. when someone's trying to tell me things which are not healthy anymore, mentally or emotionally, i immediately get rid of the discussion. with the manner of conversation, somehow, u can decipher which is habitual and which is not. :)

Yes, these people are extremely frustrating to deal with. I mean they could take the best, greatest thing that has ever happened to anyone and somehow find something to wrong with me. It amazes me. It would be something that I would find funny if it had not been so sad and depressing. Could it really kill these people to lighten up just a little bit? I mean, life isn't always bad. Sure it can be depressing at times but there has to be something good. No not with these people. It is a vicious cycle in many ways. I, like many others, avoid these people like the plague. They do not want to be sucked into the nexus of negativity that these people give up. Therefore, these people have more to be negative about when everyone is avoiding it. It is kind of one of those loops that go around, with one action leading to another and it it never ends. Still I just cannot stand to deal with these people. I do not like negativity all that much to begin with but when these people radiate it so much, then we have a bit of a problem.

There's plenty of this type around us. We can't blame them sometimes for if we listen to their endless complaints this usually traces back to depressing experiences that molded their thinking to a negative outlook in life. Honestly, I avoid long association with this type of person but if I can't avoid it I try to offer suggestions that may help him/her see the brighter side of the issues or situations he/she is complaining.

My very good friend is a negative thinker. I never let her get into me(although she really does, sometimes) Yeah they are like black holes if you let them eat you. I just shower her with the positive things that I like and look forward to in life. She understands me and I understand her. I think that having a positive outlook in life could get you somewhere. Not to complain but instead you do your job with all your capabilities and think that it will be fruitful for you in the end.

Negativity is one of the most destructive things on the planet and we face it every day. We face it in our work, our families and nearly everywhere we go. Steve Pavilina wrote a wonderful article on How to Help Negative People. I think it’s a must re…

I meet more negative people than positive ones. They can't see anything good about their life, their jobs, the weather, the world. What has happened to everyone? It's as if we have forgotten how to be happy. I have always tried to see my cup as half full as opposed to half empty. I think that negativity is something you learn as you go along. Maybe these people grew up listening to negative comments, and they think that's the way they are supposed to behave. Whatever the reason, they are obviously not very happy. I will keep smiling and looking on the sunny side because that's how I choose to deal with these types. Maybe it will rub off!