Would you let your parents choose your boyfriend/girlfriend?

Hello Well my mom would always tell me she don't have a good feeling about this one or that one be it a friend or boyfriend, sometimes I listen and sometimes I follow my own instinct, I think in cases like this we should use our own judgement considering we have to spend time with this person not our parents. Thanks.

Actually, I have some common consensus with my parents about choice gf, they give me advises and enogh rights to make choice and taking responsibility for what I choose. I do believe it's sad to have a marrige without blessing by familiy.

Why not? Our parents have been through a lot to bring us up. Besides, with their combined years of wisdom, they would be in a better position to gauge if their "future" in-law is compatible with their child and the family. Of course, that is provided the parents do not "choose" or "decide" with any hidden agenda.

Parents have experienced eye and their vision act in the fever their children. They use to think about the better prospectus of their children. Any thing causing the damage of the future of the children hurt them and they react like that you pointed out in the discussion you started here shadowkissed14. You should think with cool heart and do as your parent want and expect of you.

No, This should be individual's decision or choice to choose a boyfriend/girlfriend. Get your parents on the track by making understand the importance of friendship and love. Choose someone you love :)

noo, thats my decision, but I think that they should like him, but they wouldnt interfere if I dont want them to

I won't let them do that for me! I have the right to choose who I am going to be with, it's not them who's going to be the girlfriend! What if the guy they chooses is only good in their eyes? That is unfair.

Absolutely not. Aside from the fact that you have every right to choose your own friends...and that includes boyfriends...your parents would probably wind up disliking someone even they picked. Some parents have a problem accepting anyone as a potential mate for their child. Make your own decisions. You have to live your life...not them.

What? I don't ahve a gf till date but I will certainly not ask my parents to choose her for me. I mean it is their right to choose a wife for me but wait a minute, a girlfriend must be of my choice!

Hey dear, I'm too much choosy in selecting my partner. And that's why my choice is praised by all. I've already chose my fiance to marry who is also liked by my parents. Have a nice day.

My parents always say to us that they will love whoever we will love and they will like whoever we will like. However there came a time in our lives as their children that we picked one person and they disagreed yet they still allowed us. i think I am the only one who obeyed them and I proved that parents knows best for their children. I never regretted what I did and I think that maybe they can see other side of people that their children can't see.

No not really, it's always my decision who to love, parents are there to guide. If my parents don't like my boyfriend, then i'll find ways to make them close with each other. You know, those things that people do to earn the trust of someone. And avoid stuff that you know your parents don't like.

i would never let my parents choose my boyfriend not in a million years.. i did have really big fights with my parents because my parents are a bit racists towards spanish and black people ( funny my family is spanish and we do have other black family members). But that didnt stop me from dating spanis hor black people. your parents dont know you as much as you know your self, so dont let them pick for you just makes things worst.

Nope. I will not let them decide to whom I will choose. I don't want to be controlled.

i guess they have the right to share their thought about the guy they want for us. there might be a reason why they dont like the guy that we want, so why not have a dinner with your family and with your boyfriend so they will know your boyfriend better. i guess if they become close to your boyfriend and found out that his good enough then im sure they will change their mind.

When I was younger, my parents were always strict when it comes to having a boyfriend and I only get to have my first boyfriend when I was 19 years old. I get to bring my boyfriend at home when I was already 21 years old but my parents never liked them. My ex-boyfriends seem nice but my parents always have something to say about them. I was mad at that time because I think they dont understand at all. When I get to meet my husband's mom, she told me that parents are aware of the chances and possibilities of getting a good partner. I think our parents are just there to give us advises and not really choose the one for us but help us determine or know who should be the person that is right for us even though it is only for having a boyfriend or a girlfriend.

I never let my parents choose a boyfriend for me. They ever did that, and i refused their choice, because i dont like it. I dont want anyone include my parents to set up my life, coz its my life, i have right to choose what i want. What they only can do is just give me suggestion, and the one who make decision in the end, its my self.

if im the type of person who doesnt have a taste in picking a partner, i'd definitely let my parents choose for me. as they say: Momma knows best. but then again, if i do have my set of standards, i'll choose the person i want to be with. here's a tip, it wouldn't hurt if you ask for your parents' opinions. i'm sure they can help you in choosing mr/ms right. and once you have chosen someone who's decent and acceptable for you and your family, then im sure your loved ones will respect your partner. remember, you don't need to look for someone who perfectly fits the standards of you and you parents. probably, fitting some will do.

This is my life so I will choose the girl I want to be with. It is purely up to me. But I will still consider what my parents opinions about my partner. There are also things that we ourselves can't see but others can specially our parents. So if my parents has something bad to say about my girl, I will personally be the one to investigate if its true. Our parents love us and they are there to guide us for the better. We don't have to follow them at all times but try to consider what they think sometimes. You might thank them for doing that if its true and good for you.

No, no, no and did I mention no? You see, I understand their concern about our future with our choice of partners. But it does not mean that they should decide for us. They can only guide and remind us of the things we need to know. But that's just it. :)