Not Tonight, I Have a Headache

Now you're making me cast right back into the darkest, deepest recesses of my mind Cyn. I remember those times vaguely. I'd give her a "look", she'd smile back and nod a tight smiled girlish grin. Then we'd roll together and all of a sudden - darn, wouldn't you just know it, our headaches would start right up. Now of course we have it licked. I look at her and say "Shall we?" and she'll sigh and reply "We just did". My memory's getting awful as I get older........

I used to let myself be pushed into it when I didn't want to. Never again. No is no, period. He responds all hurt, but I don't care. He has no idea how much it hurts me inside when my wishes are disrespected that way.

Hey cynical!I love your question! I have told my boyfriend many times that "I'm not in the mood" and he just ignores me and keeps bothering me anyway! I just end up laughing so hard because he just won't stop! I eventually have no choice but to give in, but it sure isn't willingly! I just don't participate! You know what I meant, I'm sure! Just pretty much lie there and.....

yes i do tell to him that i am not in the mood. And we can do that some other time. he gets mad lol... when i say NO ..that is .. NO

Lol I'm always in the moods :p, well most of the times, If at the beginning I'm not then I will be, it is probably and advantage of being young, it happened the other way around, but she just said: "I don't feel like doing anything I'm tired", and it was true so for me that was ok. In the beginning I would be a little disappointed, but I suppose that is a normal reaction beacause you kind of feel rejected untill you reliaze that person loves you and it's just tired and wants to sleep and her feeling well is more important than have fun.

Yes, I have told my hubby that. I find myself doing it on a daily basis. But that's because I really do have a headache, or I'm very tired from work. Work has been taking its toll on me that it's affecting my relationship with my husband. Until we got into this huge fight, i've been saying to any affection. Now I think I'm feeling much better, and he understands me better as well. I make sure to give in when he's asking for it, but he doesn't ask as much as he used to. Instead he just gives me this thoughtful look and then looks for something else to do. Oh well.

I wish I had that problem but alas! I don't...lol. I happen to know that in the case of a headache a romp in the sack makes it go away. I just wish guys would realise that when we are not in the mood, a lovely massage, gentle massage, works wonders.

I tell him I'm sleepy if I'm really sleepy, or if I'm not really in the mood. He understand me usually, cause we have talked about that a million times before, and I told him, we women are different from the guys where they could just do it anytime anywhere. Hehehe. We on the other hand, have to be in the mood, and feel just sexy enough before we do it. LOL. I'm lucky he understands my point and he respects my decision.

When my wife says no it's really a no. No amount of romance can make her give in. In the beginning it's quite upsetting. But i have learn to accept it. I'll just sleep over it or take a shower instead .

Well, the day i am not in the mood, it is left at it. I will not just lay there. It is not right. I am sure that any man or women can curb that little desire, untill both feel up to it.

I dunno, when I tell my husband that I'm not feeling well and I want to sleep already, and he is in the mood for love, he's starting to run a feather-light touch on my arms, back and neck as in massaging my sensitive parts, tickled, and in just a matter of minutes, we're making love...LOL! My husband knows where my sensitive parts are and he knows how to wake up my sleepy system. In our 25 years of marriage, I can't remember a time when I did not respond to his fingertip touches.