Do you trust ALL the people you work with?
By dolce_vita78
@dolce_vita78 (8062)
Philippines
February 27, 2010 8:48pm CST
I thought of this question because of my daily experiences with the people I work with. I often hear my co-workers talk about (mostly bad news) our other co-workers when they are not around. But they seem to be good friends with these people when they are around. I was just thinking... perhaps this is also what they do to me when I am not around. Not that I should fear anything but it just doesn't feel right to me.
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@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
1 Mar 10
i also don't trust everyone in the workplace. i know how they treat people. most of them are plastics and double-character, they are good in front of you but behind, they talk about you negatively. but i will never get affected with them, as long as i don't do wrong with them and i know what i am doing is good.
@Changing (6)
• China
10 Sep 10
Well , we cant deny that people would like to talk something about their friends or co-workers . But i think from this situation we can get some useful information of them . From this we can make friends with those people who have good quality and cultivation . As it is said : It is never too old to learn . We can get good things from them . The poeple who are good with you in front of you but behind , i think : Poeple who have different value could not work together . So i will get away from them . And i hope that we can walk away or just keep our mouth shut when we hear them talk about bad things of friends or co-workers .
@cj_matias (8)
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
There are times that I don't trust anybody. But as I go to church , I realized that trusting people is like trusting yourself. The trust will be the key to have a lot of friends. If I have trust to other people they would prefer to trust me also and vice versa. However, I don't trust ALL the people around me 100%. So I'm a choosy person when it comes to trust.
@shengmm143 (8)
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
my past experience in my workplace is that my co-workers love me at first, then off course the same way too. but suddenly this newly arrived applicant that is actually a girl an immature girl, makes envy of us because she cannot ride with our jokes and other stuff, she actually destroyed us in our boss. then suddenly this co-worker of mine told me that don't think of her coz she's new yet, she doesn't understand our friendship to each other, but we tried to understand her but she doesn't want us to be part of her life so when we work at our office, we didn't know that she is already gossiping wrong info to our boss until we were called by the HRD office but, we insist to approve the said wrong info because she has no proof, until one of us, the older who worked at the company said that if they cannot terminate that person we will all resign, and off course we were the favored of the HR because we do our job well, we make friends totally OK and we do not do anything against the company we are working too.
@applejean (5)
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
Yes,because the only way to trust someone is by getting to know them. And when we think we know them well, we must have an open mind and acknowledging that there's a lot things about them that we don't know. Trust comes from knowing a person so well.
@junalyn (17)
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
_yah, its really sad to say that most people do such to their co-workers or even at their friends even if they know in their selves that its not good but its a practice to almost all people. we are really good of "TSISMIS" just to show that we are not committing mistakes. When in fact, those people who are so-called back fighters are those who covers their errors not to be talk about. One time, i've been to one of the office here in the university and they do so. I just say, " let them be if that's what make them happy".
@darrenkay (2)
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9 Sep 10
sometimes trusting a person is the most powerful task in knowing them because we all know that it can help us to communicate people around us. we can't remove the attitude to talk about the person often we always see but we can avoid doing it.
@aizenjohn (9)
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
I trust most of my crew mates. But sometimes its very annoying that there are people who really want me down. They are very kind with me if I'm in the store but if I'm on my rest day, they talk about something bad about me. I trust people who really trust in me. And in return I'm doing the best for the best of them.
@sunshine999 (14)
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8 Sep 10
Actually, i can not trust all the people i work with. Sometimes i hear someone are talking about the others. So i have to think wherther they also talk about me behind me. That makes me lose faith to believe them. But i think some work are still worthy to trust. I will trust people firstly. I always make the right things. I can't interfere other's mind, but i can control my own mind. So don't talk about the others weakness behind them. It is a bad habit. It will cause the others' unbelief on you.
@swit_innocent (21)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
yeah, it is really unethical to talk to someone behind his/her back. You talk against him when that person is not around and your nice in front. Well that's human nature maybe but then it doesn't feel nice. You can correct his mistakes in a nice manner without offending him. Put yourself in the shoes of the person you are talking about and let's see what you will feel. If you feel offended, then that will what they feel also. Look for your own imperfections first before looking for the imperfections of others. And you will realize that if others have flaws in life you also have yours.
@swit_innocent (21)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Yeah, it is really unethical to talk to somebody behind his back. Most people talk negatively towards a person when they did not see them around and they are nice when they are in front of them. Well that is a human nature maybe. But then it is not a nice attitude. You can say what you want to say towards them without really offending them. You put yourself on the shoes of the person you are talking about and let's see what you will feel. You should first look on your imperfections before you talk about others imperfections.
@Rochieangeles (18)
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9 Sep 10
I think it is clear that trust is a big issue for us all.One in particular is conflict... because it is good and can be a great thing for a team. However , if not dealt with will be damaging. In working, we need not only be good with creating environments of trust through integrity, but also need to create environments that are safe, allowing for us to challenge each other so that growth may occur. It sounds like this is where we continue to go wrong. Leaders have pride and usually this does not end well for those under that leadership.
@moshymoshy (18)
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
No. I don't easily trust people whom I work with unless they give me a reasons to trust them. I think talking about other co-workers when they are not around are normal, specially in my country. I don't mind if my co-workers talk about me when I am not around even though it is good news or bad news as long as they will not be caught (or else...). I don't give much information to my co-workers if they are not my friends to avoid things like that and there is no topic about me taht they can talk about.
@emperador (18)
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
For me, I cannot trust all people I work with because I taught that they were friendly, approachable and I really taught that I can trust them. But the next days that we are working in something, I realized that I do not know them very well from the start we've met. So we must choose the person that is true and not one pretending.
@kongfuxiang (15)
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8 Sep 10
Even though I donot have working experience, but I think i trust all the people I work with. I will do my best and show a real me to others. I will be honest to others and trust people's firstly. I think trust comes from each other, you should show your heart to others, so they will not be afraid to communicate to you with their real idea. Just believe in yourself, then believe others.
@xyzerjam (19)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
I have tried working with people who are two faced. When your around them, it seems everything is fine. But once you turn your back, they would start bad mouthing you. Eversince I have learned to choose wisely the people whom I trust.
Not trusting your co-worker doesn't mean you won't interact with them, it only means that you keep somethings to yourself. Not letting your dirty laundry hang-out for everyone to see. Being reserved is not so bad.
Besides trust is earned and everyone has to work hard to earn anybody's trust.
@dharlynne (5)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
They say that I easily trust other people that's why when the time comes that I knew their real motive, i feel so down, frustrated and unknown.. I often think that my nature of being friendly can be so much burden to me .." I easily trust others" that's the real issue and trusting other people that much makes it too disastrous.. i am childish , almost everybody observe that.. yet this attribute makes it too easier for me to get hurt and be feeble against anything..Other people think that i am just an equipment that depreciates and has no value after its useful life...in simple sense a person to be used to achieve something..i can still remember when my best friend used to deceived me... ever used me..Sometimes I think if my Intelligence is really worth it..I trusted her that much yet she's just my friend when I am around, when she needs somebody to do her home works and projects in simpler sense when she needs me.. .Trust,trust, trust.. Can I buy for it in the market? Can i beg for their trust in front of the cathedral? Can I ever assure that everyone I trust will trust me as much as i do..? Trusting is not a matter of time you spent for each other.. It's a matter of how you build the foundation..Since i was a child I don't know how to define friendship and how to spell it either.. yet i still trust them. .
@_mhiele (4)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
no, because when i first meet them, they are good to me that's why i tend to trust them.i also make them assignments and let them copy my assignment. but when i'm the one who doesn't have an assignment and i'm going to text or asked them, they are not answering. sometimes i think that maybe they doesn't have or they are doing something. but when it is always happen, that's the time i think that i shouldn't be so friendly and trust them. sometimes i also think that if i not around, maybe they are are saying bad things about me.i learned this lesson because i experience it in my past and even this year.
@cozyrullan19 (13)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
No, sometimes this is one of the reason why lot's of employees had a conflict to each other and they cease other people in the organization. The relationship became different and understanding between co-workers does deeper nor fading. Trusting all the people in the organization is like putting your self in a great danger. For me, I only trust people who are close to me and those whom I know and whom I also feel comfortable with. I also trust people who also trust me, because we both know that we are secured to each other just like my family.
@swit_innocent (21)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Yeah, it is really unethical to talk to someone behind his/her back. But most people do it for maybe it is their nature already that they can't remove. But it is nicer to tell it frankly to the person about his bad attitudes so that he will know that his doings are not good. It is sometimes good to be tactless rather than being nice in front but talking behind him with unnecessary things. You put yourself on the shoes of the person you are talking about, and you will realize that it does not feel good when someone is talking about you without you knowing it. If you have something against someone, then you should know how to say it frankly to him without offending that person. In that way that person may realize his imperfections and change his attitudes and as to you, you avoid talking behind of someone else' back.
@realyn_montes (9)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
For me I don't trust all the people I work with because of some experiences. Sometimes the people you work with is very friendly to you but they may have some bad plan to you. You think they will be the one to help you if you need them but they are the one who will give you problems. So,we should not trust all people we worked with. For example if you have a group work in your leader say that it's fine that you will not help them don't trust them because they may not include your name in the member list.