Stay friends or become lovers?

based on experience I wish I didn't told him how I feel..now we can't even talk like the way it was before...too bad

The question of yours is difficult to answer because in real life, there are such instances that when best friends had entered into an intimate relationship like couple, do encounter much problems and for some of the same condition did succeed and able to be marriage couples. I agree with you that having a best friend is almost a great blessing for the love given here is more of a confidant partner relationship. However, if ever been given in a lover relationship sometimes encounter heavier tasks and expectations that for some tend to be not more of a challenge because you are well good much better stay best friends. For me, this situation is surely a personal choice. Depends on the kind of love to be taken and be given and may be the effect on them in the new environment they chose and wanted to have for themselves. In my own opinion, I will first weigh and know the possible outcome first before moving next on different stage. Sometimes, there are best friend who is more good to be in that manner only and when it comes in different relationship environment are having difficult times to cope up because of much expectations than when they are best friends where they can move freely. It really depends on the given situation, time and people that may contribute or affect for both of them.

well actually it depends. if i feel that same way for him then i would want him to become my boyfriend but if i don't have any feelings for him except friendship then i won't find ways to treat it as a hindrance to still pursuing my relationship to him as a friend.

It is like gambling... if you win, you get more; if you lose, then the good thing on hand will be lost as well. Have to consider carefully... not to make decision in rush. Please try to know each other in a deeper way, then try to find out if he is the man for your life.

I'm a type of person who prefer best friend as my lover. cos I'm difficult to have good feelings with someone new. maybe we're only going around with other friends, having common conversations, and having fun together. from those moments, I can 'measure' someone whether he's good for me or not, or maybe suddenly something happened between both of us. I mean we are crushing one another. it's ok for me, cos I like to do this for one reason: our togetherness gave us a comfort circumstances and make us possible to love each other. so, best friend becomes our lover? why not! LOL.

My lover is my best friend. :)It seemed really tricky at first. I mean, the next step might endanger the precious friendship we built, right? It took time for us to decide. Whenever I think about our past conversations about the confusion stage, I laugh. We struggled a lot with it. Even tried staying as friends but nope, can;t help but think about the next step all over again.