Do you try to get even with your enemies?
By reco13
@reco13 (605)
Philippines
February 28, 2010 3:02am CST
I encountered many situations wherein I get a real fight with other people. Sometimes, small misunderstandings lead to these fights. I sometimes think that you will really meet people who will make your life miserable no matter how good you are or no matter how good you show. For me, I maintain my being humble and I don't get even with them. I just let them realize their faults. And I wait for them to say sorry.
But if they don't apologize, it's fine with me and I don't intend to still get even. If you have an enemy, will you get even with her? What will you do to make even with her?
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13 responses
@lipstick2009 (1236)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
That's how i exactly feel while i'm still hurting. But after a few days, when my anger would subside, i try not to think of the offense done to me, And just live it to karma. Me , myself have hurt other people and i would like to think that i have been forgiven too, not personally maybe but in their hearts.
As much as possible i don't hold grudges, although honestly i still feel the sting sometimes but i dont feel like cutting off their head anymore.:)haha
@sadna82 (9)
• United States
1 Mar 10
My Best way to deal with my friends or enemies is, simple. I just go with this sentence, 'you are always correct and i may be wrong'. This will kills the ego of our enemy and at first makes them happy. Next it makes them think that they may be wrong too or hurted you for no reason..it works for me at many cases!!!
@amijor (234)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
When I was younger I try to get even in every fight that I had but as I mature I only get even when I'm hurt physically. Now, I use ways that would not make my enemy feel fulfilled in putting me down. I toughen up and make a bold, non-verbal statement that his/her uneducated behavior has no resonance over me and in that way it's not me who is affected and irritated but him/her. It's like I smash her attempts to hurt me with a big and strong tennis racket and in turn hit her back harder.
@MimiRemo (418)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
Well, it depends on how we became enemies. There are times I do not bother getting even because it's a waste of time and effort, and I probably wouldn't see much of that person anyway, so I just let it pass by after a confrontation. There are also instances that these people have the nerve to keep on bugging you when they are at clear fault in the first place, even when you keep ignoring them. I get fed up with that, and do not hesitate to give them a taste of their own medicine. Maybe they're just insecure or what, it's not right!
@ranjith143 (210)
• India
1 Mar 10
if someone hurt me, i do not do the same, instead i openly tell them about the incident and my feelings. Even if they repeatedly do the same, i maintain some distance for some periods, in the mean time they realize and talk with. I use this formula in order to maintain our relationship. By mistake, if i hurt anybody, i apologize for that and try to understand each other. I would like to be always friendly with all.
@Deegoo (5)
• China
1 Mar 10
When I get bullied, I usually ask myself: did I do anything wrong with him(or her)?
Nobody would treat you bad without reason. There're some possibilities:
1.Maybe I've invade his right or hurt his feeling unconsciously. Then he just gets even with me by a fight. If I don't apologize first, he won't, either.
2.Maybe he's jealous of your achievement or ability or success. Don't fight back. It just demeans yourself. Just let it go.
3.Maybe he just dislike you for no reasons. Then you'd better find ways to minimize your exposure to him and his impact on your emotions.
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
1 Mar 10
What enemies? Going through life looking for enemies? They will certainly be easy to find! This is Scary! Fighting and making people miserable! This is a bad example to set for your fellow man! What Faults? Looking for people with Faults? Waiting for THEM to say they are sorry? My Good Man,this is Awful! And getting even too? My God! You better enroll in Sunday school right away! Ask about the Golden Rule!
@jugsjugs (12967)
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28 Feb 10
If someone has done something really nasty to me or a member of my family then if there is away of getting pay back then yes i have done that in the past.I am older now and i feel like life is too short so now adays i tend not to bother as instead i think that one day they will have the same done to them by someone and they will know how it feels.
@MrKennedy (1978)
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28 Feb 10
If somebody who I consider an enemy really angers or wrongs me to such an extreme level, I must admit, I am intent on getting even, altough most of the time I can't be bothered to follow through with my plans on getting even.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
I had this crazy idea about getting even with this person who angered me to the highest level but I have thought of myself that it is not worth it. If I would do something like that then that means I have lowered my standard just like my enemy's standards. My enemy is still on the move of doing something but I dont care anymore. She's the one degrading herself not me.
@dolphinlady128 (72)
• Australia
28 Feb 10
No I try not to get even with them. As the bible said, if the enemy slap your left cheek, give them your right cheek too.
If someone did something wrong to me, I dont try to get even with them, because I dont think it is my right to do anything. My motto is just to lets forget and forgive. Praise the Lord if the person realize their faults and say sorry or make amends, but if not, not my problem :)
because, harbouring hatred, or thinking of ways to get even will not make ourselves feel better, but instead it will make us miserable. And I dont want to be miserable :)
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
OH! I just let them be. What do I get of getting even with them? Do I get more wealth and blessings? It only causes me trouble. As much as I'd want not to be inferior to the eyes of other people, I always assure myself that winning is not loud it is a victorious and righteous silence.
