is marriage the right solution to pregnancy?
By bea_29
@bea_29 (320)
Philippines
February 28, 2010 5:20am CST
with teenage pregnancy and even adults going pregnant without marriage nowadays i just want to know every idea of mylotters with these situation. on my opinion eventhough my heart, soul and faith told me that marriage should be the answer i am very much aware that it is difficult. difficult in such various ways..
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@ralphido (842)
• India
28 Feb 10
i guess teenage pregnancy is more profound these days since with adults they could easily get hold of stuff like I-pill or something in case they are afraid of conception. but teenagers, what with all the pressure from the society and all on going public with this issue, even talking to a chemist would be embarrassing enough for them.. i guess teenagers should be given the basic instructions on the importance of using precautions . I guess parents find it an awkward subject to talk about with children so they should get the help of some doctor or counselor to do the job for them..
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@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
no, sometimes it will only become worst. some couple who just got married because the girl got pregnant normally dont have peaceful family life coz they always blame each other. though some just got married for the child sake. though right now, even if they will not going to get married the child can still carry the father's last name according to the law based on the new family code unlike before that the last name of the mother must also be the last name of the child if they are not pregnant. better yet, to establish a good relationship with each other together with the child and they get married someday once they realize that they really want each other.
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@primeaque86 (8108)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
If the pregnancy is brought out by love, then marriage is the best thing to do. Nevertheless, if such case is brought about by night life, peer influence, or in other words brought out by mere lust, then being a single parent is the answer. Marriage could only result to further trouble between the couple if they are not really loving each other.
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@phoenix8606 (4942)
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28 Feb 10
hi! yes, I think it is, if you don't want your kid to be born without a legal father, who can take it as the law says. But as we all know many young couples are forced by the parents and the religion to get married, so that the child can be born in a normal family, where the mother and the father are married!
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• Canada
28 Feb 10
Yes I would agree with Phoenix. However as important as it is that a child should have both parents, it would be preferable if the parents actually had a healthy relationship. Marriage is not really a SOLUTION to pregnancy, its just one way which, I believe, is the right way to go about it if you want to raise a healthy happy child. But if the marriage is unhappy then the child would grow up in an unhealthy family, its counterproductive that way. Defeats the purpose.
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@jackpot15 (32)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
in an old culture we had from the past years. pregnancy is entailed by marriage because its the result of love that had been express by two people, but now its really different than before.. the main cause of being a pregnant is a mistake done out of curiousity. because the people especially the youth is more aggressive and adventurious when it comes to mature activity. they made a certain thing without thinking of what could be happen, so if they got pregnant they are refusing to get on marriage because they did not love the person who made them that. generally most of the unwanted pregnancy believe that marriage is not only solution, maybe they still believe that they cant afford to make another mistake.
but i agree with them.. and i salute to that kind belief... even though they had committed mistake but they keep pride from themselves.. that they really cant go and marry, which they do not feel any love to that man. thanks and happy lotting
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@Beautyfactor (1512)
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28 Feb 10
No, I don't think marriage is the answer. Without doubt it is perceived as the 'right thing to do' but it can lead to a very unhappy family life for all concerned. I just wish people would understand that the biggest committment anybody could ever make is to have children. A child is for life where as a marriage can be ended quickly in todays day and age. Another thing we need to do, particulalry with teenager is to keep drumming home the idea of consequences to actions. If you go about not protecting yourself from pregnancy and disease, then one day soon you are going to have to deal with it.
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
28 Feb 10
In my home country there are many single parents and they do a superb job of bringing up their baby. If a lady gets pregnant she could get married or become a single mother. Both choices would be acceptable in my home country. Sadly some ladies do choose abortion. I was married and I then had my first child. I have two other children but I didn't choose to get married again. I am a divorced lady with three children.
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@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
28 Feb 10
bea_29,
No, marriage is not the right solution to pregnancy!
I hope that no one would ever consider pregnancy to justify their decision to a life long commitment marriage. Marriage should be treated separately and with high regards. Considering marriage to address the impending arrival of a child is no different from marrying for the sake of marrying.
As the saying goes: Two wrongs just does not make a right!
@OrangJuice (687)
• China
1 Mar 10
Hi, bea, marriage may not the right solution in this situation, especially for teenages. In fact, it's a dilemma. Marriage may be "acceptable" way, but not correct choice.
Anyway, if both of them are not prepared for marriage, but they get married just because of pregnancy, I think, it may be worse. And the marriage cannot last long.
So...I really hope few people are in situation!
@arystine (1273)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
It depends. Marriage is not a solution if the only reason for getting married is not because of love and sincere desire to commit, but merely to give the child a legitimate name. Marriage is a solution if the couple decides to get married because they truly love each other and they are willing to commit for the sake of their marriage and the child that they are going to share.
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@mandeep_chahal (172)
• India
1 Mar 10
noooo........its not a solution....it can make the lyf worse for both baby n mother.....if tht person dont like thm....
@workingmoms (195)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
It's a no..no..
Of course we want our children to grow up in a normal family set up where parents are married.
However marriage is not an answer to any pregnancy. Before you get married make sure that both you really is into it, right?
Both can still be parents even if your not yet married. It is so easy to get married..however after the wedding is where the real drama comes in..