How to convince my Mom ??
By Gany15k
@Gany15k (1673)
India
February 28, 2010 8:27am CST
I like to buy a puppy.I'm very much interested in that.True to say its my one of aim to achieve it.It may be funny.But it is my wish to buy a puppy.I like them so much.But when I speak about this in my home all will shout at me.I just wonder what is the problem on this.They just say no need to buy.They say that lot of diseases will affect you.But I said a proper maintenance will not do anything.I also said lot of people have a puppy in their home , no one gets affected.So how can we ...? But no response.My mother...I just say if I talk about this she is shouting.She is very much afraid of dogs.If I say I'm going to get tomorrow,then she says ok you be here with your puppy, I'm leaving.I don't know what to do.I'm trying for at least 5 yrs.But no hope.I lost my confidence.Can anyone give a good suggestion ? How to convince my mom ? If my mom agrees then next minute I will buy one puppy for sure....Really need in help...What can I do...?
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Well, first you have to find out why your mother is afraid of dogs. You need to get her to go with you, so she can see it is not that bad. Good Luck. TATA.
Then i am truelly sorry to say that i cannot help you on this. TATA.
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
there are people who love dogs. and there are also people who hate the animal. plus, there are some people who are genuinely afraid of dogs. i am sure your mom does not belong to the first category. but i am not sure in which of the two last categories she belongs. if she hates the animal, you can not convince her to allow you to have a pet dog. the situation is worse if she is afraid of the animal, a certain kind of phobia. perhaps, you can have a dog but you cannot bring it home. that, i believe, is the best compromise you can have...
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
2 Mar 10
if she doesn't hate animals and simply is afraid of them, you can find a way to convince her. first, you can assure her that the animal will never do her any harm. but in making the assurance, you really have to apply measures in ensuring that your mom is safe from dog attack. also, the dog will not cause rabies, if it succeeds and attacks somebody. second, have the dog properly trained and home friendly. there are specific types of dogs that are home friendly, get one of them. in the matter of training, dogs are usually trained while young. so, check on the dog you are buying. and look for the one that suits your requirement and poses no threat to your mom or any member of your family. a pet, not a guard dog.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
2 Mar 10
If your mom is afraid of dogs, there might not be anything you can say that will convince her. But you might try convincing her that you'll keep the dog away from her, if that's possible.
Now if I were your mom, what I would want to hear is that you promise to feed it and clean up after it and train it and walk it regularly. And pay the vet bills.
My daughter's been lobbying for a dog too, but she won't promise to clean up after it, so no dog!
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
2 Mar 10
Sometimes you have to wait until you have your own place. :-(
@pupupd (1515)
• India
1 Mar 10
Whenever you buy something which is going to be a part of your regular life, you will need your family's approval, you cannot go against their wish and buy something and bring it in front of them. Now you have to make a firm choice. Either you forget about the puppy as long as as you are staying with your mom or have the puppy at home and not your mom which obviously you don't want, so The decision is in your hand. I am not telling you never buy a puppy for yourselves but even after convinsing so much your mother isn't ready then you just have to wait and nothing else. Good Luck!!
@Gany15k (1673)
• India
28 Feb 10
It will take years.If I wait that much time then I will become too busy.Now I'm somewhat free.I'm going to ask a separate room first.Then I will slowly move on.I think this will work.But only thing is it will take so much time. Already I waited for more than 5 yrs.Still I have to wait means .. no hope...
@theonerm5 (365)
• United States
28 Feb 10
A lot of people don't want animals in their home because of the work it takes to take care of them as opposed to having an outside pet. First of all you'd have to deal with all the dog droppings and urine which is quite nasty and until you get them trained they'll go wherever they want and whenever they feel like it. Training a Dog is not easy! If you're mean they'll get scared of you and if you're too soft they won't ever listen to you because they don't have to. It's a tough job and maybe your mom thinks you're not ready for it yet.
@theonerm5 (365)
• United States
2 Mar 10
Well I'm not judging you and I'm not saying you're not ready for this I don't even know you. I'm just saying that it's a lot harder than you might think it'll be. Sure it's nothing like taking care of a baby but it's still a lot of hard work. Most people only see the joy of having a loving pet that they can pet on, play with, and so they don't have to be alone all the time. They overlook the fact that a lot of hard work comes with the package. Not saying that you didn't already know but I just thought it would be a nice informative post for others to read as well.
@rosegardens (3034)
• United States
28 Feb 10
Awe, I am sorry your family does not want a puppy like you do. I hope you can get a dog or some pet. What about cats? If your mom is terrified of dogs, maybe a cat will not be so scary for her, and perhaps they will let you have it. that is very sad for you not to be able to get a dog, and sad for your mom who is so scared. Dogs can be great company.
Have you thought about another animal to get instead, that your poor mom would not be afraid of?
@Gany15k (1673)
• India
28 Feb 10
No way any pet animals.Mt mom is so scared of anything.That is the only problem with her.If I fight with her her health will spoil or she will cry.This is the only reason I'm still waiting for her permission.I don't want to make her cry.I will surely get some way.Hope I will....anyway thanks for your response...
@rosegardens (3034)
• United States
28 Feb 10
I'm sorry. I wish there were a way for you to get your pet.
@commanderxo (1494)
• Canada
4 Mar 10
I don't think that your mom is really afraid of having a puppy in your home. I think she is more afraid of winding up being responsible for it...as in being the one to have to look after it. That's probably why she doesn't want you to have one.
You are just going to have to convince her that YOU WILL look after it.
That means...training it, feeding it, picking up it's messes, taking it for walks, etc, etc.
If you can convince her that you ARE responsible enough, I don't see how she can refuse your request.
I do however wish you lots of luck. Dogs make excellent pets, as well as being great protectors of their masters and/or their families.
cdrxo
@Tallygirl09 (1380)
• United States
1 Mar 10
I can surely tell that you truly want a puppy. BUT you are living with your parents and need to respect their rules. Not trying to be mean but you have to accept the fact that while you live at home, you will not have a puppy. Your mother is very much against it. You stated that she is afraid of dogs and also diseases. She has every right to say no even if you think it's unfair.
You stated that you have been bringing this topic of getting a puppy up for at least 5 years, it's time to let that go and be fair to your mother.
I know how special animals are and can really understand why you want a dog so much but you are just going to have to wait til you are older and have your own home or apartment. What is more important to you - have a puppy or having your mother feel calm and safe in her own home? Take care.
@cloud31 (5809)
•
28 Feb 10
Tell your mom that you will take all responsibility with that puppy and she will no obligation to take care of it.And tell her how helpful the puppy is,it can more safe to have a dog/puppy in the house to alert the household when a theft is around.
I don't have idea how afraid your mom to dog but try to talk something good about dog or puppies.
Happy lotting!
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
2 Apr 10
Well, tell her that dogs can guard us and will remain a faithful animal at our last stage too. For time being, get your friends puppy and make it seen by your mom. Sure its cute looks and actions will attract your moms tender heart! try out!
@j1a2g3a4n5 (141)
• India
28 Feb 10
the same situation happened in my home . but when i bought a new puppy its activities impresed my mom too much . its also like a born baby in our home.now she only takes walking the puppy and while go shopping . its playfulness will convert any rude person into a small child. i think its a better way to buy and then you will see your moms behaviour!!!
