If you have to write a letter to your father,what will you say?
@wildlittlefan (4680)
Hong Kong
February 28, 2010 8:54am CST
There are so many people in this world who has never wrote a letter to his/her father.I never did.But once I atatend a growth group.One of the teacher taught us to write a ltter to our father,many people cried.Some people could never finished writing the letter.Why? Every body had a different story.Some would say that they missed thier father so much and have never told thier father how they love thier father.Some would say that they had never ask for their father to forgive them sicne they were so bad to their father.Some could grasp this opportunity to write whatever they feel about their father.Well,since everybody had a different stiry,see what is your letter all about if you are willing to share with us?
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@mdbanks123 (41)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
Dear Dad,
How are you? It's been ages since I last saw you. I want you to know that I miss you so much. I never got the chance to say I love you but in my heart and mind I do. Always have, always will. I remember the times when we sang together, the times when you couldn't get up because you were so drunk. Dad, never mind if you were never the perfect father. What's important is you have raised us well. I thank you for my life. I wish you are still here with us. I wanted you to meet my better half who takes care of me and who loves me in spite of my imperfections. Dad, even if we are not together now, I am happy that you are in a place where there's no more sorrow or pain. When it my time here on earth is done, may you be waiting at the heaven's gate for me.
I love you Dad.
Your daughter.
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@iamexpensive09 (81)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
oh my! i love your response. its the evil version of mine haha read mine.. same post :) i think your amazing. we share something in common and thats having a good stepfather who treated me like his own child. lets all love our father even if its our biological father or not :)
@goodoldday (236)
• China
1 Mar 10
For me, it is really hard to do because my father is strict with us, if I send him a letter, no matter what I write, I think he will try his best to find a lot of wrong words and change them to another mean. Of course, I admire his ability, but to be honest, I do not think he can stand on my side to consider any thing. To be a friend of the kids, I do not think every parent can do better like that.
@wildlittlefan (4680)
• Hong Kong
2 Mar 10
I agree with you that some fathers are just hard to get along with.Why? There are many reasons behind it. One of them would be their growing up background might be not easy at all or they have never experinece love from thier parents as well.I mean with a bacdground like this,who can be a good father?I have known someone,who would always beat up his wife.When Iasked him why he did something like that to his wife.He said to me a very sad thing to hear .He said "I saw my father did the same all the times when I was a kid and it works to silent my mother and make her shut up!"It is terrible,isn't it?He dai that because he saw hsi father did it all the time and he think that it is right.It is one of the upset family problem in the society.I would say that since all humans are under the consquence of sin,the problems just pass from one generation to one generation.So waht is the exit of human.Jesus is the only way.I heard many Christians,whose life began to change once they accpet Jesus as their perosnal saviour.Jesus not just healed their wounded experience from thei family but also gave them a new passion to love their family members even the family memebers are not loveable at all and hard to get along with.Well,I think you need to see what Jesus can do for you and experience a powerful change in your family if you do so.I nthink it is still a choice.Do you prefer your family can be a place of love or will you still prefer your family communication still the same?It is a choice.I think somehow,our family needs new energy that only God can provide.Because God is love and only though Him,we can have energy to love the unloveable and get the strength to communicate with those who are not esy to even talk with.God bless you ,my friend and have good day.
@sether7 (183)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
If I were to write for my father, I'd would start by saying I miss him so much with my mother. I'm at the city with my family and they are at the province and usually takes a day for a travel to reach them. I haven't been on my hometown for 3 years and I really missed being there. I'll also say thank you, for being a great father. I am the youngest and I know I've really feel been loved when I was with them. When we talk on the phone, he always says the word "mahal ko" or "my love" when we translate it in English. My father is a half-body paralyzed man, he suffered a heart attack when I was young and I've seen my mother take care of him during that time until now. He can't fully say the words but we strive hard to understand his actions. And even though he's like that, I'm very proud of him because he can still lots of things, he actually can farm even now, more talented than my husband I think when it comes to household chores hahaha. Gosh, I'm getting teary-eyed just by saying this. T_T
@wildlittlefan (4680)
• Hong Kong
2 Mar 10
Thank you for your sharing and it is so touching.I think it is atreasure to have a good father and someone you can proud of.I know that in nowaday,there are so many family problems in the society and not all fathers are good one.Some would always hurt their children and act like an animals.I feel sorry and sad for those family each time when I read about things like that happen in the news.But if you have a good one,you should really thank God for that,it is a grace to have a good father in nowaday.As you read on some responds on my topic,some don't even know who their biological fathers are.Well,as long as your father lives,treat him nice and treasure every moment with him.It is a fellowship that will come to an end somedays and we all know that.Especially when his health is not that good,it is important to visit him more even the distance is a bit too far.Or send him some gifts by mail once awhile to express your love and concern to him.He will surely feel it.I think it is also not to forget about the mother as well.It is not easy to take care of a family member who has health problem for a long time.Well,I hope that you can always enjoy your time with your family and treasure every moment with all of your family member.God bless you and your family.
@KiraNoFutago (107)
• United States
1 Mar 10
My father was abusive as well. Court ruled he wasn't allowed near me until I turned 16 (over 7 years ago) and he hasn't tried to make contact since. I've thought about what I'd say to him if he ever made contact again, but I've decided it'd have to be said in person. He'd probably find some way to cause legal trouble if I wrote anything for him. In any case, my 'letter' to him would mostly consist of threats that he had better stay away from me and mine. It wouldn't really be in rage, though. Mostly detached resemtment.
Honestly, I might just sit across and study him. I don't really even remember what he looks like.
@iamexpensive09 (81)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
i never tried sending a letter to my father. i grew up with broken family. i never met my biological father. at the age of 7 my mother marry a Japanese guy. he was okay. he even let me go to school till college. he was really kind. he treated me like his own child but if i were to choose who to write for, still ill choose my biological father. ill ask him where is he right now and why didn't he find me. does he know i even exist or he had a baby. ill tell him life was hard growing up without him beside me. but i still hope that someday i get the chance to know him and call him "father". be safe wherever you are father. :P
@wildlittlefan (4680)
• Hong Kong
2 Mar 10
I think it must be hard to grow up without a biological father with .For sure you will miss him and I can see that from your response to my topic.I hope that you will meet with your biological father somedays or at least get to nknow more about him.I think we wll need a clear picture of the father so that we will have a better understanding of the missing father figure and image within our mind.But still,your step father treated you like his own son and it is truely a grace from God.I had heard so many step fathers who are no good to their kids and I feel sorry for those kids.Well,since we knew the importance of the fatherly love,to love our heavenly father is also important as well.There are many thingwe don't know why did it happen to us,but all things will work out for good according to the bible.God can use our hurtful history to heal those who has similar background like us.And it is more powerful than someone who doesn't have such a background .I hope that byou can accept the Lord Jesus as your saviour and walk on God's way and seek His will in your life in the days to come.You will be amaze that how God can use your experinece and background to help tons of people like yours if you allow him to.I would encouage you to live a life with God's purpose and presence in your life.God bless you and have a nice day.
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
28 Feb 10
First off, I don't talk to my father. I haven't since I was about 20 or so. He was very emotionally and verbally abusive to me. I've thought about sending him such a letter. Thus far, I haven't because I don't think he's worth the bother. But if I did, it would say:
Dear Father,
I've decided that you are how you are and there's nothing I can do to make you into a dad. Lucky, I have one. I've decided that if I ever have kids (I don't have any now in case your curious), you won't see them even for a second, even if I die. Other people will take care of them. Too bad you missed out on being a grandpa.
Sincerely,
Your daughter
@Wizzywig (7847)
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28 Feb 10
I started to write the letter here but I have so much more to write than would be acceptable for a myLot comment =o) However, thanks to your discussion, I WILL be writing that letter to tell him my childhood memories, how much I enjoyed our early morning walks before he became ill and how proud he would be of my mum and how she is coping with life now.
thank you for giving us such a thought provoking topic 
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
28 Feb 10
My father and I have had many arguments when I was a child and a teenager. I always wanted to make my own decisions and it was hard for me to accept that he wanted to decide what was right for me, and what I wasn't allowed to do or had to do. My father has a temper and he tends to get angry pretty quickly. He is pretty stubborn and so am I, and that led to many arguments. At the same time we also spent a lot of time together and him and I have done lots of things together when I was a child.
If I wrote him a letter I would write about our relationship. I would write about the positive memories that I have with him and I would also write about our many problems and arguments.
@skylovergirl79 (148)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
The last time I wrote to my father was in grade school and that was my last letter since he already passed away. Its content was full of gratitude and love notes.
I am proud that before he leave, I think, I dont have messages left unsaid.
@Greentea812 (133)
• China
1 Mar 10
Hi wild,I love my father,he did all he can do to make me grow,we can communicate easily for any topics and cases,but frankly say sometimes I don't understand what does my father think about,he is a business man,but he is too kind and honest to make a good performance in comprison with others,he never told me what he really want,from the angle of impersonal it's really hard to define my father,he is so complicate for me to understand.
@pinklady227 (285)
• Philippines
10 Mar 10
Thanks for opening a sensitive topic. I have written a letter to my father during his birthday and it was a letter of gratitude. I said thanks for his love to our family, for sharing his time with us and for simply being there for us despite all the hardships in life.
@takeshiboy (178)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
For my father, I love you very much and thank you for everything you did for our family especially to the our education. I know you choose to go abroad for work to sustain our need. It is the right time to honor you for being a good and responsible father. I love you.
@workingmoms (195)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
If I will write my Dad a letter, I will tell him that I love him so much. That he doesn't have to worry about his short comings..
I would like to tell him that I would like spend more time with him..
A lot of stories that I would like to share with him..
Hey you made me miss my Dad
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
28 Feb 10
Well, I would probably start out by thanking him for being such a good father and for many things he did for me when I was growing up. then I would probably ask him what happened between him and my mother and why he stopped loving her the way he did. I think it would really help me if I was able to understand or at least know what happened there.
