Please Pray For My Mum's 90 Year Old Friend. She Fell Earlier Today.:-(
By Janey1966
@Janey1966 (24170)
Carlisle, England
February 28, 2010 5:04pm CST
Hi Fellow MyLotters. Now, I hope you don't think I am being hypocritical asking this but if anyone is religious out there (I do believe but don't go to Church or anything) could you all pray for my Mum's friend who is in hospital right now? Any religion, I do not mind.
What happened was that Annie (the lady in question) fell whilst taking some pots out of a cupboard up above her. She is very tall but does have to stretch in order to reach them but in this instance - unfortunately she fell, breaking her pelvis and her wrist, the latter in 4 places.
She is not a relative of ours but is Mum's sister's ex-mother-in-law. Annie has family elsewhere who are now by her bedside in hospital. Annie has been in a lot of pain due to her wrist having to be "set" so it could be treated. My cousin Jill had to go out of the room when this was going on as she is squeemish like me.
Annie is very independent, lives on her own but still relies on her family to take her shopping, that kind of thing. Her phone is her lifeline and she uses it every day. Fortunately, she had a phone where she fell too (in the kitchen) but chose to ring her daughter instead of the ambulance as she wanted to contact her first, which is fair enough as she must've been very frightened. To add to her stress she was led there for an hour and a half before she managed to contact anybody. Jill (and others) had to smash their way in through the back door as her key could not open the front one.
So, all in all a stressful day for poor Annie but I do worry what will happen next due to her age. I hope that her family tell the doctors how independent she is as a Home would finish her off in a very short time. Obviously, my Mum is extremely upset...we all are.
She loves her home.
Could you pray for her and her family? Thank you.
Annie is very independent, lives on her own but still relies on her family to take her shopping, that kind of thing. Her phone is her lifeline and she uses it every day. Fortunately, she had a phone where she fell too (in the kitchen) but chose to ring her daughter instead of the ambulance as she wanted to contact her first, which is fair enough as she must've been very frightened. To add to her stress she was led there for an hour and a half before she managed to contact anybody. Jill (and others) had to smash their way in through the back door as her key could not open the front one.
So, all in all a stressful day for poor Annie but I do worry what will happen next due to her age. I hope that her family tell the doctors how independent she is as a Home would finish her off in a very short time. Obviously, my Mum is extremely upset...we all are.
She loves her home.
Could you pray for her and her family? Thank you.2 people like this
13 responses
@bamikalipal (588)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
Good morning Janey,
Thank you for sharing this with us.
I'm very sorry about Annie. She may not be a blood relative of yours, but we are all brothers and sisters in Christ. Like you, I don't go to church, but I pray anywhere and everywhere, knowing that God is in every cell of my body and in every part of His creation.
Good thing she had a readily accessible phone to make contact with the outside world. With the shock and pain of what happened, she felt that her daughter was the one she needed most. At 90, the healing process may not be as speedy compared to that of a 9-year old. But, we have One Refuge who makes everything possible. From the hospital she will have to stay at a Home or a Rehab Center for physical therapy. Being an independent woman, chances are she may not like this, but she will have to agree with whatever needs to be done for her recovery to re-establish her independence.
This is my simple prayer for her and her loved ones and I'd like to share it with you and our friends.
Lord forgive us for our sins and make us worthy to receive the urgent favors that we ask of you today. Please:
1) bless Annie and take away the pain that she is enduring now.
2) let her healing process be as speedy as possible.
3) be her Physician/Surgeon, using the doctors' hands to do all the necessary procedures for her, efficiently and effectively.
4) grant her the virtue of patience and give her the wisdom to agree with what You (through her doctors) intend to do and and agree with what You advice her to do.
5) comfort her and her loved ones and make them know that trials are part of life, that You did not let this happen to make them miserable, but to make them stronger and braver.
6)strenghthen their faith and make them realize that nothing lasts forever, that: problems get solved, the sick gets well, debts are paid, errors are fixed, after the rain, we see the sun again and so on and so forth.
With gratitude and great appreciation, we say Thank You Lord.
Peace be with you and your Mum.
God bless you everyday, Janey!
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
1 Mar 10
Aww I have tears in my eyes after reading that and thank for not being so "heavy" if you get my meaning. All the words you have written fill me with hope for Annie, they really do...and as for the dog avatar, is it your doggie? Every time I see it I want to cry...but in a nice way!
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@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
1 Mar 10
To be honest, I like all animals..especially furry ones! I have a cat myself. Haru is so cute though. What breed is he?
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@bamikalipal (588)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
Hi Janey,
Jeez, what a quick response! Thanks a lot.
Let's not worry, but stay hopeful all the time. Worry does not help, but "gives gives a 'small' problem a bigger shadow."
Yes, Haru is our dog, our pride and joy. He is bright, affectionate, sweet and loyal. On my son's bday, we sang and he did his part with a bark after each line. "Happy Birthday to you, woof, woof; happy birthday to you, woof, woof....
Now, Haru says, woof, woof or thank you for your nice words. Feeling like wanting to shed tears of joy each time you see him, I bet you must be a dog lover, too.
Let's continue to pray for Annie and her loved ones.
Have a great day, Janey! :)
@derek_a (10873)
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1 Mar 10
I am so sorry to hear that and I can empathise with you.
Several weeks ago my wife's mother fell and made a huge gash in her leg. It was so bad they could not stitch it and they had to do a skin graft. She has been so ill and also has a heart problem. Thankfully she is now beginning to feel a little better and will soon be home from hospital. It's not good for old people to fall, yet they are so very prone to doing so.
I will send my healing thoughts to her during my daily meditation. I hope your Mum's friend has a speedy recovery. _Derek
_Derek@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
1 Mar 10
Awww thank you so much, that's very kind of you. I only hope she does not sweep aside people that want to help her. She has done this before but it has to be emphasised that her life will never be the same again after this fall as it is obviously a serious one and..like you said, it's not good for older people to fall as their bones aren't the same as someone younger.
I must say though, she has a tremendous diet. No TV dinners for her! She doesn't smoke or drink either.
I only hope she does not sweep aside people that want to help her. She has done this before but it has to be emphasised that her life will never be the same again after this fall as it is obviously a serious one and..like you said, it's not good for older people to fall as their bones aren't the same as someone younger.
I must say though, she has a tremendous diet. No TV dinners for her! She doesn't smoke or drink either.@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
1 Mar 10
Yes, you're probably right there! Mind you, an Aunty of Mum's smoked like a chimney and she lasted until she was 90 or so. It's all in the genes I reckon. Most of Annie's family have lived a long time and I think she has an older brother if I'm not mistaken.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
1 Mar 10
Thank you so much, your kind words mean a lot to me. Take care.
@udayrao2 (781)
• India
1 Mar 10
Hi Janey
Not only will I pray but also asking my family members to join in to help yr mum's friend; I know how difficult it is at that age as my mother and father both had similar accidents when they were nearing that age; and keep your attitude cheerful esp when you are around her and also give her good recovery hope, see that she does not get into that dejection/all-is-over mode also; ask everyone who visits her to also encourage her to speedy recovery to be normal again.
Convey our best wishes and also tell her that everyone you met have conveyed the same - that will also lift up her spirits and lead to faster recovery.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
1 Mar 10
Hello there! Many thanks for that kind response, it is much appreciated. Annie is an incredible lady in many ways. She is "bright as a button" as they say over here so I'm hoping this setback won't make her depressed because mental attitude is probably more important than getting over the physical aspects of her fall. I am pleased she has a family, even though her daughter and son live in other cities. The pair of them are always by her side in times of need. I've never met her daughter (who is 70 years old herself) but from what Mum tells me she is an extremely kind-hearted, gentle woman so whatever happens next, Gayle (the daughter) will ensure her Mum is well cared for, either at her own house, the daughter's or elsewhere.
@pandaeyes (2065)
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1 Mar 10
Oh poor Annie.
Her pelvis will be the thing she dislikes having broken because it means that she must rely on others for her basic needs and nobody likes that.
Our own neighbour has had a few falls too over the last year but thankfully had someone there at the time. She is also fiercely independent but has had to resign herself to being helped.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
1 Mar 10
I know, it's terrible isn't it? I have visited Annie's home on a couple of occasions and I'm not kidding you, it's like a showhome. She has no help whatsoever as she cleans, etc, all by herself. There is not one speck of dust in her house and her bed is like something out of a showroom, absolutely immaculate! She irons virtually everything and folds each garment up before folding it and placing it on tissue paper in drawers, so there are layers of clothes separated by the tissue paper. There are some things she could not do even before the fall, like cleaning behind her sofa as she cannot pull it out anymore (she has help with this with her family) so heaven knows how she must be feeling now after this setback. I am hoping that, if she does go back home that adaptations to it will help her out. At the moment she just washes instead of having a bath (very thoroughly I might add) and Mum has often suggested that she could have one of those walk-in baths. Annie took no notice! Very stubborn lol. I reckon if she DOES finally listen to those who know what they are talking about I actually think her life will IMPROVE if she chooses to stay in her house, but in the meantime her siblings will have to look after her won't they? I'm afraid what my clairvoyant said some months ago is coming true. He wasn't negative (not allowed to be) but he did mention falling and breaking wrists and said that it was probably a friend as opposed to a relative. Instantly, I thought of Annie.
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@pandaeyes (2065)
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1 Mar 10
My neighbour found the remote control electrical extension sockets were very useful because she can have the things she wants plugged into them and have the remote at easy reach.
Its good for the light,TV and her heater too.
They put her a special key access thin on her door so that if she cant get to the door,any of us can use the code and open her door with the key.
She go that after had a little panic when she locked herself out but my other neighbour had a spare key to get her back indoors.
Sadly she is in the nursing home now so we might not see very much of her.
She is 100 and keeps falling as her balance has gone.
@alamin_reb (22)
• Bangladesh
1 Mar 10
janey i must pray for ur mums friend... i know he must a good person and god is always with good people,,,,,,,,dont worry friend every thing will be easy.....
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
1 Mar 10
Aww thank you so much for that lovely response, it is much appreciated. Welcome to MyLot by the way.
@vandana7 (100617)
• India
1 Mar 10
Hi Janey, we all will :) I admire the lady, at 90 wanting to be independent. :) And having the presence of mind to call her daughter instead of letting her relatives be alarmed. I think she should be ok. I dont know how cold it is out there. But the coming season is warmer, so by the time the next winter sets in, her pain would be much lesser though it would be chronic. It is nice of you to think of her so much. :)
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
1 Mar 10
Well it's Mum who knows Annie better than I do. When Mum had transport my Dad used to take her round every Saturday so they could go shopping together. Unfortunately, she could not visit her every week from, say, 6 months ago because there is no car now. Having said that, though, this meant that her own relatives had to see her in order to do her shopping, which is what should've happened in the first place, to be frank. It is good that Mum is not being excluded from the latest "goings on" and I am pleased about this as she has been a very good friend to Annie, and continues to be so as she speaks to her every day on the telephone, and still visits whenever she can.
The spring is coming so I'm hoping the really cold weather is behind us now.
The spring is coming so I'm hoping the really cold weather is behind us now.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
1 Mar 10
hi Janey my prayers are with Annie hope she recovers very soon from that fatal fall and visit you very soon with a smile on her face to hug you---every thing gonna be fine .As days pass by she would be discharged from the hospital real soon.
.As days pass by she would be discharged from the hospital real soon.@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
1 Mar 10
Hiya! Thanks so much for your kind words. Mum reckons that Annie won't be able to use her right wrist when she comes out of hospital because the injury is so bad...and being 90 I don't think it will fully heal anyway. This is what worries everyone because Annie even does her own cooking, everything really. It's going to hit her hard not being able to do what she did before but with the support of her family at least her mental state will be OK, she is very strong that way. As for me, I live 100 miles away from her but I have sent her my love via Mum, who will no doubt visit her in hospital at some stage once her niece can give her a lift up there. I will keep everyone posted as to how she is once I know more.
Mum reckons that Annie won't be able to use her right wrist when she comes out of hospital because the injury is so bad...and being 90 I don't think it will fully heal anyway. This is what worries everyone because Annie even does her own cooking, everything really. It's going to hit her hard not being able to do what she did before but with the support of her family at least her mental state will be OK, she is very strong that way. As for me, I live 100 miles away from her but I have sent her my love via Mum, who will no doubt visit her in hospital at some stage once her niece can give her a lift up there. I will keep everyone posted as to how she is once I know more.@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
1 Mar 10
Thank you so much for your kind words, it is much appreciated. Welcome to MyLot my friend.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
1 Mar 10
Thank you for taking the trouble to comment and don't worry about it not being a large response, I fully understand.
@mandeep_chahal (172)
• India
1 Mar 10
offcourse we will pray.......all our blessing r wid them.....
