still waiting for her
@Thew_Technology (29)
United States
February 28, 2010 10:41pm CST
Its so hard to be patient for the woman God has in mind for me. I loooong for her, and don't see her coming. Its gotten me really down lately and I can't help but think about it. It didn't help when I found there were still pictures of my once-wife to be on my computer only a few minutes ago. Plus, she is ALWAYS coming to mind...My confidence in myself has never been good either and the relationships of my past(especially most recent) have crushed what remained. I need some prayer for confidence and strength from my family in Christ. Thank you, God bless.
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@Thew_Technology (29)
• United States
2 Mar 10
I believe he has. My issue is the patience to wait on the Lord. Something I pray for often is patience. Thanks
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
2 Mar 10
Hi, feel a little sad here. I wish you and pray for you too... hope you feel better soon
@ClassyCat (1214)
• United States
2 Mar 10
It appears that you are young, and therefore do not need to be in any hurry to find ‘the right Christian woman.’
From one who has had a fify year Christian marriage, and now widowded, let me just tell you that being a ‘Christian’ mate, does not mean that you won’t have a good person that’ll be truly committed to the marriage.
If I may, let me advise you as I would my grandchildren:
Watch you lady (when you think you’ve ‘found her’), - how does she handle correction? How does she treat her dad, and other men in her life (brothers, etc).
Does she always want to go out to expensive places, or go on elaborate dates? Does she know how or even have an interest in cooking, and housekeeping?
How does she (and her family) handle money? You don’t have to ask, but by listening and observing, will realize whether they are able to control spending and even possible investment habits.
What is her political outlook ? If she’s extremely one way and you’re the other that can cause trouble somewhere down the line.
And while you’re at it, ask yourself these questions about yourself as well?
Marriage is serious, and I think many today are not truly committed to it, and at the first signs of trouble or opposition to their views, wants or feelings – they’re ready to call it quits. A good marriage takes work, and oft times a walk through the manure in life to get to the better side. Many today, just don’t want to get ther little feet dirty, if you understand what I’m saying.
And pray and pray some more, and be patient. Sometimes someone can drop into your life as a planned trap by satan himself - - those relationships are many if not most times based on lust, and never work out.
I know at the mention of satan, people reject that - but he is a spirit just like God, and his goal is to deceive and destroy people’s plans, marriages, homes and their lives, if possible.
Hope I’ve helped somehow. God bless.
C. C.
@Thew_Technology (29)
• United States
2 Mar 10
Thanks a lot. That was a handful of sound, christian advice. And you're right. Marriage is a commitment instituted by God himself! Not to be taken lightly. I see that and I want my wife(to be) to see it as well, amongst other things. Thank you.
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
1 Mar 10
Hmmm??? Aren't you trying to hold true love and God to your time frame??? Some people don't find true love until later in life.Remember that forcing things can often turn into a mess. Relax. In the meantime, how can you help others? By giving love and kindness to others, you attract it back. Help those you can and encourage those you can't.Stay open for true love. You will find that it tends to show up when you least expect it. Seems like you expect it right now! Hmmm????
@Thew_Technology (29)
• United States
1 Mar 10
I don't expect it right now...though I wish for it now. I know God's timing is perfect and I would best wait on the Lord, which is what I'm doing. I just lack patience and these thoughts surround me. I like and appreciate your advice though. That is what I'll try to do. Thank you.
@laura_lmaxi (678)
• United States
1 Mar 10
You have to close the chapter with your ex wife. I know it is very difficult, but you have to cut all ties with that past, she will probably be a nice memory, but you have to move on, and then you will have a much better life. It is important that you try to boost your self esteem, this is crucial for you to be able to relate with people in the society. You have to think that you are worth a lot and that if you do that everything will be ok.
@Thew_Technology (29)
• United States
1 Mar 10
She's not my ex wife, I've never been married(praise God, cuz I want one marriage).
Thanks for all the responses people.
@hunterkim_07 (458)
• Philippines
2 Mar 10
Waiting for the RIGHT one for us really requires patient and perseverance. I could say because I, too, am still waiting patiently for my Mr. Right. I don't worry about it that much because I know that God has set someone for me and that He will come at the right place and at the right time. So, just relax. Keep on praying. And everything will just fall in to place.\\
God speed!
@Thew_Technology (29)
• United States
2 Mar 10
You're right :)
God knows our every need and gives us the desires of our hearts. I'll find someone on God's time and so will you.
Thanks
@gtargirl (5376)
• United States
1 Mar 10
This is always tough, my friend. Here's something I did, every time I thought of my exhubby I prayed. Just a quick hello to the Lord, "thank you for another day" type of thing. Pretty soon I found myself smiling. Take a walk and thank him for every blessing you do have, like breath. 
I see that you are young, plenty of time for God to bring you someone special. Apparently, it isn't now. You're also very cute 
, so stop it with that low self-esteem already. In any case, I will be praying for you
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I see that you are young, plenty of time for God to bring you someone special. Apparently, it isn't now. You're also very cute , so stop it with that low self-esteem already. In any case, I will be praying for you. 
@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
2 Mar 10
God obviously thinks you need patience BEFORE you've earned your woman!!! I can tell you from personal experience...IT IS WORTH THE WAIT!!! And it WILL take patience!!! Your life is just getting started. If you get everything now, what surprises would you have in your future. God knows EXACTLY what you need & when!!! You will NOT receive it one second before nor one second after that precise moment!!! 
Your life is just getting started. If you get everything now, what surprises would you have in your future. God knows EXACTLY what you need & when!!! You will NOT receive it one second before nor one second after that precise moment!!! 
@Tuffcookie08 (272)
• United States
1 Mar 10
You know how you can spend days looking for something and still never find it but then the minute you stop looking you find it! I think you should take that approach with this it will make waiting a whole lot easier and less disappointing when you don't find what your looking for. FYI: I'm speaking from experience even though i've had some really bad screw-ups in that department I decided to focus on the parts of life I can conquer now LOL ;)
@blue_raine (257)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
hi, thew..well waiting for a woman who is really from God is great..everyone deserves to have their betterhalf a man/woman in life...waiting for someone is quite difficult especially if there is really someone you really like to be with and you are waiting for her/him. its different from you're waiting for a someone whom you know that she/he is God's gift to you. they may come in unexpected time, unexpected place. they may come as unexpected person..meaning , you don't have an idea about the person. that is really waiting for a God given partner to be..and when you wait for it, the love that wil grow to your heart will be true.
@Genericbe (1376)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
Our prayers goes with you. It is really hard to be patient especially if what your are waiting for has never been answered. I understand what you are feeling at this moment. How loneliness and despair brought you after your previous relationships had ended.
However, be reminded that GOD has his own plans for us. Only He knows the best for us. Sometimes, things has to happen in ways we do not want to have but it only means that GOD is testing us, our patience and faith in him.
I believe that for every loss we have in life, it will be replaced by GOd but in his time. His blessings come extraordinarily in the way we never expected to happen. In time that he is our last option in life. The more we think of loosing confidence in ourselves, the more GOD will test us in our faith.
This situation right now of yours is part of God's trials. No matter how many people around do leave you? remember that GOD never left you even the most crucial times in life. He will answer your prayers in his time. He is just waiting for you to face and overcome his challenges. Then, after succeeding, all your needs in life will come smoothly because He knows what you really wanted and filled with many overflowing blessings.
Wishing you the best and graces of our God to come and touch your life..
@Bhemzky (423)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
Hi! I don't really know much your situation is. Are you trying to move on? Cause if you try to remember and reminisce the past, you can never move on. Maybe this will help you (An article I wrote about moving on)--
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/1614311/breakups_how_to_move_on.html
@Annie2010 (11)
• China
2 Mar 10
True love is always difficult to find. But I never stop my steps. It's precisely because of true love was hard to find. So, it's became more precious! I don't think this is a torturous process. It's can be a happy thing. I always make myself to enjoy it. I belive my love is anywhere in the big world. He will come at anytime. Maybe some time late today! Maybe next minute! ;-)
