Friends or Relatives ?
By Gany15k
@Gany15k (1673)
India
March 1, 2010 1:51am CST
Before posting this discussion I just thought which is the correct category to post this.And I thought friends will be perfect.Ok , now to whom you will give more preference in sharing your views and who will be there with you forever? Either friends or relatives ? We have to be practical.Every one don't say oh friends are the one you prefer.Just explain with your answer.Important thing is be practical.
Now I believe in friends.My relatives are so selfish.They just want them to be happy and for name sake they will enjoy.There are some people in my relatives who are so good to share anything like we do with friends.But they are less.My friends are very helpful and caring.If anything bad happens means they also feel bad about that.They spent a whole day in convincing me on one issue.I didn't really expect that.Suddenly they came and made me cool.Really I'm gifted to get friends like that.So I would say that I always give preference to my friends.
Some may have good relatives but still whom do you prefer..? Friends or Relatives ?
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9 responses
@allknowing (137753)
• India
1 Mar 10
As far as possible I depend on myself and have lined up professionals/experts in every field to take advice/assistance from. When I had met with an accident I had doctors, nurses, home nurses, maids, my bankers, my contacts in the hospital to do what I needed most and what my friends and relatives did was that they visited me, held my hand and some even kissed me and brought gifts which I had no use for! The moral of the story is dont depend on friends or relatives but garner enough expertise/help from those who can give it to you and last but not the least be financially independent.
@Gany15k (1673)
• India
1 Mar 10
I think you mistook.I didn't say about depending on friends or relatives.Whom you will think ...they will be with you.You won't live alone , right...?Whether you share your views to you friends or relatives ..? is my discussion I think.Anyway thanks for your response.Have a nice day...
@pupupd (1515)
• India
1 Mar 10
allknowing whatever you have said is very true. When you are lying on hospital bed the least anyone can do is to visit you and wish for you so that you recover soon. But there are people who don't get visitors as well. Imagine yourself lying in hospital with no one to talk to except for Nurse - who occasionally come to give you medicine & injections, Doctors - who visit to check your progress and other patients - who are in same situation like you and will have nothing else to share but their remorse and regret. You will feel bored in two days I can guarantee you, The Doctors and nurse don't have any time in this world to talk to you, they will say they have other patients to look after as well unless you are a son/daughter of a minister or any celebrity, in that case you will unnecessary attention.
The thing is I can't imagine myself lying injured on hospital bed and having no one to ask how I am except Doctors & nurses(who will least bother to ask about me after I am discharged)
@allknowing (137753)
• India
1 Mar 10
When someone is in the hospital they are there because they need attention and not visitors who some times come at a time when the patient least wants to see any one but has to oblige. I have known of cases where patients are in ICUs and there is a bee line there. I would any day prefer care than lip sympathy. - This is for pupupd and now Gany I know exactly what you have said and I have noted the importance you give to some consolation you receive from friends but if you yourself are strong do you need that consolation. Think again - that is what I was trying to convey.
@midnightbliss (541)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
i think my friends understands me more. maybe one of the reason is the age. I grew up youngest in the family and we most of my cousins are the same age bracket of my sisters. I also spend a lot of time with my friends, even just on the phone or through emails and chat. that's the reason I feel more comfortable to share my ideas and thoughts to my friends rather than my relatives.
@pupupd (1515)
• India
3 Mar 10
Yes midnight, Age is a very important factor why maximum people today feel more comfortable sharing the problems with their friends and not relatives. One reason is they are not always supportive and also we don't spend much time with them. Second is the generation gap. Our relatives will never understand our problems, they will just ignore saying its nothing. But for us it is something critical. But if our relatives include cousin brothers and sisters who are almost of our age then it helps a lot. Then it is better than having closest friends!!
@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
I agree with you, relatives will pull you down but the friends will help to get you up.
This is only base from my experience.. Im not saying that all the relatives are bad, some also have good relatives and they are just lucky to have them.
I once failed, make mistakes..my parents,family were very supporting but my relatives put down on me, its like i can't lift my chin up,and my friends were also there who is willing to support and give their advice. so i would say my friends
@summer77 (414)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
Most of the times I share my views to my friends, maybe because I spend more time with them than my relatives who are busy with their studies or work. But there are also times that I share it to some of my relatives like my cousins or my aunt. I have this close aunt and I told her about my dreams and my goals. Yes, my relative preference is selective especially to those close to me or is nearly reachable. We have family reunion every year and we are getting along together once that event happens. But again, most of the time I share my views to my friends because they are the one's I can interact and see almost everyday. ^^
@pupupd (1515)
• India
1 Mar 10
Yes you are right. We can't have relatives with us all the time. Friends are the ones whom we get to talk to daily and as a result will share our views with them only. There are people who are very lucky as they have good friends outside and also good relatives at home. So, they are always surrounded by people with whom they can chat and share all their feelings. I am not always free to share everything with my parents. We recently had an article on newspaper saying only 20-30% boys talk about themselves to their parents where as the girls percentage is around 56-66%. the girls normally have more talk with their mothers regarding hormonal problems, of course a mother can understand such things better than a father.
@Gany15k (1673)
• India
1 Mar 10
Hmmmm, It is good to see that you have a family union every year.I never heard that.Good.Continue it.I too share with relatives very less.Only friends I know.I share everything to them.Whatever I share they will make fun.Really I will enjoy those moments.I love them.They are precious to me.
@Gany15k (1673)
• India
1 Mar 10
@ pupud
I too won't share anything to my parents.I can't say anything but most of the things I don't share.I always share with friends whatever I want to.There are very rare cases where a boy can share all to their parents.And then thanks for giving the article info.
@vine88 (1031)
• India
2 Mar 10
First of all we should know each others. Know your friends. All friends will not be good. Some relatives may be good. All will not be bad.You know to know first and take a decision that will be great.
As talking about me, my relatives just only talk, they talk a very good language, they are articulate but they don't like to help. And talking about Friend i still don't have a best friend. A friend of my kind. A friend in need is a friend indeed. All friends will not help, they are just friend to talk and time pass share ideas .... but best friend can really helpful.
@figjam00 (1445)
• India
1 Mar 10
It is okay to have this discussion here. I think comparing friends and family is one of the toughest thing. I think when it comes to sharing things friends are the best choice because you can't share anything with your parents and siblings. But other view is that family always stay and friends move one with their lives. So one should have perfect balance in both family and friends in order to have an excellent life.
@pupupd (1515)
• India
1 Mar 10
I prefer friends more than any of my relatives. My reasons are different from yours though. I am a part of a nuclear family and we that is me and my parents stay away from all our relatives who are in other state. We have been staying away for more than 20 years, we do keep contact on phone but I don't get to share all my feelings with my brothers and sisters over there. I know if I would have been near to them, they would have been a great support for me. For me my friends are everything. I have very few of them but all are good and we love to be with each other. We all are of same nature, we all share our problems and try to find a solution. My big support is also my boyfriend. I always look forward to get consoled by him. If I have a fight with him then I look up to my friends, not that I am selfish here but my friends understand me better and they have no problem.
There are few relatives who are selfish, and we do not keep any contact with them. It's better to leave them alone than trying to bond a relation with someone who is least interested.
@phoenix8606 (4942)
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1 Mar 10
hi! for me it is easier to share my points of view with m friends, because I really don't think my relatives will understand me and there are also some things that i think will be better to share with some friends than with the relatives!
