How expressive are you to your parents?
By reco13
@reco13 (605)
Philippines
March 1, 2010 12:18pm CST
Are you close enough to your parents, that you can say the words "I love you" even if you are old enough? Do you show them how much you love them? How do you express your love for them?
I am really close to my parents. I grew up with them as my mentors, teachers, friends, and they provided me everything I need. In return, I show my love for them through my acts of kindness, like washing the laundry for my mom, cooking foods for the family, serving them wholeheartedly. Also, though I am a grown-up, I still say the words "I love you" to them and sometimes, this even accompanies a kiss and a hug. I always wanted them to be happy for everything they have given me, including my life. And I believe they deserve to be shown love.
I just wonder... Why do some children feel shy of expressing their love to their parents? Is there something to be ashamed of for being expressive to one's parents?
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13 responses
@fianne (1057)
• United States
2 Mar 10
i am not that very expressive to my parents before. if i have problems, i keep it to myself or i tell it to my friends. i find it corny to tell my parents about it. if they knew about my problems from other people, then i tell them when they confront me, but they will not know it from me. later, i told my dad about something, i never intended it, i just asked something and he replied with what i wanted him to and it's just natural of him... that then on, i started telling my dad, and later my mom. it is nice to share with them really. i just hoped it started earlier so i could have bonded with my dad much more... now that he's gone, i wished he was still here with me so i can share my problems and happiness with him.
@gracie04 (4549)
• Philippines
2 Mar 10
That's good to hear reco.. As for me, i am not that expressive to my parents.. sometimes, i feel shy to say i love you particularly to my dad.. i didn't grow up with my dad.. he's been working abroad since before my older brother was born.. he spent his time working overseas to support our financial needs and i am thankful for that.. however, that's not enough to show his love to his family.. we also need his emotional support... i salute my mom for playing mom and dad to her children.. though there are times that i don't approve of her actions. sometimes, i hear her telling not so nice things to other people(neighbors) which isn't good at all.. i don't understand why she needs to do that.. bu in spite of that, i still respect and love her.. i am hoping that she'll change soon..
@quixotecybercafe (130)
• India
2 Mar 10
hence, i have extremely strong relationship with my parents, it worth to express them, we are practical
@Sophie2010 (144)
• China
2 Mar 10
Yeah,I am clse with my parents and I look them as my dear friends. I like to chat with my parents when I am at home. I love them very much though I am shy and seldom say "I love you" to them.Instead,I show my love through doing something for they,such as send flower to my mother and buy other things for my father. I really enjoy the relationship with my parents.
@RHIAZAH (26)
• Philippines
2 Mar 10
I express may thank and gratitude to may mom by hug her at night and kissing her
And sometimes I give her some of may salary to buy her medicine
And buying some fruits and food that she really like
Really love may mother because she's the only one that guide me all the way till I graduated in college and have work
I'm a guy and I not shy by say that I was a mother's boy when I was still a child
I love her so much that why I am not shame of her
although she gone, I really miss her a lot. but still I'm very Thankful for the love and support the she gave me
I will not be here in may situation or position not for her
Love your parents wail there still there, express your gratitude and Thankful for them for the support that they give to you.
Its really hard without your parents on your side,
when theirs traits and problem they not their to help you and comfort you
Take/spend all time for your parents wail their still on your side
@mandeep_chahal (172)
• India
2 Mar 10
i was not so much expressive to my parents....but....now m trying....to be so.....
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
2 Mar 10
im not that expressive to my father but i am expressive to my mother, maybe because i am more close to her as shes always with me most of the time specially at home. normally i will hug and kiss her and if she cook our favorite food even if its just a simple food i will always tell her its delicious and i want her to cook more next time. i also say i love you to her. then one time when i say i love you to my father he actually cried coz none of his children say i love you to him but only me.
@ElsaElsa (323)
• United States
1 Mar 10
I guess I grew up in an environment where we showed our love with our actions rather than with words. So it kind of feels awkward to say the words I love you to them but never does it feel awkward to show my love to them. I dont' think I'm shy to say it, it just doesn't feel natural to say it. you know what i mean?
@melloncollie (661)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
For me, being able to say "i love you" is not really a sign of being expressive. I am comfortable saying these to my parents. But still I know in myself that I am nowhere near expressive. We were just raised not to feel shy saying the two I's. "I love you" and "I'm sorry." It was important for my parents to instill in us those virtues. Learn to say sorry if you hurt someone. Even if you're not at fault,as long as you hurt someone. Learn to say i love you. There's nothing wrong with the phrase. It won't make us less human. It cannot be used to measure us.
I'm not expressive. There are million things I have in my heart but cannot show or tell them. Probably I can just call myself grounded.
@joebrpt84 (85)
• Malaysia
2 Mar 10
i dont show my feeling very much to my parents and that is a bad thing i know it but i just cant find a way to express myself... i dont know why... help me.. someone.. i love my parents but i dont know how to express it
@vijay_singh (21)
• India
2 Mar 10
I love my parents.
Do you show them how much you love them? How do you express your love for them. I am realy close to my parents. I grew up with them as my mentorrs, teachers, friends, and they provided me everything I need. I can't live without my parents.